ShaTima's lies- protecting Suhani or prolonging her pain? - Page 2

I agree...they r postponing her sufferings...but unknowingly they are adding to it...su has to know the truth someday and I think Yuvraj should reveal it to her in totality.

Originally posted by: clarity

@bold- I had this though too. They think YuvAni are right for each other and Suhani is the perfect partner for Yuvraj, but it's important for YUVRAJ to think that too. No amount of such thinking by ShaTima can change his feelings.

@bold2- Well, it's impossible for a mother to love someone else more than her own child. Expecting her to love and think of Suhani as much as Yuvi is unrealistic. I also think that ShaTima should do more in terms of ensuring that Suhani is not tortured by the Phateechars, but I guess fellow victims like them can only do so much in that regard. They also are victimised by Dadi and currently, do not have the courage to stand up to her. All the Birlas are just too used to the status quo and don't bother to change it.😔

I think ShaTima have the traditional idea that marriage is a permanent institution, so their main aim is to ensure it survives, no matter what. As you said, they need to realise that Suhani is suffering in this marriage and has not gained anything out of it. Rather, she is being set up for the biggest shock of her life. 😭😭😭 I wonder when ShaTima will have this thought and just think to put Suhani out of her misery.

Tbh..

at this point I don't want Sharad or his mother to talk to Yuvraj the man is a lost cause..especially after today.. if anything someone needs' to bring about the courage to tell Suhani the truth.. not only are they making things harder for her in the long run.. but they will find it just as difficult as Yuvraj to regain her trust.. everyone is thinking of Yuvraj and what's best for him.. when the man himself is a confused soul and has no clue what he wants from life.. why not let him grow up figure out what he wants and let him decide for himself.. why does Pratima think Suhani should become a teacher and fix her son's behavioral problems.. he's not a child.. they need to comprehend that although Suhani is good for Yuvi he is not good for her at least atm.. he is sucking the life out of the poor thing.. she has grown and matured but at the cost of her innocence/happiness..

The sad thing is that both Sharad and Pratima see Suhani's pain her confusion.. yet they continue to trap her in a web of lies of their own making.. that will only make things so much more difficult for everyone..Suhani will lose her ability to trust.. and they are already gradually losing the fun loving Suhani at the hands of Yuvi and snaky. as well as their continuing deception.!!

Originally posted by: sandiab

I was very disappointed with sharad today. Coz suhani asked him straight out if he knew anything and he lied. It was 1 thing b4 when they kept it from her coz she knew nothing. Bt its another thing where they are lying to her on her face. And she is so sweet she believed them never once did she doubt although she still had doubts. Today for me sharad didn't do his duty as her brother he should have told her the truth. And later on he will tell her a half truth and again that is also wrong. The cvs shouldn't have made him lie to her coz this does spoil their r/ship. I always thought that if he didn't take sides or lied eventually when she left yuvraj she could she would eventually accept him coz he didn't lie he just omitted the truth bt nw I dnt feel like he will ever leave his guru and ever be with her. Probably if they keep that snake in the show they will eventually pair them off so that when suhani comes back into yuvi's life there is a link btw them bt the link btw her and sharad wnt be that strong anymore. As for prats she loves suhani bt as sudhi said she is thinking ab yuvi's happiness mostly. She knows that with suhani yuvi can become the person he truly is and he just needs time to accept her and she truly sees suhani as totally loveable and that any1 can fall for her if they be with her. Prats does loves her from her heart from the minute she saw her she wanted her as her bahu, as her daughter. Suhani truly brings her happiness. Its so hard to say that she is wrong coz of this love. She loves yuvani both she does not want them to get hurt. Bt I think again she has got to open her eyes and look at things from suhani's pt of view she is genuinely unhappy nw that she has gotten a sniff that something is wrong. She cnt keep suhani as a pretty baby away from all things that can make her unhappy. Suhani isn't a child she is a grown woman she needs to know what's going on in her life. I just think all that all the ppl around her have been unfair to her and made her weak coz of their lies

Me too. She asked him straight to his face and he lied straight to her face.

@bold- Agreed. Today, ShaTima let Suhani down, unfortunately. They allowed her to live in a glass house which will inevitably be broken. 😭

You are totally right, Sandi. Today, they didn't omit the truth but actively lied. As you said, I don't know how Suhani will forgive her Ma and PA bhaiyya.

