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SiddJ

@SiddJ

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Posted: 5 years ago

Mauli needs to understand child has got half baked information from what they were all speaking.

First calm her down, show her that , she is loved.

Explain to her what happened to her parents is not her fault.

Tell misthi she does not have to be friends with her father or step sister, if she does not want to.

Then speak to Kunal about the fact if he wants to be involved in her life, then slowly introduce her to the idea.

What's with both ishaan n mauli running to kunal to discuss.. as first step.. first help the child and give her the emotional support.

Some how Mauli is a very confused parent... where as kunal handles pari so well..

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Orchid

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Posted: 5 years ago

Mishti already has immense emotional support. Duniya mei only Kunal jazzbati nahi hai, everyone has emotional connect with Mishti.

The thing is, Mishti knows the last truth that he didn't want her. She is not enough old to learn first truth!!

Now Mauli cant tell her whole truth at this age.

How a mother can tell her kid that your father slept with me 3 months before with love and he fell for another woman, left her, divorced her, in just 90 days? Is it humanly possible to tell a kid that her father was adulterer ?

What truth you want Mauli to tell her 6 years old daughter? What honesty? What maturity? Maturity is to keep Mishti away so that she grows with less bitterness.

The more Mishti will see Kunal, the more she will feel rejection, the more she will become bitter.

Only way to stop the bitterness is to make her forget all this with love. Mauli can do that!!

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Posted: 5 years ago

Mishti calm down she was happy self the next day but they did not show the entire story of how she was calmed down.
But I agree she needs to be told the truth and mauli has to support her emotions unconditionally. Mauli s nataunki with pari and mishti aise bolte what is this what is that is not the right attitude.
If I would have been mauli I would have told her that some events happened between me and your papa and we got separated even I would have said your papa loved pari s mom. But when he came to know you will come to this world he came back. But he was not happy because he loved pari s mom more than me so I let him go he never got to know you were born. It is not that he hates you or did not want you but sometimes these things happen. You are a precious child who is mama s favorite and I promise you will have both mama n papa s love from me I will never let you miss the love of a father your popsi and I will make everything possible for you to make happy. Anger hatred will make you sad so think of the good things you have in life.
And there is nothing wrong if he does not want to meet kunal and pari a child is also an individual it is her choice too. But it should not effect her mentally.
Kunal s handling of pari cannot be compared because pari does not know mishti is half sister we have not seen her reactions on it and how kunal will handle it. Pari is also a adamant kid she does not take. Papa s permission in all things which kid will decide on her own to go to meet friends mom at the age of five. Her big talks show kunal has given her a free hand which needs to be controlled may be kunal is soft because she does not have a mother.
The reaction of mishti is common in case of adopted kids why my own parents leave me. But they are also told the unpleasant truth that may be some reason even sometimes they go to meet their bio parents and do not get the connect they come back to their adapters happily. My only point is kids has to be told the truth how bad it is and then give them the support to face it.

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SiddJ

@SiddJ

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Posted: 5 years ago

Originally posted by: _OrChiD_
Mishti already has immense emotional support. Duniya mei only Kunal jazzbati nahi hai, everyone has emotional connect with Mishti.

The thing is, Mishti knows the last truth that he didn't want her. She is not enough old to learn first truth!!

Now Mauli cant tell her whole truth at this age.

How a mother can tell her kid that your father slept with me 3 months before with love and he fell for another woman, left her, divorced her, in just 90 days? Is it humanly possible to tell a kid that her father was adulterer ?

What truth you want Mauli to tell her 6 years old daughter? What honesty? What maturity? Maturity is to keep Mishti away so that she grows with less bitterness.

The more Mishti will see Kunal, the more she will feel rejection, the more she will become bitter.

Only way to stop the bitterness is to make her forget all this with love. Mauli can do that!!

Maturity as child doesn't have to know she was rejected..

Mauli should tell her sometimes the things that happen between adults cannot be explained.. and rest of the things are explained by the id020 above

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jhalak7

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Posted: 5 years ago

Originally posted by: Mumoos
Mauli needs to understand child has got half baked information from what they were all speaking.
First calm her down, show her that , she is loved.
Explain to her what happened to her parents is not her fault.
Tell misthi she does not have to be friends with her father or step sister, if she does not want to.
Then speak to Kunal about the fact if he wants to be involved in her life, then slowly introduce her to the idea.
What's with both ishaan n mauli running to kunal to discuss.. as first step.. first help the child and give her the emotional support.

