love and respect for DT..she has been very open and frank in this interview and I am sure very helpful for people who had faced similar situations..
I see lots of people asking for WU..here is what I remember:
DT talks about her 8-9 year long relationship and her break up..she says she was totally broken and was in an extremely bad place like her oxygen was gone and she was not able to breathe..but she realised that if the other person does not want/need you than what is the point of running behind him or hanging on to him..so she had to move on..she says it was very hard for her but she has come out of it and beautifully she adds..she says I would not blame the person which she does(her words), but still when she thinks about it, she feels she made mistakes too..she says its because we are brought up with fairytales of prince charming which makes us think in a certain way..she says why should we go down to do everything for the guy and make him our centre of the world..like cooking non-veg for him when you are veg even if you are not fond of cooking, sacrificing your sleep so much that you get to sleep 2-3 hours just because your partner asked you to accompany somewhere and you readily agree even if in the same situation if the guy has morning shoot he will not do the same for you..she says its women's fault for they give too much, which the men did not ask and than we are to blame ourselves for giving our all to the relationships..she says she was not even in touch with many people, even her parents she did not had time to talk because she would be so busy but she would make sure to be in touch and keep the guys' family happy because she knew how much it meant to him..she says woman should not go so low in the relationship and gives example of her very close friend who gave up her job for marriage and kid and now after 10years or so of marriage is facing domestic violence..she left the guy but is not getting job now...so she says now I think that we should not just think for the guy, we should think about ourselves too..she says she thinks back of the days when she came back to Mumbai and was so brave and had achieved a lot of things and had participated in so many pagents, reality shows all on her own..that time she did not need anyone so why should she feel she needs anyone now and keep hanging for support..She says we are capable and good on our own..
When the interviewer asks her about future relationship or what she is looking for..she says now she is very open and she wants marriage..she does not want to stay in a relationship for long now..she does not want to go years into it and than think because she says she does not have that much time ..she wants a guy who is truthful even if it means telling her bad things openly than keeping things to himself and then saying things after 8-9 years that hurts you bad ..but she says now she is scared also and does not know if she will be able to trust on few aspects..like what if the guy would be two timing or if he would keep me waiting and later say that we cannot get married..because for guys these years do not matter much and they age with time but for woman its not the same..Than she says she is very clear about one thing that the guy should be above her..in the sense not only financially but mentally also..he should make her a better person and make her grow instead of her guiding him..she says that when we woman are professional we like an upper hand as we are the boss in our field and are respected and than we want the same respect back at home as well and if the guy is even a little low than you, than he will feel it and he will make you feel it as well because men want an upper hand..and when they are not financially above than you or like that..she clarifies that she is not connecting it to her past relationship but is saying in general that if a guy is not financially above than you than he will try to prove himself above in his talks and will try to push you down by his talks or maybe violence will come in the relationship.so to avoid this she thinks that the person involved should be really strong-financially and mentally and than only will he "palko pe uthayega" the girl.she wants the guy to be really understanding..On being asked about someone from the industry or outside , she says outside..no actor for now..for sure..she says even if any handsome actor approaches her now she will be first of all doubtful so no actors..
Edited by Bul3 - 10 years ago
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