About dude and II equation
Or hubby wife thing that she discussed with amma
Why won't husbands listen out
Note: what u will be reading ahead is of high risk and from a person with zero infact -infinity amount of experience in relationships and how they work
My analysis is purely based on what I see at home and have read in SoSy
So no chappals please
I will talk of it as friendship as the equation...I've had friends and I'll deal with it in that context
When we marry a person/get committed we think of them as our own...women being the motherly ones most often consider their partners need to be protected from pain and guided through things when lost...most often that's how it is...I have my cousins I'm very close to and my dad...these men respect their partners a whole lot and the opinion matters... But they sometimes overlook what the partners have to say...why?
1. In some cases when we advice our partners we are looking at issues through our perspective and men dont think that way..they look at issues with a matematical analysis while assigning pros and con's to each situation and taking the side with most pros so our solutions to issues might vary and maybe that's why they don't take our advice
2.And when in a relationship we think of our partners as our ultimate...so two bodies one soul one mind etc
But its not right...we can influence somebody's decision upto a point after that its for them to decide...they aren't obligated to nod heads to everything we say and we won't like it that way either
So advice goes unheard
And what we think is we are being ignored...that's eavry human's secret I guess..always a little insecurity/inferiority about ourselves...!
3.maybe we aren't reasoning it out right... We fail to see the partners point cos we look at it with inclination to somebody else's side of the war...like II fails to see the reason behind dude's behaviour towards ranjan due to her love for ranjan
(I know its all zero experience speaking...just replace we with II and partners with dude to the analysis... And plz no footware to be used
...just an attempt)