Pay attn to your OWN life Sadhna! - Page 2

Originally posted by: aaratig

this will be great

😊 yeah! dnt u agree? and this way hubby Alekhji will feel important, get to create a more deeper and team bond w/ Sadhna, and above all wont go thru this negative phase of being left alone...both r very cute, and 2 heads better than one, i mean he already doesnt like sonia she could just tell him her feelingz/experience or listen to him why he's not liking her as he's heard her talk on phone too....i know he's not in right state of mind but enough so to understand and he DOES infact listen too...so if she tellz to keep sum info to him self he would...u never know, maybe he could be the only 'sane' person of family to actually figure out a solution to this fraud! 😡

Anywayz i just felt itz better than her tackling this situation herself...imagine if instead both Alekhji n Sadhna were telling this to Ranveer n Vasu yesterday instead of Sadhna alone...wouldnt it hold more weight?!! Alekh could say also that i've heard her talk like this on phone...and both Vasu/Ranveer know that Alekh's got no other interest/motive at heart than love 4 his bro...

that wuz my point, because frankly yes Sadhna shouldnt leave Alekhji i agree, but to know a Truth which may destroy family....one in their right mind does have a responsibility to do something if they care rather than to sit around in a room with hubby all day and watch all thingz fall apart. 😕

Ultimately, i feel Sadhna's going about it the wrong way...in leaving Alekhji too because her responsiblity lies there too! along with this big lie she knows can destroy family is her responsibility too! That's why i feel she should go about handling it Wisely...getting her hubby into the action is my one possible suggestion😉

^Very well said! Telling Alekh wud probably be the best thing to do at a time like this. In today's episode he was asking her, but all she said was that she needed his support. What's that gonna help unless she tells him everything?!

The family knows Alekh is mental, but that he's never delusional and just imagines things! So obv if he says that he overheard her saying things on the phone... they wud atleast get a little doubt in their mind! Not sharing this revelation with someone who will believe it will put too much stress on Sadhna... which means she'll have trouble focusing on Alekh!

She really needs to tell him!

yeh i agree if she keeps telling tales about sonia then vasu is just gonna think she is jelous of her because ranvir didnt choose ragani she should just wait until sonia divorces ranvir then say hahah i told u so then everyone will say why didnt we listen to you sadhna were sorry

...see what i think people fail 2 see is that Sadhna will get even more brownie points 4 saving family! 👏
...otherwise, yea sure they'll be torn by this Truth, but did u guyz think that they can feel she didnt go about handling the truth properly? Like she could've better exposed it! and why she didnt say all the facts like when that Karan guy came at night?!! I mean she left that info out right and nor did she tell anyone. 😕
...Sadhna may lose credibility this way also that, ok fine she knew the truth but she wasn't capable enough to save her family from disaster! I mean obviously exposure or handling such stuff is always a challenge and not a piece of cake! 😆
...i personally think it'd be better if she could (w/ Alekji by her side) save the family! Think about this,---> she'll not only be seen as Correct in the eyes of family but Also she'll gain LOTS appreciation and credit 4 actually SAVING them! and believe me that's a Very good point that will speak alot about her capability of strength and mind...it's actually much Much better if it goes this way!! 😉

Well if taking care of Alekh is Sadhna's responsibility, being concerned about the welfare of her 'sasural' is also her responsibility. In our Indian culture, once a girl is married, she is not only responsible for her husband, but also his family and parents. She becomes responsible to take care of the welfare of his family as well. And as we all have seen, Sadhana follows the typical Indian culture (like touching husband's feet, etc), so definitely she takes it as her responsibility to save her 'devar' from being deceived.

And as far as Alekh is concerned, agreed he is her responsibility but does that mean that now Sadhana should stop doing things she believes in, stop doing things that keeps her happy, etc., and ONLY focus on Alekh? C'mon she is also a human being and she also has a life, inspite of this she is trying to fulfil her responsibilties perfectly by sacrificing things that makes her happy for the sake of her mentally ill husband. Initially she had married him for a reason, i.e., to get her sister Ragini married to Ranvir, but even after she realised that the main reason y she agreed to get married to and take care of Alekh would no longer happen, still she decided to stick to the marriage and fulfil her responsibilities as Alekhs' wife. Never she complains of anything, even if ppl talk to her or behaves to her badly, she never even back answers anyone. She is only 18 years old and which 18 year old girl of her age would sacrifice her happiness and take so much responsibilites on her head? At her age, every girl dreams of a husband who would take care of her but here she is taking complete care of her husband.

