I have managed to binge-watch 200 epis in 10 days, and having finally caught up, I want to talk about SO much, but I'll start with the Hanuman-Babita scene from today's epi....😆
Firstly, the writing in this show is just brilliant....they deserve a huge round of applause for exploring SO many human emotions through the various characters in this show👏.....beyond the writing, everyone from the acting to the directing team also deserves a huge round of applause for bringing this world to life so beautifully! The amount of emotions this show has managed to evoke in me is somewhat hard to quantify right now.
Coming back to the current point in the story.....again, I'm just amazed at the route this show has had the courage to take in a wedding track.....what is the standard wedding track on TV these days? Sappy romance mixed in with garish high voltage drama from random vamps or villains.....but then comes a show like this.....which actually dares to look INSIDE....inside the human psyche in so many shades.....a show which dares to build a story by looking inwards rather than externalizing everything....and when you look inwards, you realize there are SO many rich shades of human emotions to explore that sadly not many manage to delve into these days.....but this show has....and thank god for that.
Here we have a Babita who's been through so much in her life.....if she was a cliched soap character, she would be a dukhiyaari martyr types who quietly bore everything in life without it leaving any impact on her psyche, still managing to be some paragon of virtue who handles everything perfectly......instead, this show has shown a realistic depiction of what a woman would be like after having so many scars left on her psyche in the course of her life.....a woman who would have phases where she would be difficult to deal with.....a woman who would be capable of causing hurt to her loved ones as she grapples with her own hurt.....a woman grappling with her own self-worth even now despite having managed to conquer so many challenges.
It is one thing to say that many mysteries lie within a woman....it's another thing to actually explore them....and this show is doing that....through Babita, through Hanuman, through Mini and how they all travel this path together.....as Hanuman beautifully described in yesterday's scene.....this is an amrit manthan for Babita.....she may have always had some basic personality traits, and some she has acquired....some are triggers....but all of these form her together....she is not expected to be perfect in order to "deserve" love....she is to be loved for who she is...at her best, and at her worst.....and those who love her will stand by her even as she goes through her darker phases, her lowest point.....because the waters have been still for far too long....they need to be churned for the venom to rise and be exorcised before one can get to the amrit/nectar within.
I loved the little follow up conversation about Lovely between Hanuman-Babita today.....bit by bit, Babita is opening up and sharing her thoughts.....Hanuman never stops patiently waiting for these moments....gently asking her, giving her time to work her way up to saying what's in her heart....no matter the moments when he himself loses his temper and storms off.....for those moments humanize him.....I just LOVE that there are NO saints in this show.....Hanuman is capable of both immense wisdom, love and patience....and at the same time anger, temper, ego, darkness as well.....rarely does a show explore two imperfect human beings building a world together so nicely.
Today, Babita finally shared a bit of what she's kept inside herself all these years....the back and forth in her thoughts said so much.....she is bitter about all the years of taunts from Lovely even though she empathized with some of Lovely's issues as well, lacked the courage to ever stand up for herself, carried guilt if she ever felt good about someone else telling Lovely off.....my fav. part of this conversation was Babita constantly letting it slip that she's not as good as Hanuman seems to think she is.....this said so much about Babita's psyche....she's carried the weight of being a good bahu with her all her life.....it's burdened her and created a conflict inside her because she felt guilty for having any thoughts that weren't pious or perfect as everyone appears to think her to be.....she hasn't known how to grapple with that emotion and it's added to the churning inside her.
Hanuman tackled it all so nicely as usual....gently teasing her that now he knows where Mini gets all her anger from....to which she again guilt trips saying she told him she's not as good as he thinks she is.....to which he oh so sweetly asks her, "Aap se kis ne keh diya ki gussa karne waale log achhe nahin hote?"😆.....The way he fascinatedly expresses his thoughts as he discovers each new layer to her.....he isn't put off by the fact that she isn't simple si, sweet si as he initially thought.....instead, there is so much more inside her that he is intrigued to discover.....Babita's self-worth has taken such a beating, she can't fathom anyone liking her for who she is.....but as Hanuman told her so earnestly today....he likes her for who she is.....not for how good or bad she is......Babita will have to first of all look inwards and understand that she does not need to apologize for every thought or emotion she feels....that she isn't expected to be a paragon of virtue.....that there are already two people in her life who love her for who she is and she is more than worthy of that love.
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