Originally posted by: rayadallie
Definition: Love is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment.
Imagine that happiness is the most important thing in the world to you.
Now imagine that happiness is more important than the one you love. Are
you having trouble with that one? You might say to me: "how can I do
that, what a selfish thing to do!" If you told the person you loved,
that your happiness was more important than they were, you might dread
them saying; "How selfish! You should not be concerned with your
happiness. If you loved me, you should be more concerned with making me
happy, after all isn't that what love is?" No, that is not what love is
like. That is what addiction looks like. Addiction says, "I need your
love and approval to make me happy." By wanting to be loved, you are allowing your desire to control you. It
is only by choosing happiness, being happy, and making happiness come
first, that you will ever actually be happy. Only when you are happy can you give happiness to another person.
If the other person is happy in one thing that you aren't happy with, would you let that person be happy because you love them?
In the first place one would choose a partner that show compatibility. Although love does involve compromises between partners, someone who is
in love with you will never ask you to change who you are to be what they want you to be in order to be loved.If someone asks you to do or say something that isn't in your nature, that isn't true love.
is love about holding down the person and coming in their way of what would truly make them happy?
Everyone knows that you have to compromise in any relationship, but
how one goes about compromising is the question. Is it simply that you
give in because you shy away from conflict or an argument ensued, making it a win-lose situation? Or, do you talk about the situation and come
to a decision where both of you get satisfied in some way'making it a
win-win? There are many ways we compromise in relationships and
compromise doesn't mean that you have to lose every time. If holding the person back and standing between them makes you unhappy, then there is no way you can love that person and you and that person can be happy together.
When two people respect each other, they are honoring their rights as human beings. If one usually feels slighted and discontent with the
outcome, then someone is taking advantage, while the other is being
disrespected and not standing up for themselves. On occasion, there are
always going to be two points-of-view in every relationship. How the
conflict gets handled is what makes all the difference.
Love is...Love.
I find this reply in
response to what you said pointless because the basis of the argument is
completely different. Love has no definition. Love is just love. There is
nothing else to it. Attachment and affection are two completely different
things.
Here if one looks at it, Karan wants to be
independent and that is where he feels his happiness lies (it doesn't matter
right now, for the sake of argument, that this decision stemed from Hetal) so
with that, the entire Bedi family should let him go. Because they love him,
they should let him go where his happiness is, without pressuring him to stay
with them. As that would be selfishness. Love is selfless and giving.
I can't imagine that, as that's where it doesn't make any
sense. Love is love, happiness of our own is not more important than the
happiness of the person we love. That is why Love β¦ is love. Whereas,
infatuation may say "My happiness comes first" Love simply says "Your happiness
comes first."
I'm not sure where being happy with yourself to make others
happy came from, that's not really what I said at all.
The simple truth is, when you love someone, they come first,
and happily so. Their happiness is all that matters and in their happiness lies
your happiness. Provided, what you feel for them is love, this comes naturally.
The course of true love never runs smooth. There is no
change in love? Yes, Love is eternal, everlasting and increasing. No one needs
to change who they are for the one they love, but they do. Two people in love
slowly blend into one, and as they blend into one, their personalities soon
change as they become one another. That is change right there itself. But again, these are all technicalities; my
real point is that, Love is sacrifice. Knowing Karan wants to leave home to be
something, one should let him go. Only because he wants to go. One should not
hold him back because they don't want him to go. They should sacrifice their
need and want and love, for his happiness, BECAUSE they love him. Unconditional
love.
Again, I don't understand where the conflict came from. Yes,
every relationship has compromise, but that compromise stems from Love, in love
for each other, as both partners truly love one another and selflessly give and
give and give. Love is unconditional, it doesn't seek, and it only gives.
And, where Love, True Real Love, is the foundation,
everything is possible. π³
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