So what I am trying to say is, I think everyone needs to give Sadhana a break, she is doing the best she can, I dont think it is right on the part of ppl to expect her to be near Alekh 24 hours and forget watever else she wants to do in life, and appreciate her for doing atleast this much without any ulteriour motive behind this sacrifice and love towards Alekh.

Originally posted by: Shawna

I think Sadhna would be helping the welfare of her sasural by listening to
them. Vasu has asked Sadhna to look after Alekh, and that Alekh should
be Sadhnas first responsiblity. Vasu has told Sadhna that if Sadhna shows
love and care to Alekh, that Vasu feels Alekh will become normal again.
By helping Alekh become normal, Sadhna would earn the respect of her
sasural.

Being a tradional indian girl your happiness is with your family or sasural
first. I do not think it is fair that Alekh is portraied in some peoples eyes
as a burden. He is a loving and caring person, plus Sadhna new his
condition before she married him. It is not fair to Alekh that his wife
married him for her own selfish reason, come on he is a human being
too. It shows good character of Sadhna to not have left Alekh after the
hope of rajini and ranbir marry. The agreement to marry Alekh was
between Sadhna and Vasu, and Alekh was in the middle, they were both
playing with his life, and feelings. He could have been hurt or become
more ill of the shock of Sadhna leaving.

If I was in this situation, and I was being told by my sasural that my
husband is getting better after I have been in his life. I would step it up a
notch and help him get better sooner than later, so that my sasural and I
could have a better life with Alekh.

If Sadhna had a child she would not leave the responsibility of the child to
focus on her devar first, unfortuntaley Alekh needs her now and she
should focus on him first and all the time, if the Sasural have asked her
too. The Sasural are very wealthy, and wealthy people don't become
wealthy by being stupid, they are usually very smart people. I am sure
Sasural will figure it out, and if it is too late, then I think Vasu will now how to handle Sonia.

I think Vasu should investigate what Sadhna has told her, after all it is the life of her son. If Vasu does not investigate Sonia, to me it would be out of Vasus character. To me Vasu is this smart, and rich lady. I think in business people deal with many different kinds of people, and they always investigate or get references to make sure the people they are associating with are okay to deal with.

I think Alekh and Sadhna need to be happy. Alekh is Sadhnas husband
and her happiness is with him, she should not look outside to other
things to be happy.

I dont agree to u fully. What you have spoken is Alekh's point of view, what I had spoken is Sadhna's point of view. And it was Vasu who was playing with Alekh's life and not Sadhana, Sadhana dint even know Alekh and he was no one to her, then why should she simply sacrifice her life and marry him? Every girl of her age dreams of her dream man, without any solid reason y would or y should she sacrifice her dream's for Vasu's son whom she dint even know at that time, and who tried to attack her later on? Any practical human being will not be ready to do something like that. If tommorow someone asks u to marry a mentally ill person when u have ur own dreams about ur husband, would u be willing to? There might be exceptional ppl who do such things without any reason, but in todays world, nobody will! And just because someone refuses to take up the responsibility, that wouldnt mean that person is selfish or mean. I mean if someone asks me whether I can marry someone like that, definitely my answer will be NO. Not only me, 99% of the girls will say the same thing.

Sadhna knows Sonia's true colours, and being a straight forward and sincere person, definitely she cannot act as if everything is ok. She genuinely loves her devar and knows how deeply he is attached to Sonia, so she doesnt want him to be hurt eventually! And all of us know that she is doing her best for Alekh, so sometimes even if she defaults I dont think ppl should make a big issue of it, rather appreciate her for other good things she is doing for Alekh (especially tolerating his tantrums without uttering a single word, and insults from various family members).