"I say nothing, not one word, from beginning to end, and neither does he. If it were lawful for a woman to hate her husband, I would hate him as a rapist."
- Philippa Gregory
Marriage is considered to be an essential part of most cultures (if not all) and it takes two people to honor those vows and promises. At some point in the growing lives of girls, we've been told that to deny our husband the right to conjugal relationship is almost a sin.
According to the definition of marital relations, it is a relationship between two consenting adults. And yet we find so many cases of marital sexual abuse/rape.
Marital Rape is a non-consensual sex, initiated by the person to whom the victim is married. It is a form of intimate sexual and domestic violence.
By the definition itself, it is a non-consensual. Forcing a partner to take part in a sexual intercourse is not just wrong but humiliating on so many levels. Research shows that it can be more traumatizing, both emotionally and physically, than a rape by a stranger. And of course, it would be. Marital rape, though a legal concept, is too harsh a reality to accept by family members of the victim. It is always harder to accept a wrong done by one's kin and in issues such as this; it's easier to brand it as "wifely duty" and "husband's right".
In some cultures, it is considered sin to deny your husband anything. So apparently, if a wife denies a husband the right to have an intercourse, she's not an ideal wife. So we ask, what is an ideal wife? Someone who takes all the sexual abuse without a word? Never deny your husband? When he says jump, say how high? Is that the definition of an ideal wife?
Shocking as it may be to some, but marital rape is legal in India according to the The Criminal Law (Amendment) Act 2013, as long as the victim is over the age of 15. Similar law applies in Pakistan. In a country as developed and modern as Scotland, marital rape became punishable just over three decades ago in 1982. In some countries, it is not even recognized as a crime but a husband's right to sexual satisfaction.
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