Self respect

I loved the way Janak told Sita not to loose her self respect in the bid to get accepted by her new family in sasural. This is something that's never mentioned in our society when a girl is getting married. Even today she is to suffer in silence and not to speak up for her rights in order to keep the home peaceful. To keep her marriage intact. I was just telling my friend yesterday when she said, she could never understand the fact why Ram left Sita because of the society when he promised her yesterday that he will never let unhappiness touch her. And that why didn't Sita go back to her fathers place instead of trying to kill herself when pregnant or when Ram ask her to return with her sons to ayodhya with him? I told her that perhaps Ram didn't just incarnate to rid the world of evil demons, but to also teach that women will have difficult lives such as Sita, where she maybe left all alone.That she should make herself strong and capable enough to keep her self respect intact, in this case she refused to return to Ram as she was already thrown out once and didn't feel right to return to such place again. She didn't go to her fathers, because think about it, how many times people say ladki ko itna mat padhao warna it will backfire, and if her marriage breaks and she return to her fathers home she doesn't get the respect she deserves. So she wanted to show that rather going back you should learn to live on your own and keep your dignity intact. Of course she couldn't go out and work in her case in those times so she choose to ask her jannani dharti ma to take her back, but today's women should take that as this that she didn't become a doormat rani and instead preserved her dignity by refusing the offer and leaving for good.

Wonderful information Raima😊

@Raima you have bought out a beautiful point. For women to be independent. I would rather stress on financial independence. It is not just for keeping your self respect, it is also for guiding your family if any calamity strikes. Today we have widows, women whose husbands are not able to work due to disease or due to disability from accidents. In such cases instead of wallowing in pain, and dependent on extended family if a woman is financially independent she can take care of herself and if kids are involved she will be in a better position to give a good future to the kids.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@Raima you have bought out a beautiful point. For women to be independent. I would rather stress on financial independence. It is not just for keeping your self respect, it is also for guiding your family if any calamity strikes. Today we have widows, women whose husbands are not able to work due to disease or due to disability from accidents. In such cases instead of wallowing in pain, and dependent on extended family if a woman is financially independent she can take care of herself and if kids are involved she will be in a better position to give a good future to the kids.

Still woman are asked to leave their identity, compromise on personal goals post marriage. Yes give and take is necessary. But then for the betterment of family, it will be good if woman also work.

We can avoid situations like Vrindavan widows.

@Raima that is the difference between western and eastern stories. Western stories like you said are more fairy tales. I have also read that Prince Charming on a white horse or Tall, dark, handsome young man of M&B.