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1Originally posted by: Anam_naan
I think a marriage should be both love nd arrange ..or arrange nd love.
It should hve both..if u go for 1..its gonna be unsucessful....I truely dnt believe in arrange marriges...i think arrange marriges r a big reason for divorce....Hw can u live nd love a person whom u dnt knw at all..dat unknow becomes ur husband .wat if u both r nt similar..wat if u hve to adjust nd make compromises..wat if u just can tolerate him....I m just nt into arrange marriges..I dnt like de..3% arrange marriges according to me gets sucessful...dat also dose when people r either dum or make compromises eaisly.
Very similar to my Topic Love B4 marriage or Love after Arranged Marriage.
and I got many answers in that thread from many different users.1. What are the advantages of an arranged marriage for you?U dont know the personU dont know their nature/behaviorU dont know their likes/dislikesU dont know thier hobbies/ talentsSo many things discover about them.2. Disadvantages?I do not see any disadvantages for myself in Arranged marriage. Atleast for now π3. Do you think divorces occur more in love marriages or arranged marriages?In Love marriages divorce rate is higher, its proven, I have done research on this topic.4. Would you say "yes" to an arranged marriage if the person is from a good family, has a successful job,is liberal minded, and if you do not like anyone else?Ofcourse!
Originally posted by: maybe-just
For me personally, I think Arranged Marriages are better, you get to know the person properly after the marriage so there's much to do you won't get bored, in love marriages you already know the person therefore it beomes very boring there is nothing else to find out about the person except their faultsπ, love marriages do have a higher divorce rate (done my homework on that), in love marriages there is usually alot of conflict between families, watch bidaai π j/k!
Lol! Yes, Indian serials tell us more than we need to know about love marriages!π I think one of the main problems with some love marriages is that if people like each other, but if the families don't approve of the marriage, they still go along with it. What they don't understand is that 'we marry a whole family, not merely the person'. So if we are not on speaking terms with our in-law's family, it will be very hard to have a peaceful happy marriage. There may come a situation where the husband or wife has to choose between their spouse or their own family, and the peace of the family becomes constrained. Whereas in an arranged marriage, 95% of the time, the in-law's family loves you, and I personally would find it more peaceful to have a marriage where the whole family loves you rather than only the husband. Arranged marriages can work if your willing to, love marriages also survive but depending on the situation and as someone rightly said above sometimes people jump into marriage without thinking because they think they are in love, that's when problems arise in a love marriage.Disadvantages of arranged marriage might be that you may not think similarly which may be a good thing for some but not so good for others! Exactly! People today jump too often into love marriages thinking they are in love, but what exactly is true love, you know? How many of the "love marriages" are based on "true love" rather than "I like you a lot and think I'm in love, but I'm not sure"? And today's arranged marriages are becoming more liberal too. No one is forced to accept the first proposal that comes their way. If either they guy or girl does not like the proposal, most parents do not force their children to accept it. Instead, they look for other proposals, and until their son/daughter is truly happy with the proposal, and it is reciprocated, there is no talk of speedy wedding plans or anything.For me yes I would say yes to an arranged marriage if i thought that was the best thing for me! :-) Me too! And great answers! I love how you explained your view!πI won't be getting married anytime soon obviously π but those are my views!
1. What are the advantages of an arranged marriage for you?
There are very little expectations as you don't know the person that well .. your relationship grows with time as u get to know each other .. Obviously if your family have chosen the boy/girl for u, they would have made a good choice
2. Disadvantages?
You will discover a lot about the other person? things which u may not like or things which you didn't want in a life partner
3. Do you think divorces occur more in love marriages or arranged marriages?
Love marriages for sure
4. Would you say "yes" to an arranged marriage if the person is from a good family, has a successful job,
is liberal minded, and if you do not like anyone else?
Nope !! for me love in important to start a relationship .. I would have never considered marrying some1 I didn't know .. I always believed in love and eventually ended up marrying (last yr) the guy i fell in love with π I have seen alot more arranged marriages working out compared to love marriages but personally i m all for love marriages - u just have to be understanding and commited to making it work βΊοΈ
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