Foreplay
What is foreplay? One can call it a prelude to a
sexual intercourse. It is also about intimacy - emotional intimacy between two
partners. An intimacy that implies a certain level of confidence and trust
between the two partners.
Art of foreplay
Creating an atmosphere – What is also referred to
as "setting the mood". The art of foreplay as it is termed is when a partner
takes the time well beforehand to focus on building an atmosphere of rest,
relaxation, anticipation and romance. It would involve removing distractions,
stresses and interruptions. Foreplay is the opportunity to practice authentic
care – focusing on your partner's pleasures. Just like a violinist plays his
instrument to a climax of musical beauty, two people play over each other, ever
so gently, ever so skillfully, to bring them to crescendos of pleasure.
Types of foreplay
Foreplay can be verbal or non-verbal. Verbally it
could include compliments, subtle comments with double meanings and intimate
conversations. Non-verbally, foreplay can include provocative clothing,
winking, gazing into each other's eyes.
Why this discussion of foreplay?
Maan and Geet are entering a new phase in their
relationship. A marriage which is a union of mind, body and souls. They are
learning new things about each other on a more personal level. They are
discovering each other every moment. Why not discuss the ways in which they can
discover each other more intimately?
1. Talk and tease - The power of suggestion can be as
great as the act itself most of the times. Describing what one wants to do,
where and how are enough to get your partner to visualize it easily and
eagerly.
2. Getting started in public - Foreplay need not be restricted to
the bedroom or inside the four walls. Holding hands in the office, sharing a
private lunch, or just catching a kiss in the middle of meetings is enough to keep
the flame alive. Hiding sweet sexy
notes or making use of technology by sending a few incomplete sensual messages
or mails allowing your partner to fill in the rest will let the imagination run
wild.
3. Strip Down - Maan doing his tai-chi without his
shirt on or Geet in a towel right after her bath with wet hair can set at
atmosphere of anticipation and desire..
4. Touch - Touch is one of the
most extensively used techniques in foreplay. Touch could be in the form of
body painting to explore and stimulate a partner's body or in the form of
massages. Sensuality is at its best when rubbed in. A massage with scented oils
in a stress free, relaxed atmosphere will remain with him/her for a long time.
These massages could be comforting or sensuous based on the situation and can
easily highten the senses.
5. Kissing - Kissing is
considered to be the fundamental act of foreplay. Kissing could be a very light
lip-to-lip contact or a very deep French kiss. Other areas for kissing may
include the partner's ears, neck, shoulders, back and other private areas. A
kiss could be named as the fire of passion where there may seem no start and no
end. Feeling the softness of the lips, and the beating of the heart to sensing
the growing fervour. Something as small as a kiss can take one to heights that
they have never experienced before.
6. Baths - A sensual bath taken
together with the fragrance of scented oils and candles setting up the mood in
a relaxing atmosphere can be the perfect start for a night of pleasure.
Whatever the kind, foreplay lowers inhibitions and
increases the emotional comfort of the partners. The basic ingredients of
foreplay are physical and mental/emotional stimulation, trust, and the
expression of caring. A man is stimulated by what he sees, whereas a woman is
stimulated by touch and by what she feels. A simple romantic, intimate
atmosphere can also be a gesture of foreplay. However it is done, it is a way
to prepare the body and the mind for the union between two people and the
universe.
Foreplay in A Visual Medium
Depicting foreplay or a sensuous scene is tough in a
visual medium like television for a couple of reasons. One – The creative team
has limitations on the content it can show on prime time television and Two –
The intention of the scene, the sensuality, the mood of the protagonists need
to be conveyed to the audience. The audience have to feel one with the
characters, they have to visualize, they have to fantasize. And here lies the
main problem for the creatives – to set the stage or create the mood for
romance. This is what I call as stimulating the visual senses.
1.
Sense of hearing – Through our sense of hearing we
can hear the ocean lap upon the beach and the gentle melody of a saxophone. Our
sense of hearing has a huge influence in creating a desired atmosphere. Gentle
background music can be used to create the mood and feel.
2.
Color – Color of the surroundings depict the mood
of the situation. Red color signifies passion. White color depicts purity. The
color of the fabrics on the furniture, pillows, window coverings can be played
with to depict the comfort level and relaxation and thus effect our perception
of the situation.
3.
Food – A chilled champagne bottle, chocolate dipped
strawberries, succulent olives, heart-shaped toppings on the pies etc signify relishing
treats during a special evening.
4.
Accessories – Dimming lamps, ceiling lights, wall
scones or candles are the perfect way to incorporate mood setting lighting to a
room. Freshly cut flowers arranged aesthetically creates an atmosphere that is
inviting and comfortable. Incorporating indoor water falls or fountains and
natural calming and romantic sights into the dcor of a room depict an unique
air of mystery and intrigue. These accessories evoke visual interest.
The creatives can use the romance conventions to add to
the persuavise effect by determining what elements of such conventions they want
the communication to be drawn on. They will have to appeal mostly to the
emotions or to the logic or to the credibility of the audience. Determining
what is shown first and why, what is in the foreground, what is in the
background, what is in or out or of focus serves the persuasive strategy. Any
design of the visual communication that is special and unique is sure to
attract the audience.
Edited by ash08 - 13 years ago
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