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1Good post but I don't agree with the part on waseem. He knew that zoya was not ready for love and marriage as she told him. So why did he insist with arshad because he knew that this situation was going to happen. Remember he even said to his wife for now it's friendship but it can change later.
From the beginning Waseem is the only one who always knew the nature of their relationship.@lecter -- parents are just humans like us. so they can also assume or believe they are making the right choices or make mistakes. as children, we simply can't sit back and go with the flow. part of growing up is taking responsibility for your actions.so rather than waseem, for me, the responsibility is on zoya. waseem was never that terrorist father who said he will kill himself or die he is dishonoured or none of that emotional blackmail nonsense that happens in other dramas. it is not like he locked her up or forced her to make this choice. it was always her call. he asked if she would like to get married to arshad and she said yes. she herself approached arshad and convinced him to go ahead with the marriage. at no point, did she open her mouth and say "abu, I love aditya. I can't do this."was waseem blind? sure. did he make a mistake in choosing to believe what he wanted to believe? sure. while he may have strongly insisted, he didn't force zoya to marry arshad. would things have been different if zoya had talked to waseeem and roshana? if she had been honest about her feelings? ultimately, a family breaks or thrives depending on how we communicate no?
@mango the problem is that she even did not realize her love for aditya. Honestly your child tells you that she is not ready for love and marriage why not ask the reason? Although here it's obvious: the man she loved, for whom she gave up everything was cheating her. Instead he was just taunting her about her mistake, arshad is perfect and what not and the fact that he knew better. Honestly a person like that doesn't make me want to communicate or confide in her.
And roshna says she's with her daughter but what has she done so far? Always followibg her husband. I am waiting to see...you have got a point -- communication does occur two ways and so waseem and roshana could have also communicated better or tried to find out why zoya was unhappy. they just chose to ignore their eyes. but at the end of the day, it is zoya's life and so, she really needed to speak up and say more that she wasn't ready. sometimes, we can't expect others to fight for ourselves. we need to get up and do it too.
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