Are Teenage Years The Hardest In Ones Life

Originally posted by: debayon

I think teenage years are one of the hardest years in your life. You are not only shaping your future, you have to try to balance that with socializing with other people and so. Not to mention the number of AP's you have to take to impress college, worry about SAT/ACT scores, go along with your expectations from teachers as well as parents...it makes your life a living hell..

Of course, you should take it positively as it preps you for your future, where you use your knowlegde in the real world...I can't comment on whether it gets harder when you become self-sufficient and all, because frankly I haven't experienced it...but my personal belief is no, it is not.

Dating shouldn't be a priority in your student life, I mean, it's OK to date at that point, but it isn't a mature and well-kept one...you and your GF/BF keep making mistakes in stabilizing a relationship,which most of the time ends up in breaking up. Plus, that is the time when puberty kicks in, and either gender has sexual inclinations most of the time, people make worst mistakes in their lives as far as relationships are concerned at that point. However, if one is mature enough to take responsible decisionsabout relationships at that point and wants to undertake a relationship, I don't see any reason why not to😊

When I was a teenager, I felt those were the hardest years. You are no longer a child, but not yet an adult and you spend most of your time trapped in between. If you make a mistake, you are told that you are old enough to know better. If you want to do something more you are told, you are too young for that. It is an age when you just want to be free and have fun, but there are all sorts of responsibilities. I had to endure SSC, HSC and not to mention all those preliminaries and unit tests and homework. Dealing with parents who just did not get it. And yes, those raging hormones, that too.

However, coming close to thirty I would say that it was not the teens but the ages 18-23 or so that were actually the hardest. I feel I thought my teenage was hard because of a certain level of immaturity on my part. 18-23 is when the real test of life begins. First and foremost you realize the consequences of your choices you made as a teen good and bad.

But it is not just that, 18-23 is when you really start defining yourself as an individual in context of life in general. You have done past the standardized tests and all, that was mechanical. Now you are thinking of your life conceptually. You start thinking long term in relation to education, career etc. For the first time in your life you start a process of self realization of who you are as an individual, what you want or expect from your life. This is the phase when you define a lot of values, morals, principles and beliefs that will be a base for the rest of your life - either reinforcing what you learned growing, radically redefining it or finding compromises with the working world. It's a phase when relationships in life are redefined as you realize that many childhood/teenage friendships are not forever or change, family dynamics also change for people and people start thinking in terms of their own long term personal relationship expectations. It's the first threshold into adulthood that can define the rest of our lives and can be much more difficult that teenage.

Then again there is the dreaded midlife crisis everyone talks about, the phase where half a life is whizzed by and people get bogged down with their insecurities, unfulfilled dreams, losing youthfulness and find the transition to old age terrifying. Some manage fine, but some end up with divorces and other forms of radical career life changes.

Then some people say old age is hardest. The body is physically and mentally weak, to add to that coping with boredom, loneliness, and for many loss of spouses/companions of many years. Add to that the looming realization of mortality.

Honestly, there really is no age which can probably be the hardest or easiest. Each comes with life challenges and benefits, and when we hit each phase we are equipped to deal with it. But on the whole I would say so far 18-23 has been most challenging, for just how transitional of a phase in life it is and by how much of your personality is defined in those years. At least that was the case for me.

To me teenage years are probably the best days of my life. My advice to teenagers, just relax, mom and dad will always baby you even when you have your own teenage babies – get used to it. Studying is a priority and should be your focus, but if you make mistakes life will be fine – just be prepared to work harder and fix it. Relationships, if you are mature enough – it's ok to date – to let those hormones run a wee bit. But beware your still a kid, don't do anything stupid that could ruin your life, and if your 16 and in love and wanting to get married oh gosh what is wrong with you – there is a whole life ahead of you. Take your time and enjoy the next 5-10 years or how much you want to, have fun, study, work, stand on your two feet and be someone. Then If it was meant to be, it will work out, if not there will be plenty more opportunities.

Gosh, I do sound like almost thirty don't I.

i think life itself it hard.. nothing is easy.. our road's definitely not going to be smooth.. but it's all about how we manage to emerge triumphantly out of it..

Doesn't matter if your a teenager or an adult, they'll be phases in your life that will be harder than others Teenagers as you said go through the stress of school, exams, parents/teachers expectation, dating and all those teenage drama's 😕 but then adult's go through Jobs, finance, family, marriage and all those adult stuff 😕 Life is just generally really complicated, it's both hard and easy, bad and good

double post sorry

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

When I was a teenager, I felt those were the hardest years. You are no longer a child, but not yet an adult and you spend most of your time trapped in between. If you make a mistake, you are told that you are old enough to know better. If you want to do something more you are told, you are too young for that. It is an age when you just want to be free and have fun, but there are all sorts of responsibilities. I had to endure SSC, HSC and not to mention all those preliminaries and unit tests and homework. Dealing with parents who just did not get it. And yes, those raging hormones, that too.

However, coming close to thirty I would say that it was not the teens but the ages 18-23 or so that were actually the hardest. I feel I thought my teenage was hard because of a certain level of immaturity on my part. 18-23 is when the real test of life begins. First and foremost you realize the consequences of your choices you made as a teen good and bad.

But it is not just that, 18-23 is when you really start defining yourself as an individual in context of life in general. You have done past the standardized tests and all, that was mechanical. Now you are thinking of your life conceptually. You start thinking long term in relation to education, career etc. For the first time in your life you start a process of self realization of who you are as an individual, what you want or expect from your life. This is the phase when you define a lot of values, morals, principles and beliefs that will be a base for the rest of your life - either reinforcing what you learned growing, radically redefining it or finding compromises with the working world. It's a phase when relationships in life are redefined as you realize that many childhood/teenage friendships are not forever or change, family dynamics also change for people and people start thinking in terms of their own long term personal relationship expectations. It's the first threshold into adulthood that can define the rest of our lives and can be much more difficult that teenage.

Then again there is the dreaded midlife crisis everyone talks about, the phase where half a life is whizzed by and people get bogged down with their insecurities, unfulfilled dreams, losing youthfulness and find the transition to old age terrifying. Some manage fine, but some end up with divorces and other forms of radical career life changes.

Then some people say old age is hardest. The body is physically and mentally weak, to add to that coping with boredom, loneliness, and for many loss of spouses/companions of many years. Add to that the looming realization of mortality.

Honestly, there really is no age which can probably be the hardest or easiest. Each comes with life challenges and benefits, and when we hit each phase we are equipped to deal with it. But on the whole I would say so far 18-23 has been most challenging, for just how transitional of a phase in life it is and by how much of your personality is defined in those years. At least that was the case for me.

To me teenage years are probably the best days of my life. My advice to teenagers, just relax, mom and dad will always baby you even when you have your own teenage babies ' get used to it. Studying is a priority and should be your focus, but if you make mistakes life will be fine ' just be prepared to work harder and fix it. Relationships, if you are mature enough ' it's ok to date ' to let those hormones run a wee bit. But beware your still a kid, don't do anything stupid that could ruin your life, and if your 16 and in love and wanting to get married oh gosh what is wrong with you ' there is a whole life ahead of you. Take your time and enjoy the next 5-10 years or how much you want to, have fun, study, work, stand on your two feet and be someone. Then If it was meant to be, it will work out, if not there will be plenty more opportunities.

Gosh, I do sound like almost thirty don't I.