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Yeh Hai Mohabbatein. It began with the mohabbat between a 6 year old child who craved love and a woman who craved to love a child. The show, all about second chance. However it was Ishita and the relationship she shared with the small daughter of her neighbour that really began this story. We saw how a barren woman who was deemed a baanj numerous times was able to become a mother to the child she never gave birth to. How a step mother's love stood out over everything and everyone. How a pure love between a woman who could never have a child and a child who never had a mother fulfilled two people with contentment.
I loved this show for the very reason. Ishita-Raman, KP-DT are the reason people many people watched this show, but there were many people who loved the bond between Ishita and Ruhi. How a woman could become a mother with her love, how a child could give birth to a mother, how I love mattered over everything else. The message that this show had given so beautiful and simple.
And then I got to see today's episode. I know this show isn't what it was and I honestly after the WU was going into the episode only to watch for Raman's feelings in the beginning thinking I would be able to understand him, but it was more than what I thought. It was a great episode for the first few minutes when it focused on Raman and Ishita thanks to KP and DT. But what followed was just unbelievable...
Ishima? Or should I say just Ishita?
She gave her heart to a young girl, mothered her and became the Ishima that was loved by all even the boy who once hated her. She gave them all her everything, she even gave up the baby she had yearned to have in her womb within a split second to save the children that truly made her a mother in its truest sense. She loved them more than the baby that was her dream, she loved them so much that they were the only ones who had the power to let her believe that she was a mother.
Ishita Amma? Or once again just Ishita?
She gave 7 long years of her life to a young teenager. She had lost everything, she had broken apart, she had no wish to live as she believed she was a manhoos person who had taken the life of the very child who had put another life into her, gotten her a second chance and returned happiness into her life. Yet she left it all behind, she tried to smile for this teenager as she believed that she needed a mother. She loved the young girl as if she was her own. She treated her no different than anyone else, and gave her the same love she gave her own children.
Today more than anyone, my heart went out to Ishita, Ruhi and Adi's Ishima, Aliya's Amma. Ishima gave up her everything to the extent of her own child, for these two children while Aliya's Amma continued to live when she had no wish for the sake of the young girl who needed a motherly figure in her life. Ishima-Adi-Ruhi and Ishita Amma-Aliya are define the original message of Yeh Hai Mohabbatein, the latter less than the first, but both are very similar. They both convey the message of the real YHM; that blood relations don't matter.
But today CVs ruined that very message, pretty much murdering it with their own writing as they showed the police station scene. Yes it was to show Raman angry and Ishita in a dilemma on how to choose between to children. However to me, it was the heart wrenching to watch that scene more than the precap to be honest. This woman had given her life to these children. The two year she spent with Adi were dedicated to him and Ruhi while Aliya was her focus for the past seven years. And it took one moment for both the fathers of these children to question her love.
I will make sure my daughter's culprit gets punished. He announced.
I will make sure my son is released. He replied back.
Where is her place? Why wasn't it our son or our daughter? Was Ishima's love not enough to make Adi her son? Was Ishita Amma's love not enough to make Aliya her daughter? Ishita, who loved and will always continue to love children more than herself, was shown the harsh reality, that she didn't share a relationship of blood with these children. She never carried these children, didn't give birth to them, and will always remain the woman who raised them. She tried to fight back and screamed that they are her children, but in vain. No one listened because she wasn't the biological mother. No one would question her love, no one would say a word to her had she given birth to these child.
YHM, the show that said love is above blood relations in one episode completely destroyed the beautiful "nayi soch" that it once portrayed. Today it was proven that no matter what a step mother or a guardian does, she will never be the real parent. She will never be treated like a biological mother or father. She will be questioned, she will need to prove her love, giving her life may never be enough to show that she loves the child as she would love her own child. Maybe a step mother will never become a mother...
Thank you YHM for this lovely message...and thank you for showing that no matter what people do, there are some truths that come up during the worst of times...that sometimes unconditional mohabbat isn't enough...
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