Over the last few days I have had a lot of time to think and have finally made up my mind. I have decided to stay back and I now wish to be the ideal bahu, just like every other bahu in the Kashyap family.
Last week was hectic, as Badi Maa was ill and in the process. Amidst all the tension I forgot to wish my sister Sanju on her birthday. Later, Papa called me and reminded me and there was a party arranged to celebrate Sanju's birthday. I had to go to the party, but I promised Badi ma that I would be back soon. Ishaan could not make it since he was held up with some work. When I returned, everybody was surprised to see me back so early.
Ishaan didn't bother to ask about Badi ma's health. He was more interested in eating the cake. He also stopped me from going into Badi ma's room, but I was adamant. I entertained her by telling her jokes. In return, she told me childhood stories of Ishaan, Inder and Ilesh bhaiya.
The next day, Badi ma called us to tell us about Panna Didi's housewarming puja, but nobody felt like going. The family then began talking of painting the house and Badi ma told me to choose the new colours. We then began talking about the family going to Agra. That's when Ishaan reminded me that I have to leave the house. I then told him that I wasn't leaving. He said that if had planned on staying, then I would have to be the ideal daughter-in-law. So I have started grooming myself to become the best bahu of the family. I've also been watching a lot of soap operas to see how the 'ideal daughter-in-law' should be. Badi ma during our time together taught me how to do pujas. I'm trying to adapt to these customs and making an effort to learn the ways of the family.
I met my father, who was so happy and pleasantly surprised to see me so well settled. I've realised that seeing people I love around me happy, makes me happy. I've learned the value of communication in the family. I've also learned where to draw the line and not say something that would hurt my husband and the Kashyaps. Watching the Kashyaps has also taught me the value of being responsible. You enjoy doing more things around the house and having a say in family matters. Earlier, it wasn't the case, but now they seek my opinion in all important issues.
Looking at my life at the Kashyaps, I've also learned that to be an ideal bahu, you need to be responsible. This doesn't apply to me only. It's for all us daughter-in-laws in general. Our society is such that we share that bond with our in-laws. We can sort out differences and work towards a great relationship. However, we need to realise that we, as daughter-in-laws need to listen to our husband's mother. Sharing a good bond with them is ideal to a great marriage. Most boys are mama's boys and will go out of their way to make their mothers happy. If we realise this, then half the battle is won. We also need to have good communication skills with our spouses and their parents, so that issues, if any, can be sorted out amicably and there is no room for confusion or misunderstanding. It is also important to make small but crucial changes in order to fit in to your husband's family, after all you will be following their way of life post marriage. But in all of this don't lose who you are, your identity. It's all about striking that right balance.
My relationship with Ishaan, although I'm a little angry with him, is one of mutual respect. If you respect your spouse, it's good for the marriage. We also give each other our space and I appreciate that.
So now that I've decided to stay with the family, don't forget to watch Sasural Genda Phool every Monday to Friday at 7.30 pm on STAR Plus. Do write in to me at suhana@starplus.in . I would love to hear from you.
Here are my replies to some of your messages:
Bhumika Kayasth: Hey Suhana !!! How are you? Hope you're fine. This is Bhumika Kayasth from Bharuch. You act really well. I love the way you get into your role. You have great comic timing.
Suhana: Hi Bhumika, thanks for your comments. I love acting in this show and I appreciate the fact that you think I have great comic timing. I find it tough sometimes, but it's thanks to people like you that the show is still successful
Noshin Nawar: Hey Suhana, I am Noshin Nawar from Bangladesh (14 years old). First of all i want to wish you Eid Mubarak and I just wanted to tell that the Maha episode last Saturday was really great. It was the funniest epi of SGP. Thanks to you and the whole SGP team for giving us such a nice episode. Waiting for the next episode.
Suhana: Hey Noshin, I'm glad you enjoyed the maha episode, we had a lot of fun shooting it as well. Shooting for 7 episodes continuopusly can be quite hectic, but such messages from fans like you makes it all worth it.
Nitin: Hey Suhana, How're you? Please don't leave Ishaan's home. You fit in that family. I am Nitin and I regularly watch your show.
Suhana: Hey I am not leaving the Kashyap family. Don't worry about that. I love them too much to hurt them.
Mehak: Hey Suhana, This is Mehak here. You are very good at your work. Work hard and keep it up. All the best to you.
Suhana: Hi Mehek, thanks for your kind words. I always try to give my best.
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