What VOWS of marriage Sandy did not live upto?

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timepass

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Posted: 11 years ago

There are 7 vows in marriage...If I ask you guys, then pour in your honest thoughts on which vows have failed Sandy and which vows Sandy has lived admirably??

FYI, here are the SEVEN vows and their meaning...

http://in.lifestyle.yahoo.com/significance-of-7-vows-in-indian-marriages.html

In my opinion, she has failed partly the FOURTH vow

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shruthiravi

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Posted: 11 years ago

she has faulted at 4th as well as in 7th vow. 7th vow talks about trust among couple. She never trusted Sooraj enough to speak to him about Bhabo and took decision on her own. She also didnt comit herself completely to him.

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timepass

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Posted: 11 years ago

Thanks Shruthi 😊...so Sandy has lived 5 vows and failed 2 vows...no wonder her marriage is not complete yet and hence the re-wedding...Should Sandy tell Suraj the reasons of re-wed then she must spell out the vows she has not lived upto...

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.kat.

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Posted: 11 years ago

Originally posted by: shruthiravi
she has faulted at 4th as well as in 7th vow. 7th vow talks about trust among couple. She never trusted Sooraj enough to speak to him about Bhabo and took decision on her own. She also didnt comit herself completely to him.

Shruthi, yes she not committed herself to him completely.

But spiritually they seem such a united, committed couple.

I wouldn't question her in the trust dept. when suraj is so attached to his mom, anything she says against babho, her demands, her conditions, wld only hurt him. She was acting more to protect him n spare him the pain of choosing between mom n wife. From the beginning she has seen how difficult a situation it is for him when he tries to solve things between babho n sandy. So sandy just does things on her own.

she has been following all the vows whether knowingly or unknowingly becz of her values, good nature n good upbringing. She may not have taken those vows at wedding but she has been a truthful, n good wife to suraj (almost).

So maybe 4th (please hubby,(she thinks keeping babho n family happy, united is keeping hubby happy), or 5th - not being ready for kids ( that will come with time), I think. She may feel that she hasn't taken the vows wholeheartedly, but she has been living n following them well.

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shruthiravi

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Posted: 11 years ago

No Geeth I would have agreed to you if her confession after 2nd MP was as mentioned below

" If my husband knows what his mother did to me , he will be devastated. My MIL is not happy with the dream and she might again do something else to stop him. Today I have been able to save Soorajji from the trauma of his mother's deeds , but tomorrow I may not be able to do so. So for the peace of everyone I have to give up my dream" if this was the confession I agree she was giving up the dream as a wife.

But her confession was like " Bhabo is my mother. she is a goddess. My dream made her do this. I need to listen to my mother and I have to to do the duties of a bahu hence I am sacrificing my dream"

Hence her action was for Bhabo , not for Sooraj. Hence I said 7th vow is partial. If she is doing something she has to do it for Sooraj and her words and actions has to support it. But many times in the name of being a bahu, she just forgets being a wife.

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