Perfect Pati - Page 83

I agree. It wasn't necessary to make Pushkar irredeemable. I don't get why creatives of ITV are so fascinated with darkness when they can't handle it properly. They have mixed two very difficult plots altogether & lost their way.

If they had focused on the prime question - whether an ideal son can become an ideal husband, they could have shown that due to his past, Pushkar had some preconceived ideas about women which would disturb his marital life & how Vidhi & he can solve these problems.

If they had focused on the mental issue of a man who had developed Borderline Personality Disorder & showed the struggle of his wife & family members to cope with him & him getting treated, that could spread awareness among people.

But they had mixed these two plots & ultimately made Pushar pitch black.

I believe relationships, specially that of a husband & wife require great sacrifices. Especially when your closed ones are mentally ill, it takes huge amount of determination & struggle to help them through it. But at the same time, such hardship can also take its toll on the relationship & spouses might get away.

If they had focused on Vidhita confiding in the family members & Pushkar starting his treatment, his problems during the course of treatment, Vidhita's struggle to keep it together that would make a great story.

But they focused on the power of a PATNI who has the power to reform a RAVAAN & got her brutally tortured. And now they have introduced a parallel ML. It wasn't necessary.

Rajyashri''s characterization is the weakest of them all. Even I don't know what they are trying to prove. Vidhi had repeatedly told her about Pushkar but she was blind. Then Vidhi got killed & now when she has returned suddenly more than VidhEer, she has become more concerned about punishing Pushkar. This doesn't really make her a progressive MIL. She was blind in her husband's love who failed to notice her boy's sufferings & then she became blind in her son's love who couldn't understand her DIL's concern. Shooting Pushkar doesn't absolve her from being ignorant. But yes, it would earn her some points as a human being who would finally do something right.

Originally posted by: anonee

Kabeer - a man who sat too long on the emotional fence, toyed with Pari's emotions, and robbed her of life's most precious resource: time!!

Is Kabeer any different from Pushkar?  

There are lots of ways men mistreat women.  The more obvious kinds like psychological or physical abuse (in other words, like Pushkar) - get a fair bit of attention - in fact, the entire serial was devoted to it - and rightly so!

But there is another kind of mistreatment in relationships everywhere that goes less recognized: men who sit too long on the emotional fence in a relationship, wasting their partner's time before heading for the door.  They rob their partner of life's most precious resource: time.  

Just to make myself clear - I am not talking about relationships that grow apart.  I am talking about relationships where men have been on the fence for some time, finally calling it off later.  Men, just like Kabeer, keeping Pari in his life - until he decides what he wants!  In the serial - they are casting him a good guy - his mistreatment of Pari is shown as acceptable.

Kabeer thinks he can toss Pari's heart without paying for the damage.  Even though it is Pari who is getting the blunt end of the stick, it is Vidhita who is worse off, because Kabeer has not realized that women are not playthings!!