why people keep blaming gopi

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kereisha33

@kereisha33

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Posted: 10 years ago

i see where some people are coming from but for me gopi did the right thing she did not want her family to see a weak gopi in jail. And her children to now where she has gone. which person has the guts to look at there children and say am going to jail for 14 years. and other kid will tease her kid in a way she was protecting them in her own way.

ahem raise the kid really bad.for me vidya look like she don't like calling mansi mom it's for me it's meera

who like calling mansi mom.vidya will leave ahem and meera and go to goip.

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Nikki

@touch_of_pink

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Posted: 10 years ago

Posting my view from a previous thread:

What gopi said after she got sentenced to jail about not wanting any of the family members to visit her in jail was right and it was right of her to say that she did not want meera and vidya to know and see her in jail.

Please explain to me how this is right. How can you lie to a 10 and 8 year old up until the age of 24 and 22 years old about where their mother is? How can you prevent your children from having the presence of their mother in their life? If Kokila and Gopi firmly believe that what Gopi did was right, why then hide the jail sentence from them? Why not proudly say 'your mother did a noble thing, she made a big sacrifice for the life of another person and you should be proud of your mother'. If she didn't want them to see her, why not keep in touch with letters? Could they not have talked on the phone? Couldn't Gopi have kept the contact intact for the times when Meera and Vidya desperately wanted to talk to their mother? Could she have not told Ahem that despite the distance between them, she can still be his support? If he felt like he could not cope without her, that he could talk to her in those times and keep his spirits up? If he didn't know how to handle a situation with Meera and Vidya, he could ask her for her advice? Despite the distance between them, they could still work together and bring up their daughters in the best way possible in the circumstances, because isn't that what marriage and parenthood is about?

What's the point in blaming Mansi? Her fault is that she took advantage of a situation which was created by Ahem and Gopi.

I blame Gopi and Ahem for turning marriage and parenthood into a joke.

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/saath-nibhaana-saathiya/4327951/gohem-mansi

Edited by touch_of_pink - 10 years ago

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kavita

@kavitha_r

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: touch_of_pink
Posting my view from a previous thread:

What gopi said after she got sentenced to jail about not wanting any of the family members to visit her in jail was right and it was right of her to say that she did not want meera and vidya to know and see her in jail.

Please explain to me how this is right. How can you lie to a 10 and 8 year old up until the age of 24 and 22 years old about where their mother is? How can you prevent your children from having the presence of their mother in their life? If Kokila and Gopi firmly believe that what Gopi did was right, why then hide the jail sentence from them? Why not proudly say 'your mother did a noble thing, she made a big sacrifice for the life of another person and you should be proud of your mother'. If she didn't want them to see her, why not keep in touch with letters? Could they not have talked on the phone? Couldn't Gopi have kept the contact intact for the times when Meera and Vidya desperately wanted to talk to their mother? Could she have not told Ahem that despite the distance between them, she can still be his support? If he felt like he could not cope without her, that he could talk to her in those times and keep his spirits up? If he didn't know how to handle a situation with Meera and Vidya, he could ask her for her advice? Despite the distance between them, they could still work together and bring up their daughters in the best way possible in the circumstances, because isn't that what marriage and parenthood is about?

What's the point in blaming Mansi? Her fault is that she took advantage of a situation which was created by Ahem and Gopi.

I blame Gopi and Ahem for turning marriage and parenthood into a joke.

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/saath-nibhaana-saathiya/4327951/gohem-mansi

If Ahem broke the relations with the Modis, he is not bound by that promise. He still could have visited Gopi & could have taken tips from her to handle the kids. But he did not do that. The kids were 10 years & 8 years old respectively. So Gopi should have thought about that. Even in Rashi's death, only Meera knew that among all the kids then why was this hidden from Meera?

Ahem & Gopi - both are at fault.

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Nikki

@touch_of_pink

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: sharoon3210

If Ahem broke the relations with the Modis, he is not bound by that promise. He still could have visited Gopi & could have taken tips from her to handle the kids. But he did not do that. The kids were 10 years & 8 years old respectively. So Gopi should have thought about that. Even in Rashi's death, only Meera knew that among all the kids then why was this hidden from Meera?

Ahem & Gopi - both are at fault.

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Yes, I agree. The topic was about Gopi which is why my response was about her.

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kavita

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: touch_of_pink

@bold
Yes, I agree. The topic was about Gopi which is why my response was about her.

They blame her for the promise that she inflicted on the family. Killing Radha was a stupidity. Vouching promise on the family not to meet her in jail was even more foolish.

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fahima1234

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Posted: 10 years ago

Yeah I agree, people need to stop bashing our gopi .
What she did was right. I know gopi took the wrong step in killing radha but radha compelled gopi and made her angrier that gopi had enough of her evil doings by killing her and remember she tried to kill her own daughter rashi and totured her maaji.

Gopi wasn't wrong in telling kokila and the family not to visit her in jail because she didn't want them to see her weak in jail and she definitely did not want her daughters to see her in jail because it would hurt them to see their mother in jail but no, ahem failed to understand gopi and failed to see what gopi was doing for their daughters was for their best interest.

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zeezee09

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Posted: 10 years ago

I believe that what Gopi did was an integral part of the story line, leading to new tracks. We, as viewers would not have appreciated if everything went on smooth. Smooth as in : the whole Modi clan keeping in touch with Gopi, going to meet her in jail with a bouquet of flowers and bringing her pictures of her daughters growing up...that would hv been a very boring story line. I give credit to the writers for taking this option and give us something to watch.

In the past, the writers dished many weird story lines. For the first time they are doing something right, maybe not very real to life plot, but still acceptable.

I am not saying Gopi's decision was right, all I am saying that it was necessary for the progression of the new plot after the leap.

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kavita

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: fahima1234
Yeah I agree, people need to stop bashing our gopi .
What she did was right. I know gopi took the wrong step in killing radha but radha compelled gopi and made her angrier that gopi had enough of her evil doings by killing her and remember she tried to kill her own daughter rashi and totured her maaji.

Gopi wasn't wrong in telling kokila and the family not to visit her in jail because she didn't want them to see her weak in jail and she definitely did not want her daughters to see her in jail because it would hurt them to see their mother in jail but no, ahem failed to understand gopi and failed to see what gopi was doing for their daughters was for their best interest.

Her daughters were already 10 and 8 years old respectively at that time. How can she hide this fact from them. They have a right to know where their mom is.

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kavita

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Posted: 10 years ago

People still continue to blame Gopi. I agree that Gopi is very much at fault. She has made a lot of mistakes by believing Radha that she has changed and giving her the baby. She did a foolish thing to kill Radha & cut the family contacts. However, it is not completely her fault. Kokila is the root cause for all the troubles. When Paridhi came, Kokila wanted to throw her out of the house. When Gopi gathered the evidence and called the cops to arrest Paridhi, Kokila changed her mind and Ahem did not question her. Radha re-entered MM because of Paridhi. When Kokila supported Paridhi, Ahem agreed to it and he also coaxed Jigar to accept Paridhi. It was everybody's fault. Then how can Ahem tell that she gave more importance to the outsiders than his family. Jigar and Paridhi are also the part of the Modis. They are not the outsiders. He told the girls that Gopi gave preference to Rashi over them which is very much wrong.

A man does not have any right to abuse his wife no matter how much ever mistakes she makes. He can confront her. He can explain her why it is wrong but without abusing her in any way whether it is verbal, physical, mental or emotional.