i miss the old SNS forum :( DISCUSSION HERE - Page 2

Originally posted by: Nafisa_blossoms

Impossible task to return the relationships to the way the were before all the fighting. It's better just to stay a split forum. I read the bitchy comments I definitely I'm not on the journey of being together anymore, thanks bashers. Maybe I will feel differently in the future and will want to have a laugh with people that bashed me, but not right now, and I would appreciate it if Xsumi you respected my view, as you are not putting yourself in my footsteps, were you me, would you have opened a post and say can't we all just get along? I know you read what the bashers had to say as you went they and put one post and were told not to come there as you were not invited. Read through everything and you will understand how I feel.

Sorry to be negative to the people that are in the middle, not attached to the show and want to come to have fun on the forum and the show is not the main focus.

A word of advise Xsumi, sometimes it's better if you don't jump in and try to resolve the problem without putting yourself in the place of both sides.

I miss it too. But I don't know what to say... It just happened overnight... the mood changed so suddenly... No matter what people think, this change on the forum was not needed. It could have been handled better just like the show.

Originally posted by: Aish3003

I miss it too. But I don't know what to say... It just happened overnight... the mood changed so suddenly... No matter what people think, this change on the forum was not needed. It could have been handled better just like the show.

I used to spend hours here... like literally... way into the wee hours of the night... but now I can't spend more than 15 minutes... I know I sound like a "traitor" or whatever the new word on the forum is... but I so miss my time here.

It just doesn't feel familiar at all...

same here Aish,, completely agree with ur point

but i always find some reason to try to be on. . but I honeslty have lost all motivation I ever had. . completely shattered. . . . I wud be on even during exam times just to get my daily forum dosage/ reading some giant SS on the train lol. . but now. . i cant help it despite allt he trying but i feel completely devoid. . 😭

The show went through a huge and quick change. Hence forum went through a huge and quick change as well.

Originally posted by: Aish3003

I miss it too. But I don't know what to say... It just happened overnight... the mood changed so suddenly... No matter what people think, this change on the forum was not needed. It could have been handled better just like the show.

I used to spend hours here... like literally... way into the wee hours of the night... but now I can't spend more than 15 minutes... I know I sound like a "traitor" or whatever the new word on the forum is... but I so miss my time here.

It just doesn't feel familiar at all...

I know exactly how you feel. Miss you too Aish, I agree the change on the forum was not needed. 😕

Originally posted by: aris22l

Christine, I see you didn't mention my name, but is that me in your siggy?

Oh no I forgot the most important person, so sowwie😉 Yea, that's you dancing 😆

I miss the past but I will have to live in the present as everyone else. It seems to be easy to write a hard word, to make room for your anger, your annoyance, your pain, your grief. You do it without thinking about it. Not thinking about how the other side will receive it or not carring because you have been hurt first, have been let down first and then after the beginning is made we lose sight of the real reason it started. Nobody knows but all believe to know who is responsible. Because there isn't just this one comment, this one member, this one reason but many of all. If emotions boil over there is no reason just feelings and if that happens thinks are said, which would have better be remained unspoken. And now that we think about it, our heads and hearts have cooled down we find that we are not able to take them back all that easily. Ahem has to learn this lesson in the moment as well. Now he wished he kept his cool but in the situation he couldn't.

It is very hard to forgive. It needs inner strength but it also needs the other person working hard to show that they deserve forgiveness. I don't believe that simply saying I didn't mean it or I am sorry if I did that or that will be enough.

However it is not good to hold on to hard feelings. What is your gain? What will it give you to not forgive? It will give you pain. It will make you think again and again about things that hurt you, that pull you down and make you sad. But if you should try to fogive what will it give you? Another person, who was hurt also but now is willing to help you over your pain as he helps you over yours. It will give you the possibility to joke about with them again. Be happy again. To put the hurtful past behind.

Everyone deserves a second chance and I believe this forum does as well. We all deserve as well. Yes I have been hurt or let down by things that went on here. Yes I also have let people down, I hurt people, which I didn't intend to do, but I didn't think, which no good excuse, if it is one at all. I am no innocent. No saint. I am responsible as well as many others on both 'sides'.

I know sorry is not enough but still it has to be said. I am sorry for the part I played. I am sorry for hurting anyone or letting anyone down. I am sorry. You can accept this apology or you cannot do so. It is simply your decision and nobody will be able to make it for you.

Lastly I wish all the forum members all the best and that there will be a time when you come to this forum again and feel like smiling or if you deceid to leave all the best and a life full of smiles and happiness.

Originally posted by: Nafisa_blossoms

Impossible task to return the relationships to the way the were before all the fighting. It's better just to stay a split forum. I read the bitchy comments I definitely I'm not on the journey of being together anymore, thanks bashers. Maybe I will feel differently in the future and will want to have a laugh with people that bashed me, but not right now, and I would appreciate it if Xsumi you respected my view, as you are not putting yourself in my footsteps, were you me, would you have opened a post and say can't we all just get along? I know you read what the bashers had to say as you went they and put one post and were told not to come there as you were not invited. Read through everything and you will understand how I feel.

Sorry to be negative to the people that are in the middle, not attached to the show and want to come to have fun on the forum and the show is not the main focus.

A word of advise Xsumi, sometimes it's better if you don't jump in and try to resolve the problem without putting yourself in the place of both sides.

Originally posted by: Ichangedit

I miss the past but I will have to live in the present as everyone else. It seems to be easy to write a hard word, to make room for your anger, your annoyance, your pain, your grief. You do it without thinking about it. Not thinking about how the other side will receive it or not carring because you have been hurt first, have been let down first and then after the beginning is made we lose sight of the real reason it started. Nobody knows but all believe to know who is responsible. Because there isn't just this one comment, this one member, this one reason but many of all. If emotions boil over there is no reason just feelings and if that happens thinks are said, which would have better be remained unspoken. And now that we think about it, our heads and hearts have cooled down we find that we are not able to take them back all that easily. Ahem has to learn this lesson in the moment as well. Now he wished he kept his cool but in the situation he couldn't.

It is very hard to forgive. It needs inner strength but it also needs the other person working hard to show that they deserve forgiveness. I don't believe that simply saying I didn't mean it or I am sorry if I did that or that will be enough.

However it is not good to hold on to hard feelings. What is your gain? What will it give you to not forgive? It will give you pain. It will make you think again and again about things that hurt you, that pull you down and make you sad. But if you should try to fogive what will it give you? Another person, who was hurt also but now is willing to help you over your pain as he helps you over yours. It will give you the possibility to joke about with them again. Be happy again. To put the hurtful past behind.

Everyone deserves a second chance and I believe this forum does as well. We all deserve as well. Yes I have been hurt or let down by things that went on here. Yes I also have let people down, I hurt people, which I didn't intend to do, but I didn't think, which no good excuse, if it is one at all. I am no innocent. No saint. I am responsible as well as many others on both 'sides'.

I know sorry is not enough but still it has to be said. I am sorry for the part I played. I am sorry for hurting anyone or letting anyone down. I am sorry. You can accept this apology or you cannot do so. It is simply your decision and nobody will be able to make it for you.

Lastly I wish all the forum members all the best and that there will be a time when you come to this forum again and feel like smiling or if you deceid to leave all the best and a life full of smiles and happiness.

appears that SNS forum rank gone down to 13 . . thats the lowest I have seen it ever since i joined IF. . oh well. .