As for Prats, obviously, her reason for loving Suhani is because she thinks she is perfect for her Yuvraj. That's what gave birth to her love for Suhani. It's Suhani's position as Yuvraj's wife which drives Prats' love. So, whenever she is trying to get the YuvAni marriage to work, it is 95% for Yuvi's sake. She sees Suhani as the key to her son's happiness, and that's why she loves Suhani.

@bold2- Can't agree more. All her loved ones have weakened her and exposed her to the biggest heartbreak of her life. 😭😭

there is no doubt Shatima wants to protect Suhani in each and every possible way but their lies are now just contributing more pain and hurt to Suhani.

If the situation had been without so much antagonism it would make sense to hide the truth. Yuvraaj would have warmed up to suhani and they have lived happily ever after. Problem easily resolved.

Originally posted by: ...Binny...

Tbh..

at this point I don't want Sharad or his mother to talk to Yuvraj the man is a lost cause..especially after today.. if anything someone needs' to bring about the courage to tell Suhani the truth.. not only are they making things harder for her in the long run.. but they will find it just as difficult as Yuvraj to regain her trust.. everyone is thinking of Yuvraj and what's best for him.. when the man himself is a confused soul and has no clue what he wants from life.. why not let him grow up figure out what he wants and let him decide for himself.. why does Pratima think Suhani should become a teacher and fix her son's behavioral problems.. he's not a child.. they need to comprehend that although Suhani is good for Yuvi he is not good for her at least atm.. he is sucking the life out of the poor thing.. she has grown and matured but at the cost of her innocence/happiness..

The sad thing is that both Sharad and Pratima see Suhani's pain her confusion.. yet they continue to trap her in a web of lies of their own making.. that will only make things so much more difficult for everyone..Suhani will lose her ability to trust.. and they are already gradually losing the fun loving Suhani at the hands of Yuvi and snaky. as well as their continuing deception.!!

@bold- 👏👏. Yes. ShaTima's whole operation arose because of Yuvraj and his needs.

@bold2- Truer words have not been said. I hate the idea these shows keep peddling about the wife being some kind of reformer/teacher who sets the husband straight and shows him the right path. 🤢🤢 As you said, marriage is between two adults and he is not a child that Suhani will 'reform' him and his views. Currently, Suhani is NOT happy.

Suhani's spirit has been dampened quite a lot. She was a firebrand who would never have taken the DaRagMen's shit before marriage, but she does now. All for the love of a man who doesn't want her. I wish they could understand how this marriage is slowly killing her. 😭😭 I hope that during YuvAni's separation, there comes a point when ShaTima are on Suhani's side and come to the conclusion that staying with Yuvi is too painful and it's better to let her have her freedom. That would be their redemption.

Originally posted by: sudhi03

I know shaTima wants to protect suhaani, but in my opinion they should tell the truth to her and let suhaani deceide if she wants to stay with jerkraj or not. Everybody taking decisions of suhaani's life without her knowledge thinking it would be good for her. She is surrounded by a web of lies after the truth is out these lies hurt suhaani more then the truth i think.

I agree with you.

@bold- By lying to her, they are taking away her agency as a human being to decide for herself. She is not being given a chance to make decisions about her own life.

Well said Apu...

Originally posted by: Mahabhootni

If the situation had been without so much antagonism it would make sense to hide the truth. Yuvraaj would have warmed up to suhani and they have lived happily ever after. Problem easily resolved.

But the problem is now they trust yuvraaj too much and he's in fact the weak link. They think even with all the outside negative interference yuvraaj is going to do as expected but he's not as self aware as they think and he's going to fail so hard that all their plans will be go naught.

You hit the nail right on the head. As you said, Yuvraj is the weak link who is not behaving the way ShaTima want him to. He has not thought seriously about his marriage with Suhani and continues to be a negligent husband. 😕 Yuvraj himself has told ShaTima that he 'does' a lot for Suhani and would like to have some free time. Doesn't that convey that he feels suffocated in this marriage? 😲

@bold- Exactly. Yuvraj is the opposite of self-aware. He has no awareness of his own feelings and is a Dadi-manufactured drone. For ShaTima's matchmaking to work, he has to accept that he is attracted to Suhani.