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Posted: 9 years ago
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Anandi brought her sick father and she cared for him for many days along with Shiv.
I remember how Khajan wanted to showoff to dadisa by resorting to illegal means for a brief period.

Nandini went to her biological mother and it was Mangala who made lies about her mother which resulted in Nandini becoming hateful towards her. Mangala dug her own grave.

It was anandi's goodness or weakness that made Mangala play with Nandini.

Mangala is the worst possible person and snatcher and compared to her other snatchers look mildly bad. Other snatchers did not pour poison into ears.

Anandi and Nandini were forced into that situation by Mangala.

If there is one character who I think is an extreme example of negativity, its Mangala. Her cunning smile, her shifty eyes.

One thing is for sure. Mangala's negativity has grown many branches because of the weakness or goodness of anandi. Thats what rankled me most about anandi. I wanted to see both of them dead for making Nandini's life neither here nor there.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: russhmeSS

Not really interested in getting into discussions on the same old topics which have been discussed over years in the forum, but if Anandi refused to return to her parents after her balak var abandoned her, it was because the society which she lived in believed that a girl returning to her parents after her husband leaves her is a shameful thing for the girl and her parents. The belief was forced onto her by her own parents at one point of time and she was not able to oppose it as she didn't have enough exposure in life.

The same selfish and mean Anandi, after she had the freedom to take decision about the fate of her parents while she was in her second sasural, made sure that Khajan is not left alone when he needed support. Alas, Bhago was not alive by that time..



No Rushmee, there is a reason for this discussion of the same old topic.

Actually we love Anandi a lot.

We want to see every details of her life.

How much time she is devoting to think about Bhago, How much time for Khajan. How much time she is missing Shiv, how much time she cried for Nandini. How much time is being spent to search Nandini,How much time for DS. Those are measuring criteria for her

But CVs are actually too mean, instead of showing Anandi, in her name, they are selling the brand name Anandi and showing nonsense of other characters.
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Posted: 9 years ago
#73
DS sent Anandi to work for her parents>? that too in Mahavir Singh's place?😆
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: hisusmita

DS sent Anandi to work for her parents>? that too in Mahavir Singh's place?😆


Yes, DS ne Anandi ko ghar se nikal diya tha, sent away to her parents. She started doing work after bhago also became ill (khajan was disabled at that time due to injury to his leg). They were at Mahavir Singh's place not because DS sent there or because Anandi herself went there to help her parents but because her parents moved there after losing their land (because Khajan had to mortgage it for Anandi's gauna - don't remember clearly the reason of mortgage though)
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Posted: 9 years ago
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She was so scared to approach Mahavir Singh because Dsa didn't want anything to do with that man but she wanted to help her parents too. She was shown telling Suguna how much she wants to help her parents but same time she was scared that Dsa will kick her out and if Dsa kicks her out her mother will be angry with her for getting thrown out and afraid that her mother would turn away from too.
With all these fears as a little girl she still tried to help her parents even if that meant making Dsa angry.

A person like this will chose rich Dsa over her poor parents?A person like this pushes her parents out of her life?

If seeing is believing then what should be said about J who doesn't mention his parents name or sister's name? Why didn't Bhairon and Sumi turn up for Dsa's funeral?Does it mean they don't care about Dsa?
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: russhmeSS

Not really interested in getting into discussions on the same old topics which have been discussed over years in the forum, but if Anandi refused to return to her parents after her balak var abandoned her, it was because the society which she lived in believed that a girl returning to her parents after her husband leaves her is a shameful thing for the girl and her parents. The belief was forced onto her by her own parents at one point of time and she was not able to oppose it as she didn't have enough exposure in life.

The same selfish and mean Anandi, after she had the freedom to take decision about the fate of her parents while she was in her second sasural, made sure that Khajan is not left alone when he needed support. Alas, Bhago was not alive by that time..

