My goodness! 20 pages of amazing arguments! I was on the verge of taking a drink in my hand and continue reading but I was so deep in the reading that I couldn't move away from the screen! Seriously, all the posters, this one is for you! 👏
Now I am not that educated or very knowledgeable regarding mental illness nor have I followed the show religiously but I got the gist of things in this topic. Would like to say what I feel like regarding the show atm.
Viraj has OCPD according to the show and he tends to use violence when things don't go his way. I think this has been discussed to death that OCPD does not always spark the violent streak in you, it does in rare cases. Let's say Viraj is one of those rare cases. So, does that justify that Jhanvi should stick to him through all his mood swings because he is her husband? I am thinking, no.
Even if Viraj does agree to get help, will Jhanvi be able to stand being in one room with him without thinking about all the horrible things he did to her? Will she be able to go near him without shaking in the fear that he might go violent on her again? It's so hard for one to forget their horrible experiences, specially the ones given by our loved ones. Forgiveness can come in the equation but to forget it altogether? No way!
Even if Viraj does show remorse, beg, cry, plead for her to come back and she, by some miracle, agrees, will they be able to have a happy married life? If she doesn't bring up any of the past experiences, would he not feel bad whenever he sees her? I am talking about real remorse here, real guilt. Guilt doesn't let you breathe, it's that horrible. This guilt of the past would keep on haunting him, the memories of his torture would forever be her nightmare. Even if does get treated, there is no guarantee that won't ever be angry again. And I am talking about the normal kind of anger that everyone feels from time to time where a few loud words, some curses and a glass of cold water is enough to make the anger go away. Obviously, being a human he would get angry. But seeing an angry vein pop on his forehead, Jhanvi would immediately go back into that horrible phase of her life when the slightest amount of his anger meant nights of physical pain for her.
There were some saying that Jhanvi did wrong by running away. She should've stuck with him through thick and thin and would've gotten him some help as treatment takes years and years. Acha, tou if Viraj actually loved her, would he have so easily set his eyes on a new target? Priya? I agree that life needs to move one but c'mon! Seriously! So easily he found a new "Jhanvi". In a matter of days! He needs a victim, a permanent victim in the shape of wife who shakes in front of him. This man is beyond sick, he is cruel. I feel no justification in him being a patient of mental disorder.
I still can't forget the Jhanvi who Viraj saw and fell for. The shy, smiling girl walking with her friends on the road, laughing, blushing. Where is she? She was so normal, spending time with friends, being happy seeing all those girly things. A few days ago, I saw the Jhanvi who couldn't even cross the road. This happened to her all because of Viraj. I agree, sticking to a mentally sick person through his sickness is not wrong. But to become a mental patient while keeping up with someone's mental disorder is completely wrong. The girl can't even speak straight without stammering. Viraj has completely destroyed her personality! That is the biggest crime of all. He can be punished in any court of law for all the horrible things he did to other people but no court of law is enough to punish him for destroying someone's personality almost to the point of no repair.
Jhanvi ran away, she was completely right in doing so. She needs to believe again that Right does exists. She needs to discover herself, that life doesn't end at a horrible marriage. For that, she needs support. No one can stand up again after falling to the pits of despair and hopelessness alone. If characters like Alka and Raghav can help her stand up then nothing is wrong. What would be wrong is that after standing up, she leans on them. Which, I don't think, will happen.
So many victims of domestic violence who, after walking out of the relationship, find support in other people. In friends, at a job, in family etc. Not necessarily everyone finds love. Yeah, I agree that not everyone can go on the street where a heroic stranger would save that person again and again. But that heroic stranger doesn't always have to be someone from the opposite sex. It can be an incident, it can be a child, it can be an elder. There are so many possibilities! In reference to the show, they decided that heroic stranger to be Raghav basically to sell some masala. It's a TV show. Too much of reality or blandness would make the audience cringe away from the show. The CVs have this constant pressure to sell both entertainment and send out a message. That's not an easy task.
I also saw some arguments which said that a man isn't needed to help Jhanvi. I don't buy that. Call me old-fashioned, but no woman can exist without a man. Man is made as the protector by God, he had, has and always will have the greater strength. It's his choice that makes him abuse that strength. Viraj and Raghav (taking reference of the show) both are men, both have strength. Viraj chose to abuse that power for whatever reasons (many will say that he is mentally sick, I would say it was his own choice) whereas Raghav is using that strength to help others. Yeah he seems OTT and that he says he likes when people stand for themselves rather than leaning on others, but he knows that not everyone has the will power to stand on their own on their first try. Some support is needed. He provides that support. But it's a one time thing for him only.
NO WAY will Jhanvi so easily fall for Raghav like Raghav is intrigued by her. There is so much on her mind already, love is least of all that. I am sure she is at that point of life where trusting another man would be like sinning to her now that the uncle has decided to show his colors. But that's the whole point! She has to know that not all men are bad, not all men are selfish and not all men are driven by their lust. There are some who respect women, who hold women above everyone, who protect women. If she can find that out through Raghav then what's the problem in it?
(this turned out be more of rant :P but yeah, these are my feelings)
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