Difference between friendship and love.

Originally posted by: H_H_

Pure love does not mean not having physical attraction, what Harman felt initially for Saumya was intense physical attraction! When he first knew her kinnar truth, he tried to convince himself that if he cannot have sexual gratification from her, then he does not need her, and/or should hate her!
But the more he knew her, the more his feelings developed, and included other sorts of feelings, deeper feelings.

True, pure love here means, that in spite of having feelings of physical attraction, but you're welling to sacrifice those baser physical needs, because your need to be close to that person is much greater than any other need!
BTW, being kinnar is not the only sort of obstacle in the way of sexual gratification between any couple!

I had an uncle who loved his wife so much, that even when right after marriage discovered that she has a heart condition that makes marital relations an absolute danger to her life, he preferred to live with her for the rest of their lives, sans any sexual relations, rather than marrying anyone else!
And let me tell you; they were one of the very rare most happily married couples I ever seen!

Originally posted by: H_H_

Pure love does not mean not having physical attraction, what Harman felt initially for Saumya was intense physical attraction! When he first knew her kinnar truth, he tried to convince himself that if he cannot have sexual gratification from her, then he does not need her, and/or should hate her!
But the more he knew her, the more his feelings developed, and included other sorts of feelings, deeper feelings.
True, pure love here means, that in spite of having feelings of physical attraction, but you're welling to sacrifice those baser physical needs, because your need to be close to that person is much greater than any other need!
BTW, being kinnar is not the only sort of obstacle in the way of sexual gratification between any couple!
I had an uncle who loved his wife so much, that even when right after marriage discovered that she has a heart condition that makes marital relations an absolute danger to her life, he preferred to live with her for the rest of their lives, sans any sexual relations, rather than marrying anyone else!
And let me tell you; they were one of the very rare most happily married couples I ever seen!

Originally posted by: zubeada

<font color="#ff0000">Love means romantic love that ends into consummation , n DTS main diff b/w love n frndship I.e. physical attraction.</font>

no comment😕

Originally posted by: pallavi_

why no comment.. I want a good and LOGICAL discussion.. then why a guy opts to have a gf when he can share everything wd his guy friend n help him every time.
This is how it works man.. n biggest diff b/w love n frndship.. otherwise bth are same

Originally posted by: pallavi_

I disagree!! Love does not ask for sacrifices 😊
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All relationships (of all kinds) require a degree of sacrifice, as nobody is complete, and no relation is perfect, one has to give up somethings in order to gain what's most important for them. It's all about priorities.
Maybe another man would have felt that his need for sex is greater than his need to be with his beloved... but for Harman, his need to be close to her, is the greatest of all, for him.



mmmnnn... Sorry, not really sure what u'r getting at here...

Edited by H_H_ - 8 years ago