Some how Mauli is a very confused parent... where as kunal handles pari so well..

I completely agree with you .

Mishti is not ready to understand or accept the truth.

The problem is with Mauli now. Her over sugaryness is giving me diabetes. 🤢 In fact Mishti is not wrong to show her anger. That is a healthy way. Usually ppl do that. Call her Naani she will react more aggressively with Kunal. It's Mauli who is acting abnormal. When Mishti demanded a kiss from Mauli for Ishan ...Mauli reacted strangely. What's going on in Mauli's mind? Does she want to marry Kunal and not Ishan? Then say it. If not then kiss. She wears western attires. Goes to party etc...but soch is still 19th century wali. Parents kiss each other in front of kids now. Simple kiss...she didn't ask for french kiss or anything. If Mauli shows that she is with Ishan and Kunal means nothing Mishti will react normally. With that taking lift from Kunal, praising Pari or telling Mishti she needs to act politely with Pari/Kunal she is the one who is demanding too much from her daughter.

Mauli needs to skip her "Mahatma disease". No need to be nice with Kunal. And Kunal needs to understand that. He is a child specialist right? I wonder how did he got his degree? He went straight to engagement venue just after knowing the truth without even thinking that that day was a special day for both Mishti and Mauli. Just 5minutes ago Ishan proposed Mishti. He gave her honor and power to choose her father. And this jerk Kunal ruined that. One big slap is needed for Kunal for only this action. There is a limit of selfishness. 😡

Edited by jhalak7 - 5 years ago

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Anjali

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Posted: 5 years ago

Mauli has to realize that she can't be mother to both Pari & Mishti at this stage. Just because Nandini is dead & requested her to take care for her (which was insensitive & stupid of her), doesn't mean Mauli becomes this great person. No harm in not showering love on Pari & just be a stranger who loves her like any other child rather than a daughter. That's pretty human & understandable too. This woman always has her priorities wrong.

Pari living without mother is not Mauli's fault & headache but Kunal's issue to deal with. It's Kunal who should be worrying about that & Mauli should be the last person he should expect this from for any reason in this world. If he wants more, then his family can shift with him & Mauli can shift with Ishaan. Mauli's level of empathy gets on my nerves. It was Mauli's over-nice behavior that cost her everything she held dear. Doing that once more will cost her Mishti this time. Let Mishti be with Ishaan & there is no need for Kunal to come in front of her again & again. He was willing to live without her had Nandini not asked him to go. He even questioned her arrival in his life. Kunal wasn't happy with Mauli's pregnancy & that truth will never change.

This Mauli isn't realistic. She needs to have a basic level communication with Mishti but truth remains that Kunal didn't love her mother & at this age this is enough for the child to have negative attitude for the other parent & Kunal doesn't come alone, he comes with a lot of things Mishti can't accept. Even grown ups can't bear their step-siblings, we are talking about children here. Besides, Pari herself doesn't know other side of the truth. All she knows is her mom was BFF with Mauli but not that Mishti is her step-sister. Even she can't know this truth.

Mishti can't know the real ugly truth at this age since that would make her more bitter. And Pari should be made to accept by Kunal that she can't play friendship-friendship with Mishti. Just tell her that there are things she won't understand at this age. Pretty sure a child of this age can find new friends in schools. It's not like they really understand best friendship thing at this age. Teach Mishti to behave decently even without liking them at all, ask Pari to not push her.

Mishti suffering is due to Kunal & Pari's suffering is due to nature & her mother's own doing which has strained this relationship. Every step Mauli takes towards Pari will take her away from Mishti.

There is difference between feeling compassion, sympathy & empathy. While compassion & sympathy is fine, empathy definitely not. At this stage Mishti & Pari can't be friends at all. There are enough ugly truths to ruin it.

It is Mauli's attachment to Kunal that is leading to Mishti's anger. And Mauli needs to understand that. If she accepts Kunal, Mishti might grow up hating her too for this. She might not even respect her back. If Mauli has really moved on, then she should stop going back to Kunal every now & then. Just live normally to prove that things are normal with you. Mauli herself is a mess right now. At this point, she is more stupid than anyone else.