Bang on in the first paragraph.
Anandi from child hood has been conditioned to believe that Sasural is everything by her own mother.time and again her mother drilled it into her head by her mother then later on by Dsa.
Besides this she has seen how child brides abandoned by their Balak Vars become a burden to their parents and become object of pity or ridicule. She has seen how parents of those brides used to be pained as well as burdened by these abandoned child brides.So she took the best possible option available. Staying with Singhs would be good for herself her parents as well as Singhs who were already hurting from the behaviour of their son and disowned him.

What she had done with her life didn't require huge amounts of money either because her education didn't cost much.Had she been with her parents also she would have gotten the same education.
She probably would have joined Sandhya teacher and busied herself with helping Bilaria people may be she would have become sarpanch of Bilaria and married Shiv raj Shekhar IAS the collector of Bilaria instead.

They had an option to use Bhago and Sandhya teacher instead of Singhs and Dsa they chose Dsa probably because they wanted to redeem Dsa's character.
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Posted: 9 years ago
#77
We have already questioned Bhairon, Sumitra, Sugna, Gehna and the gangs absence on Dsa and Basant's funeral.

We have also questioned Shekhars absence from Anandi's life and vice versa.

It's not just Anandi who is being questioned. But can't help it if some members jump in at the first opportunity to defend Anandi exclusively, ruling out the actual esence of dicussion and go to the extent of digging the oldest possible past to defend her.

Selective reading can't be helped.
Edited by Missesha - 9 years ago
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

Let us see who will light up anandi's pyre? Nandini or Shivam or both?

I really hope that they skip showing Anandi's funeral.
They can show her entire life in montages instead or may be they can show like they showed in the film Titanic where Kate was shown entering the ship Titanic where all the other passengers who lost their life that day were waiting for her.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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For Bhairon Sumi and other's absence the characters were not criticized. CVs were criticized and understood their problems.

Jagya was not bashed for not remembering Suguna or Sumi Bhairon

Sumi Bhairon was not bashed for not attending the funeral of their Masa

Suguna was not bashed for forgetting everyone

But surprisingly Anandi was bashed for the absence of the actors/actress
when it is no where possible that she can be like that for her parents,

have hardly seen posts, may be if she went there how will society take the things, may be that is the reason but just plain judgement, She is mean , selfish
where it was shown that she is enjoying the luxury and telling to herself that why should I go there and live in poverty?
Those are assumptions.


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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: hisusmita


For Bhairon Sumi and other's absence the characters were not criticized. CVs were criticized and understood their problems.

Jagya was not bashed for not remembering Suguna or Sumi Bhairon

Sumi Bhairon was not bashed for not attending the funeral of their Masa

Suguna was not bashed for forgetting everyone

But surprisingly Anandi was bashed for the absence of the actors/actress
when it is no where possible that she can be like that for her parents,

have hardly seen posts, may be if she went there how will society take the things, may be that is the reason but just plain judgement, She is mean , selfish
where it was shown that she is enjoying the luxury and telling to herself that why should I go there and live in poverty?
Those are assumptions.


The other characters were not heavily criticised, because no one actually heavily defended them for their flaws either.

For example: if someone writes "why is Bhairon missing?", everybody will agree that Bhairon missing at Basant / Dsa's funeral is an inappropriate thing. There is no need for debate or defence because everyone agrees instantly

The moment we wrote; "why CVs left Jagya out from lighting funeral pyre, and why couldn't they show J and A both doing Mukhagni, when Dsa loved them both equally?" what we got in response is:

- How is Anandi Dsa's beti / haveli ki beti
- How Mangala got more screen space while exposing Akheraj
- How Dsa never tried to take Bhago's place in Anandi's life,
- How Anandi is not trying to take Jagya's place, but at the same time Anandi is haveli ka beta.
- How if M can claim rights on N, then why can't A be Dsa's beti... etc etc etc...

when actually none of the above reasons answer the actual question. But people somehow have to emphasise that Anandi is whole and sole for DSa, while existence of others do not matter.

When such kind of responses are received counter arguments are bound to happen, and this leads to the endless circle of objections and defence.


Edited by Missesha - 9 years ago

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