|DOTW| - How much spoiling is too much spoiling?

Here I am guys with this weeks DOTW.😊 Spoiling children and indulging them.. How far can one go? Is there a point where one should stop and put the foot down?

In SNS we have had Rashi throwing tantrums for the past few months and her every wish and whim being satisfied by her sasural.

There is a saying "Save the rod, spoil the child"

Not to be taken literally of course. Corporal punishment is not exactly recommended. But how much should one give in to unreasonable demands? Be it a child or a grown up?

How much spoiling is too much spoiling? There is no doubt that at times we do like to indulge our loved ones. We care for them and want to see them happy. But where should this stop?

Is it right to keep letting our loved ones go in a path that we know is not correct just because they are crying and throw a tantrum? Or should one take a stand, however hard it is?

What do you think would be the way to tackle people like Rashi?

Harini, not quite sane atm 🤣 Will come back later and comment.

Originally posted by: Xarina

Harini, not quite sane atm 🤣 Will come back later and comment.

My mom and dad have brought my brother and I up so that we don't take things for granted.

I think the worst part of spoiling a kid is that u r setting them up to think the world revolves around them ... So if u aren't a billionaire .. That's a pretty stupid thing to do ...

My parents have spoil me ... But my parents have always told me not to take things for granted... love & Family is the most important ... with out the support of your family you are dirt poor... and not to take avantage of others when they are down...coz you could love everything in the blink of a eye... hope that make sense...

Nice topic. OK I am sane in my book so consider myself fit enough to answer if not spell properly or make typos😃.

Xari, you talked wonderful sense👏


Spoiling someone is not bad really but there needs to be a limit in everything and spoiling has a limit. There are parents who over indulge their kids today and I think these parents forget that the child would either be scorned or become a bully if they just let this superiority get to them 😕


@Sunny - Don't you think that even if you have the world at your feet, not teaching your child to be sensible like Swasthi says will lead to disaster? Yes.. Being a billionaire has its perks but over indulgence will lead to a sense of false superiority which when broken will lead to very bad consequences/

Take Rashi for instance. Her false sense of superiority, that she is bigger and greater than anyone around her led to her thinking that she needs to bring anybody better than her down,especially Gopi.
That is also the reason she thinks she has the right to everything without even trying. If she wishes it, she wants it, no question who suffers or what others have to go through🤢


The saddest part of parents over indulging children is that these children will not and do not understand the amount of hardwork and effort that goes into making their whims and fancy come true.


Is it not the responsibility of elders to show the child the right from wrong? That is why I really dislike it when Baa and Hetal keep saying Rashi is just a kid. A 25 year old, lazy, selfish person is not a child. Rashi can be spoiled but at what cost? How can her no-guilt torture of those around be called as childish?

One question.. Was Rashi angry that she was not pampared like a 'Boy' would be or was she really angry at what Urmi did for the act? Sorry I can never tell with Rashi😉

BTW, one thing is for sure.. Rashi thinks that she deserves the same treatment from her mom as she thought a son would have.. I do not think she got any less pampering. It made her who she is today. Selfish.. So she has to learn to take the good with the bad

Like she accepts Urmi's words as bible when it suits her, she has to take her mother's evil ideas along with it.. But just like Rashi to make herself self righteous😊