She brought them together. Two halves of a whole
But in some ways, she’s a reason for deep rooted insecurity. Raman and Ishita’s love for Ruhi brings them closer together. From enemies, to sparring partners, to friends and finally, being in love. She’s the thread that holds them, but she’s also the reason they unravel.
A question constantly in their minds, would this person love me if Ruhi wasn’t a part of us?
Raman and Ishita find a part of themselves with each other that was missing before. Raman finds someone that challenges him, on every footing. Doesn’t back down. For him, Ishita finds her way into a crack in his worldly facade through how good she is, how incredibly devoted and whole heartedly committed she is to his loved ones. She becomes his strength. She shoulders his burdens with him. She asks for nothing but loves him beyond measure.
BUT,
Would her love even be possible without Ruhi? That’s a question Raman wrestles with. Does Ishita love Ruhi’s dad, or does Ishita love Raman.
To viewers it’s clear. Ruhi was a reason they broke down each other’s walls to find solace with each other. She’s not the reason for their relationship after a certain point.
But I believe the volatility in Raman stems because he loves Ishita like a mad man as the story develops and every time they argue the insecurities from their past and this ‘sirf Ruhi ke liye’ flares back up.
It’s WHY Raman took ages to confess. It’s like holding onto his last cards before revealing himself completely to her. She knows he loves her. He knows he loves her. It’s been months, but saying it, actually saying it leaves him no cards left to hide away.
Ishita has it worse. It’s not just Ruhi, but the ghost of Shagun and Raman’s past that plays a heavy hand in her insecurities. She’s crippled. I think people underestimate how broken she is because Raman in comparison is so raw with his emotions.
For her, she gets Shagun rubbed in her face as the one that got away for Raman. The ‘sirf Ruhi ke liye’ then becomes the dormant question, what if Ruhi never chose her? Would Raman still be living in Shagun’s memories? Is she merely a consolation prize?
As viewers we know Shagun as a love interest dies long before the show begins for Raman. She’s just the cause of anger, frustration and sheer heart break. But to Ishita, she’s the one Raman CHOSE in his past life.
What made them fall?
Ishita saw the real Raman.
Father, son, brother, son in law, brother in law. A man that lives for his family. A man willing to go to any lengths for the people he loves.
And Raman fell for the woman that asked ‘what can I do to ease the pain’ at every turn as they started to come together finally, as a unit for Ruhi. Their passionate personalities collided in the best way, whether they clashed in heated arguments or just when sparring, because hell, it’s the best time they have, the moments their trying to one up each other.
‘baar baar tumhe apni life Mein uhljaane ka apna hi maza hai, jitna tum ulhajti ho, uthni meri mohabbat bharti chali jaati hai’
That for me is Raman’s love for Ishita. Something Shagun could never be. That’s why she could never replace Ishita when Ishita leaves Raman’s side in the story. No one can ever be to Raman what Ishita is.
. Two broken souls healed each other. But scars can be ripped open. I think, sometimes when Raman feels like he’s not good enough, the ‘sirf Ruhi ke liye’ question mark flares up. And when Ishita is faced by Raman’s past, it flares up for her too.
These two knuckleheads are so complex, broken, bruised, battered, that when they fell in love and did so very madly, it could never be an easy road after. Emotionally stunted, what pulls at my heartstrings the most, is that Raman and Ishita, even when they love each other so much, can’t always express it.
well a certain someone did say say the course of true love never did run smooth!
After you left, I.don't know how many times I.commented here about you, if anyone knows the reason.why you left....Anyway you came back, my heart is nothing short of doing a 
when I saw you replying that you are the very same Zoyamalik
, but my limbs didn't cooperate
. I was critically ill, and I didnt get time even to read and reply to your posts......Anyway, you came back with your writings❤❤❤...what more can I ask for this decade😭😭😭😭😭. Thank you for coming back😭😭😭😭
for each other, they might have analysed their feelings bringing in the very 'Sirf Ruhi ke liye' question. Do I love Ishita beyond Ruhi and do I love Raman beyond Ruhi.....later like you said, it turned to Does Ishita love me if not for Ruhi and Do Raman love me if not for Ruhi....and later it turned to 'I want you for the rest of all my lives'......without 'Sirf Ruhi ke liye clause'. Those were Raman's words😊
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