most of us support her in ...and that is why i have landed on this site....and i really thankfull to all of you..
i totally agree wid sowmyaaI agree with Aparna.
Also, I would say, that make sure her new husband is aware of and agree with most of her decision as after so much trouble she now has settle life and she does not want to mess that up due to her mean ex-husband.
Originally posted by: Neil Diamond
Is Mahesh Bhat reading this 😉 .....Imran Hashmi, another movie for him!
PS: sorry folks, couldnt help this.
Neil, that is an underhand dig and uncalled for.....as I said, misplaced humour can be worse than even an open redicule.....
Originally posted by: fatmah5000
thank you all for your concern...i have already suggest my friend what to be done...most of us agreed that the second husband should adopt the kid...this is what is going to be done next..as long as her second husband knows from the first what happened when he didnt enter to his present wife,so he strongly support her in each way,and he is ready to give a new name to the child...
as long as m concerned as a friend that is what i adviced my friend to do...i hope what i have done is completely right for the moment....
thank you all and cheers... 😳
That's great Fatmah !!! I think that is the best course.
Having a 6 year old myself, I know that it will be beyond his comprehension that the person who he considers a father is not a real father....in fact his needle might get stuck onto....he is not my father?? Is he fake? Is he pretending??? Then who is my father? Why do I call him father...etc etc, not to mention the insecurity that will develop right away. Children don't like shaky ground. Of course some kids have a very good constitution as far as digesting unpalatable news is concerend, but the risk is just not worth taking.
He is not at the age to understand. The best would be not to mention anything about it to the child about this at all. The jerk of a father can meet him, but he will have to bear the torture of being called an 'uncle' and the reality will have to be put off till the child reaches a certain age. The meetings between the so called father and the child will have to be strictly regulated. In fact, just sending him some photographs should suffice in the beginning. He never did anything to deserve to be called a father anyway. The father is the one who is bringing him up, not the jerk who conviniently sowed his seeds and then forgot all about it....
The real father needs to be kept informed of everything. That is the most important part of all.
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