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Ok people are going to have to bear with me here now because I am catching up and I am a month late with this rant but I'm going to write it anyway!!
I am annoyed with Dhaval. So if the rest of you can cast your mind back to the episode where Falguni fell onto the bed with Dhaval you'll get where I am. I've just seen Dhaval give Kinjal a lecture on trust in their relationship. Well I wanted to stop him right in his tracks. As far as I can tell Kinjal never distrusted Dhaval before. She may not have liked him and she didn't want to be married to him but she did trust him. I mean she would have to to sleep not only in the same room as him but also in the same bed yet be comfortable enough to know nothing was going to happen. He was the one, along with his BFF that sowed the first seeds of distrust. If he and Falguni hadn't made out like there was something between them then Kinjal wouldn't have harboured any misgivings in the first place. Yeah she was a little suspicious when Falguni was first mentioned all those many months ago but if Dhaval had been open and honest then, put Kinjal at ease then she wouldn't have built all these scenarios in her head. It's very easy to get niggly suspicious thoughts but difficult to be completely free of them.
If I was in Kinjal's shoes I would have reacted in the same way at seeing my husband on a bed with another woman. Especially if said other woman had been actively trying to make me jealous for whatever reason beforehand.
As for Dhaval's claim that he was scared of speaking to Kinjal before Falguni came along to bolster his courage well I'm sorry to say that I have no sympathy for the man. He knew what he was getting into. Kinjal never spoke nicely to him before marriage so he had no reason to believe she would after, especially as he knowingly married her whilst she believed herself to be in love with another man and was practically hog tied to the altar.
I could feel for him because it has been two years and surely Kinjal should be resigned to her fate but at times I think that Dhaval brought it on himself. Should he ever have expected love from Kinjal?
I am gong to take into account the three couples we have;
GoHem
Gopi was always the one with the expectations. She went into her marriage expecting happiness, acceptance and love from her new family and her husband. Through no fault of her own she was manipulated into a situation that led her to heartache and unhappiness for a heck of a long time.
To a certain extent Ahem was a victim too. Forced to give up who he thought he loved to marry a woman of his mother's choice. I fully believe though that had it not been for those pesky external influences Ahem would have accepted Gopi much quicker. He would have seen her internal and external beauty and fallen in love as he has now.
RaJi
This time it is Jigar with the expectations of love. He was unaware of the machinations and believed he had a good friendship with Rashi that over time would turn their hasty marriage into a loving relationship. However I have less time for Jigar because now that he knows Rashi's faults he wilfully turns a blind eye to them at times. But theirs is a work in progress. The love is there on both sides even though love wasn't an expectation on Rashi's side. She had her own motives, but it happened even if the girl puts herself first. A selfish love but love none the less. The point is there was no past relationship to cloud the issue and no one was forced into anything even if Jigar was compromised the choice of marriage was his.
KinVal
This is what gets me. Is Dhaval right to expect Kinjal to love him eventually? We all know she will but my personal feeling is that they could be married their whole lives without Kinjal feeling love for him and I wouldn't blame her. And I wouldn't think Dhaval would have a leg to stand on if he complained.
He chose to marry a woman who believed herself in love and also thought she'd been betrayed by her family. She was emotionally blackmailed and physically brought to the altar. Dhaval behaved selfishly because he liked Kinjal, he knew full well she didn't like him. Yes originally it was to save Kinjals rep as she was thought to be pregnant but it could also be seen that he used the situatu=ion to his own advantage. He saw the opportunity and took it - it doesn't make him a bad perosn but still... After the marriage he made her stay with the MIL from hell.
When his own charm and personality wasn't working he brought a third person into their relationship and then has the audacity to spout off about trust... The guy should have watched a few episodes of Ricki Lake - if you lie to a person you sow the seeds of mistrust and then you only have yourself to blame!
Please people tell me it gets better!!!!
And on a completely unrelated note -
Gopi has been missing and in trouble so many times. Would it kill the CVs to let me see Ahemji rescuing her? Yes the big, strong man coming to the rescue is a cliche that has been done to death but that's exactly what I want!!
Rant over and I can go back to watching Dhaval tick me off!!!
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