Hey Guys! First of all, I have been to this forum but I do not actively post. After watching the episode I needed to discuss it with someone so that is why I am posting here, please don't get mad at me!
The separation was painful and as fans of the show and characters we are upset. But after "mein ne thandai demag mein shochliya" I thought about the situation. Right now we are torn between the fact that Abir is hurting Mishti and that he is hurting himself. The crux of the problem we think, is Meenu (not wrong btw). And fans are scrambling to see which side is correct, but in reality, both sides are.
We all understand Abir's POV and perspective he is basically sacrificing his love for the sake of his brother, and we diverge here as, some people are upset with Abir knowing that Mishbir is going to separate, while others are upset at Abir that he could have fought back. BOTH SIDES ARE RIGHT! But to understand why they chose this decision, we have to think in terms of Abir. Come one, imagine with me, throw the tomatoes at me after the post, Pakka! Abir for the entirty of his life grew up believing the idea that his dad will come and due to that is not that close to his mother, "The heart longs for something it does not have." When his father came into the picture, he realizes that his father a terrible man, and that man is immediately taken away. So he is put in a werid situation, it is not that he hated his mother (he never did), but he now has to accept that she was correct. Because of this, he feels the guilty (he shouldn't and even Abir realizes this with his argument with his mother) for abandoning them. Meenu has put in a pickle, basically he needs to choose the love and respect of his lover or his brother. And he chooses Kunal.
I know (waits for tomatoes again), it isn't the ideal situation and many of y'all will tell me. But if you were in his shoes what would you do? (I don't mean this sarcastically I genuinely want to know!) He has never trusted his mother since childhood, and he also has seen what she can do when she wants something i.e, how she used Mishti, Kunal, and Kuhu during KuKu track. He basically could see it play out, and the end result is that his brother is broken. I am an older sister with a considerable age gap of 7 years, I can yell and be furious with my sister but even if my parents hurt her for something that is not her fault I can go against my own family for her. If Meenu does tell Kunal, he will break. Yes, Yes, people will tell me that he has a right to know- and yes he does! But not in the way it would have been revealed. Meenu would have been angry and her emotions would have gotten the better of her, even if it is only his family that find out. It is basically like telling a kid that they are adopted, or the way Kuhu was told about her. It needs to be eased into, NO ONE deserves that type of humiliation.
So Abir thought he would protect his brother from all of that, which is not correct but he really (in my opinion) did not have another option. And even if he did not separate with Mishti, he knows, as we do, that Mishti will blame herself for whatever happens (we have seen it). Even if she doesn't blame herself, his family will and destroy her in their anger. So thinking he is doing the right thing he did what he did. Does Mishti have the right to be mad at him? Hell yes! And she should make her feelings clear. However Abir knows that Mishti will be broken and hurt but she has her family with her to help her. But if Kunal breaks he will have no one, as in the dream mentioned his entire "family", he technically isn't even related to and will not want them near by.
Thank you for reading my essay! (quietly picks up things and waits in fear for incoming tomatoes) Please share y'all's opinions as well! I want someone to talk to! Also sorry if there were any grammar or spelling errors!
Aishu
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