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@Tanya Di:
There were two ways of showing the love cum responsibility balance in PR:
1.) Manav realises that his decision to marry Shravani was wrong and useless and apologises to Shravani and backs off, saying that he is ready to suffer any punishment that she wishes.
2.) Manav does not back off from Shravani, but could not control his emotions for Archu too. Try as he might, he could not save himself from worrying about her life, her future, fighting when someone said something bad for her, trying to save her from Jay despite everyone in the family refusing him and so on. His unconscious love shines through. Ultimately, Shravani realises that even if Manav tries his best, he would not be able to commit to her, cos only Archu rules his heart.
Both show the marriage cum responsibility balance, according to me.
Out of the two, I personally wanted to see the first one- cos it was a mature one according to me, and also made Manav look more human- a person who made a decision in an emotional moment, realised it was wrong and futile for all and decided to rectify it. But the CV's didn't want to show their hero as wrong. So they chose the other route. I'm okay with it too.
In no way did it kill the romance for me. Nor did it in any way prove Manav to be a bad lover. If anything, it only proved Archu as a careless daughter who ran away from her home which had a sick mother, and a father who had got a heart attack and a family who had always been very good to her. The 'running away' which many found 'romantic', for me, actually put a blot on the character of Archu. I'm sorry Tanya di, I know you like Archu, but this is what I feel.
About the love hurting part----- I meant to say, that it is not right, to hurt in the name of love, people who love you, care for you, have not committed anything wrong, and whose actions are aligned towards your own good. You might have to disappoint them sometimes to make rational, mature decisions in life, but there is a manner and a way to do it---- handle it with responsibility and maturity.
During the Archu-Jay and Manav-shrav wedding, everything was taken place by THEIR consent. They were told a no. of times to reconsider but refused. So their families agreed and were happy for them. Now, at last moment, if Manav ditched Shravani for 'Love' and ran away it wouldn't have been fair to Shravni. Yes, if he had accepted that he couldn't marry Shrav and apologised in front of all, then maybe I would have understood, although I would have asked Shrav to slap him. It would have been disappointing, yes, but it would have been honest- Shravani would have realised that it was best for both- even if it was hurtful. But running away by leaving on the mandap was bad- he would have broken Shravani completely--- as it is she had lost her love(Sachin) once and the deceit would have shattered her.
Yes, even now many people are angry and hurt with Manav. But now they are in the wrong, not Manav-Archu. They want Archu to get married to someone knowing that this girl roasts her palms for Manav- so obsessed is she. Their action is not in the right for anybody- since Jay is a wrong choice for Archu- and so Archu is justified in going against them. If they force Archu, then it is best for Archu to revolt- not run away, but revolt. Sometimes, a different way of handling the situation changes scenarios. If Archu had refused to get married to Jay, instead of running away, I would have clapped. She didn't and so I feel she was wrong. Her duty was to tell the truth to her parents and convince them for Manav too, she didnt and ran to him beserk, not caring about whether her mother would die of another heart attack.
Today, Manav Archu have realised that they cannot be happy without each other, and in fact, if married to others, will make others unhappy too. They have put forward this fact and asked for forgiveness as well. It is best for them to get married- this is in the betterment of all.. If others cannot realise this fact, then its their problem. They want Archu to get married against her wish- wrong. This is not called 'hurting'- this time its their family members fault.
If ArMan had confessed this in front of Shravani and asked forgiveness then also I would not have called it wrong AT ALL. It would have been a good, mature decision.
I hope I made my viewpoint clear. If not, then lets agree to disagree.
There were two ways of showing the love cum responsibility balance in PR:
1.) Manav realises that his decision to marry Shravani was wrong and useless and apologises to Shravani and backs off, saying that he is ready to suffer any punishment that she wishes.
2.) Manav does not back off from Shravani, but could not control his emotions for Archu too. Try as he might, he could not save himself from worrying about her life, her future, fighting when someone said something bad for her, trying to save her from Jay despite everyone in the family refusing him and so on. His unconscious love shines through. Ultimately, Shravani realises that even if Manav tries his best, he would not be able to commit to her, cos only Archu rules his heart.
Both show the marriage cum responsibility balance, according to me.
Out of the two, I personally wanted to see the first one- cos it was a mature one according to me, and also made Manav look more human- a person who made a decision in an emotional moment, realised it was wrong and futile for all and decided to rectify it. But the CV's didn't want to show their hero as wrong. So they chose the other route. I'm okay with it too.
In no way did it kill the romance for me. Nor did it in any way prove Manav to be a bad lover. If anything, it only proved Archu as a careless daughter who ran away from her home which had a sick mother, and a father who had got a heart attack and a family who had always been very good to her. The 'running away' which many found 'romantic', for me, actually put a blot on the character of Archu. I'm sorry Tanya di, I know you like Archu, but this is what I feel.
About the love hurting part----- I meant to say, that it is not right, to hurt in the name of love, people who love you, care for you, have not committed anything wrong, and whose actions are aligned towards your own good. You might have to disappoint them sometimes to make rational, mature decisions in life, but there is a manner and a way to do it---- handle it with responsibility and maturity.
During the Archu-Jay and Manav-shrav wedding, everything was taken place by THEIR consent. They were told a no. of times to reconsider but refused. So their families agreed and were happy for them. Now, at last moment, if Manav ditched Shravani for 'Love' and ran away it wouldn't have been fair to Shravni. Yes, if he had accepted that he couldn't marry Shrav and apologised in front of all, then maybe I would have understood, although I would have asked Shrav to slap him. It would have been disappointing, yes, but it would have been honest- Shravani would have realised that it was best for both- even if it was hurtful. But running away by leaving on the mandap was bad- he would have broken Shravani completely--- as it is she had lost her love(Sachin) once and the deceit would have shattered her.
Yes, even now many people are angry and hurt with Manav. But now they are in the wrong, not Manav-Archu. They want Archu to get married to someone knowing that this girl roasts her palms for Manav- so obsessed is she. Their action is not in the right for anybody- since Jay is a wrong choice for Archu- and so Archu is justified in going against them. If they force Archu, then it is best for Archu to revolt- not run away, but revolt. Sometimes, a different way of handling the situation changes scenarios. If Archu had refused to get married to Jay, instead of running away, I would have clapped. She didn't and so I feel she was wrong. Her duty was to tell the truth to her parents and convince them for Manav too, she didnt and ran to him beserk, not caring about whether her mother would die of another heart attack.
Today, Manav Archu have realised that they cannot be happy without each other, and in fact, if married to others, will make others unhappy too. They have put forward this fact and asked for forgiveness as well. It is best for them to get married- this is in the betterment of all.. If others cannot realise this fact, then its their problem. They want Archu to get married against her wish- wrong. This is not called 'hurting'- this time its their family members fault.
If ArMan had confessed this in front of Shravani and asked forgiveness then also I would not have called it wrong AT ALL. It would have been a good, mature decision.
I hope I made my viewpoint clear. If not, then lets agree to disagree.
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