Vaidehi's Vanwas : Was it inevitable? - Page 3

Originally posted by: .life_is_fun.

No issues dear.. 😊 In fact, it only shows out the sensitive side of ur personality... 😊 These scriptures have been debatable since forever... And ur questions do hold water... As a child I used to ask the same questions when I was first told about the story... It is only years later I came up to this interpretation...I feel u are questioning because Ram is perhaps meant to be questioned here... If after watching the whole story you or any rational thinking person stands by Sita and not Ram or his subjects, then Ram won his battle... If the society criticizes Ram's decision and keeps Sita at a higher pedestal than Ram then Ram's purpose is fulfilled and if people wud no more question or push women to give test for their purity, the ultimate aim is achieved.. Understanding his decision is not important also but understanding that no woman deserves a fate like Sita is very important and is mandatory...And this message Ramayan has been able to convey... That much is enough for the proper functioning of the society...Rest understanding should be left to time and experiences😊... Until humanity prevails... Human race will prevail... 😛 😛

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Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@life for me God is that person who will go any extend to protect my trust on him/her. A person who can take scathing remarks from society, tolerate the barbs for my sake if I follow the limits or rather maryada.

For me Ram became God by taking the blame of Sita banishment on his head vindicating her purity forever. He delivered on the trust his Sitae placed on her Raghunandan. In Swayamvar Sita trusts him to lift the bow so that he satisfies her father's condition for marrying her, she trusts Ram to come to Lanka and liberate her. He crosses the ocean for her. And when world question her purity like other men who will emotionally blackmail their spouse in such a way so that leave on their own, he takes the decision of her banishment and thus the blame.

Krishna does the same for Arjuna. The man who was given a choice between Krishna without weapon and Krishna's power, chose Krishna because he trusted Krishna. All the adharma of war Krishna takes it on himself, including the curse of Gandhari that destroys his lineage, but at the same time protecting the lineage of Arjuna. Krishna delivers on the supreme trust his friend Arjuna placed on him.

If you want to become God, deliver on the trust that is kept on you. Use your physical power to deliver on the trust of your loved ones. Burn yourself to give light for others. Trust is the ultimate power you can get. And if you get that, never lose it.

For me the message of Ramayana and MB is this. God will always be there to hold you, if you observe limits, no matter what. So let your action be always be within limits and you will get the defense when you need it the most. And by limits I don't mean the law of tradition, but the laws of nature.

Nature's law can never go wrong. But if your action is not inline with nature's laws you will have to bear the fruits of that action, how much ever unpleasant it may be.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@Ananya Ram had to deal with perceptions. Deep trenched perceptions that a woman is dispensable. If you see Ram goes around and sees none of his praja will take back the woman who was in another man's custody. They tolerate Sita being the queen just because of the power factor and nothing else. They actually don't like her as the queen, because the perception is that she is impure. How will you change perception. By living a life. How did Ram do with Aswamedha horse, a golden aswamedha horse. Same thing he is going to do with Sita. A golden statue of her in all the rituals where wife is needed with the husband. He doesn't go for second marriage which a king of those times could have easily done. He is showing the praja their reflection with the golden statue. She was sacrificed because they think her impure, not him . For him she is pure and no other woman can take her place in his life. Only that yogi life Ram led dedicated to a single woman, even in her absence breaks the perception. Guilt is there in the praja as they forced their king to live such a life away from his wife and kids.

Coming to Mithila. Yes she can go there. But even there, a woman discarded by her husband, the society wont take it lightly. Also it will look bad on her father who has stood for the knowledge. People will feel if a girl is educated, liberated then her married life can go in jeopardy which is happening even today. As we blame woman's financial independence major cause of divorces. So her father's policies also can be questioned. Hence it was good for her to be in ashram. There she was free and at peace only thing was that she was living a humble life.

Coming to prove her purity. yes Ram gives her the chance with his yogi like life and Sita proves her purity beyond doubt when she calls Mother Earth and disappears. Sita rejects Ayodhya by that action of hers, yet doing all her duties towards her husband. Even today a man wants a wife like Sita, what more can be the testimonial for her purity, when a woman doesn't want a husband like Ram. Ram took the blame on his head to vindicate his spouse not then, but forever. Sita was Janaki, but Ram became Siyaram

It is actually not Vanvass if you look. Hari sends Mahalakshmi from a place where she is not valued.

Originally posted by: ..Ananya..

It has been an absolute pleasure reading all the replies and view points. So many interesting things have come up.

Someone here pointed out how it is always the women who is questioned and put down. I could not agree with you more. It struck me that if it was Ram in the place of Sita, who would have been captured and held, would the society ask him to give a purity test? Probably not!

Some other person drew a parallel between Narendra Modi and Ram (lol) but the main difference is that one is normal human being whereas the latter is a divine entity. Ram had far more influence on his people than any other politician ever will. Ram had the perseverance, the calm and clarity which is hard to find in anyone else. It is these qualities which make me question his decision of abandoning his wife.

I agree with Luv-Kush, The epic should have been called Sitayan instead of Ramayan, it is a testimony of turmoil, conflicts, struggle, love and devotion a wife has for her husband. ( I don't want any abuses for this statement, it is my personal opinion and you are allowed to differ. I understand that Ram also underwent immense sadness because of the seperation but in my opinion he bought it on himself)