RESERVED!😆
Okay I actually read once somewhere that you can make someone fall in love with you😉
It IS possible! So below are how you can do it and basically what Naku should be doing as well!
1. Hang around lots...but then be unavailable
The more you interact with someone, the more they'll like you. True fact, girls! Several studies show repeated exposure to practically any stimulus makes
us like it more (the only time it doesn't hold true is if our initial
reaction to it is negative). So forget about being aloof, evasive, and
unavailable in the beginning. Instead, find lots of excuses to spend
time with him.
THEN just when you're
convinced you've won them over and they like you, start being a little
less available. And then even less, until they hardly see you at all.
You've now effectively instigated the 'law of scarcity'. We all know
this one: people want what they can't have and by constantly being
available, you diminish your value. If you could get diamonds whenever you wanted them they wouldn't be precious now would they? The law of scarcity only makes
them want you. Be around and then not around and they'll want and like
you. I'm stating the obvious here, but liking someone is important.
We talk endlessly about chemistry, passion, sexual attraction, and
even more about love, yet the word 'like' rarely gets a mention.
Opposites don't attract long-term; we search for similarities in a
partner. Most of us can't see the point in hanging around friends we
don't like, so why do it with a lover? Liking someone is more important
long-term than actually loving them. It's not just similarities in our
personalities that count.
So what should Naku do with this info?
Well. Naku has already tried Rule No1! And Dutta DID start to Like her and would look for her when she was around him! Of course now he hates her BUT thats just Denial. He likes her still. He married her after all. You know what they say right? In wine is Truth😆 So basically Naku needs to do the same thing again! Be around him 24/7 and then when he's used to her being around she should ignore him and be unavailable😉 He'll be running after her☺️
2. Don't do nice things for him. Let him do
nice things for you
Right we all know that when we do something nice for someone, it makes us feel all gooey inside😛 You feel pleased with yourself and warm toward the person you've
just spoiled. To justify the effort or expense, we often over-idealise
how wonderful he is to deserve it! End result: we like the person more.
When someone does something nice for us, we feel pretty damned good. But there are a
whole lot of other emotions that come into play, and they're not all
good.
Sometimes we feel overwhelmed. That's Dutta right there isn't it? There's pressure to live up to being
the wonderful person who inspired such a gift/act, not to mention
pressure to return the favour. It's even trickier if the 'nice thing'
comes from someone you like very much but aren't sure about yet. Got the
point? When we're infatuated with someone, we're desperate to do nice
things for them.
So what should Naku do? Uh well... it's a bit difficult for Naku to follow this Rule right now... Dutta isn't really in a Be-Nice Mood is he?😆 But I think Naku should be nice to him anyways. Be so nice that he gets overwhelmed SO Overwhelmed that he feels guilty and will want to be nice in return😆
3. Give them the eye
Another true fact: couples who are
deeply in love look at each other 75 per cent of the time when talking
and are slower to look away when someone else dares to intrude.
That one sentence pretty much screams TaSha doesn't it? When do they NOT look at each other??? And since they've got married Dutta is constantly checking Naku out!
And Naku is ALWAYS looking at Dutta😍 Can't blame her really can we?
*Aisha Fans Herself*
So well... Naku just needs to keep checking Dutta out all the time! See when you look at someone more than 75% of the time in a conversation and you keep eye contact for as long as possible the other person's brain comes to the conclusion that this person loves them. BUT it also releases a hormone in the person who is getting checked out that is only released when you're in love! So the person thinks they must be in love with the person who is constantly checking them out!
I swear to God I am not making this stuff up😃
So the more Naku checks Dutta out the more he'll think "she loves me" and then he'll start thinking "I love her too" YES!!!! *Aisha Parties* And then he can go ahead and start falling for her😳
4. Don't look away
Another important fact: The couples
who are in love take longer to look away when someone else joins the conversation.
Again, if you do this to someone who's not in love with you (yet), you
trick his brain into thinking he is, and even more of that hormone floods into his
bloodstream. So Naku just simply has to lock eyes with Dutta and keep him there, even when he has finished talking or someone else joins the
conversation.
This technique may sound incredibly cliched but, believe me,
if done properly it can literally take your breath away. Seriously. I tried it. It TOTALLY worked. Ahem. And I did it with my Fiance. Uh... yeah.
*Aisha Looks Uncomfortable*
Hey my sister told me to do it! Ahem.
Anyways. If you're too
shy to gaze openly then look away
and at the other person who's joined the conversation, but every time
they finish a sentence, let your eyes bounce back to the person you're
interested in. This is a checking gesture - you're checking his reaction
to what the speaker is saying - and lets him know you're more
interested in him than the other person.
And actually Naku does this already! Remember that TeddyBear-Baji-Dutta-Naku Scene? She was doing it when Baji was teasing Dutta! Watch that Scene again I swear that is what she was doing!
*Aisha Re-Reads Post* Uh... is this answering the question Ksh?😆 I will update when I have other ideas😆
Here's another one:
5. Tell Him You Love Him As Often As You CanNaku has no problem with this😆 I hope she keeps telling him how she feels about him because it will wear him down eventually and he WILL melt! Who wouldn't melt if someone kept telling you they love you? Hearing that someone loves you can make anyone feel all warm and gooey inside😃
Aisha xxx😉
Edited by thornewood9 - 13 years ago
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