Edited by arshi_asya - 5 years ago

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Orchid

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Posted: 5 years ago

Originally posted by: Mumoos

Maturity as child doesn't have to know she was rejected..
Mauli should tell her sometimes the things that happen between adults cannot be explained.. and rest of the things are explained by the id020 above

That would be a lie and Mauli should not lie to her own kid. No kid deserve to grow with lies.

Truth better to be left alone, Mishti will eventually learn her biological father kartoot!!

We shouldn't become like Kunal's mom who started to overlook her son's misdeed, who dared to say he didn't know!!

No, that's not right. He knew but he wanted to prove (read rejection/that's rejection) Mauli wrong.

No, mummy ji, your son is at fault. Accept it or go to your sons home.

Edited by _OrChiD_ - 5 years ago

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Anjali

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Posted: 5 years ago

Originally posted by: _OrChiD_

That would be a lie and Mauli should not lie to her own kid. No kid deserve to grow with lies.

Truth better to be left alone, Mishti will eventually learn her biological father kartoot!!

We shouldn't become like Kunal's mom who started to overlook her son's misdeed, who dared to say he didn't know!!

No, that's not right. He knew but he wanted (read rejection/that's rejection) to prove Mauli wrong.

No, mummy ji, your son is at fault. Accept it or go to your sons home.

Kunal questioned the timing of pregnancy & even accused her of faking it. Had it not been for Nandini's great sacrifice, he would have not bothered to come back for doing that ehsaan. And the moment he got chance, he went away. It doesn't matter he knew or not. He was told the truth & he chose to question it & not believe it. It is insulting for any mother to have to prove that she is pregnant in this era just to keep a husband like Kunal with her.

Radhikaji have gotten blind in her son's love & empathy for her grand-daughter. If they feel so much for Pari, then shift with her to give her company & Mauli-Ishaan-Mishti can live together. Why expect anything from Mauli & why does Mauli have to be this great person to worry about every single thing. It's not wrong to be self-centered at times if being otherwise can do more harm than good.

Mauli herself allows everyone to come & walk over her. She herself is responsible for this damsel she is in right now. Blaming Kunal at this point is plain ignorance. Look at that guy, he regrets nothing & here you are, still living in past & not able to move on. More than damage Kunal did, it proves your own weak-willed behavior to move on from him & let go of him from your life. She still pins on him for some reason.

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1148967

Posted: 5 years ago

Originally posted by: _OrChiD_

That would be a lie and Mauli should not lie to her own kid. No kid deserve to grow with lies.

Truth better to be left alone, Mishti will eventually learn her biological father kartoot!!

We shouldn't become like Kunal's mom who started to overlook her son's misdeed, who dared to say he didn't know!!

No, that's not right. He knew but he wanted to prove (read rejection/that's rejection) Mauli wrong.

No, mummy ji, your son is at fault. Accept it or go to your sons home.

I agree truth is truth we think children are not matured but they are matured they understand things Nd it hurts them more when they see adults are notsaying truth. My friend adopted a 1 year kid he was raised by her and unfortunately she dies when he was five. We were very scared but the kid accepted his mama is with god and is happy. Moreover he has always been told that he is gifted by a fairy to his mom. And he is not born from mothers tummy. Now he is 8 and questions where is my tummy mummy why I do not have any mother. The father told him he does not know where his tummy mummy is but the day he knows he will take him to her and his other mummy is so good that she lives with god. But he has so many people to love him. And he had his dad above all who will always be there. So truth has to be told and kids will face it. You have to keep on assuring them with your actsEdited by IDO20 - 5 years ago

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Ragiballs

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Posted: 5 years ago

Mauli is getting too much. Her initial reaction to nandini's death was understandable but now her closeness with pari is looking fake. It is Mishti who needs love and support not pari. I am glad at least ishaan understands that Mishti needs time to calm down and suggested to keep pari and Mishti away Or else she would continued her nautanki with pari and Kunal which will hurt Mishti more and more. She should now show that Mishti has people who love her unconditionally and secure.If possible she should change the school also.

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