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Hey guys...
Like most of the members of this Forum, I too want Gopi & Ahem to fall in love & unite, I too get mad at Gopi for being plainly stupid at times, not to mention simply angry with Ahem for his sheer insensitivity & lack of basic courtsey towards Gopi (that seems to be changing though..😉), but when i just sit back & think about it objectively, I feel what the CT are showing is a slice of reality...
All marriages do not begin with love...
All serials do eventually get onto the love track bcoz that sustains viewership...
but not all marriages (especially in India bcoz of the big fat Indian male ego & low female self-confidence) even include love in slightest bit...& no for once I am not being my feminist self.
Love-either it happens or it doesnt... when arranged marriages occur & love doesnt happen... there is a bit of heart break for both...divorcing might seem the way to go, but when 2 ppl can co-exist under the same roof with a big family to provide support system & there is fear of outside world, it is not really an option. U eventually learn to adjust without love, mebe even joke with one another down the years, or mebe just silently existing for the sake of it... life sounds to be difficult, but it is liveable...at times, even though u may not be at your happiest... u can be happy. u find other reasons to be happy.
Looking at the protagonists...
Ahem..he has loved & lost in love...time for him to move on... & looks like he is trying & probably doesnt dwell on Anita too much. he being educated, into physical fitness, over-indulged & typically full of male ego, whats wrong in him wanting a modern, educated wife? Yes, he could have been human as well when dealing with her, but he has shown moments of concern even earlier on in the show... when he is not in love & his ganwar wife washes his laptop,does all little things which piss him off...which husband wouldnt get agitated & think...what have i got into??? He is exactly like a lot of men out there...even modern ones... if u r v young &/not married, assess the world in 10 yrs time...u'll have glimpsed such ppl in hordes! Moving on... at least now they are showing his human side, like his concern when she was crying in the rain...i know married men who dont bother when their wives cry, who pretend to be happily married, but the screams behind closed doors reveal a different story...not good, i know... but happens in the real world. & Ahem is not like that.
Gopi... uneducated, perhaps not by choice, unloved, definitely not by choice...married off...without being given the choice! There are times we feel sorry for her, but mostly her idiocy gets to us. But imagine her mental condition...kudos for her to still keep going on. She has known that Rashi/Urmi have been mean to her, but she still clings on to every word they say because she needs to be loved, needs to belong...she fears being all alone & she has known them as family...for good or for bad. Being a simple person, she loves Ahem & knows she is no equal to him... her insecurities will be manifold...plus she is illiterate & traditional to the core. She is bound to make mistakes in all efforts to please him. She is not expecting him to love her...though she might fantasise about it. She is graceful enough to accept this kind of marriage...but many educated women do that too...it tends to become a saving grace. At least she has her heart in the right place..she cares for the family, she smiles instead of moping around all the time...
bhoot track is silly, but even us after discussing the horror movies/ghost stories with friends, would experience a tad bit of discomfort in being all alone in the house on a day of power failure! This is our simple Gopi we r talking about now... of course she is freaking out!
I am not preaching anything here...just saying...loveless marriages r a reality. Characters like Ahem & Gopi r a reality too. I am sure the CTs are going to introduce the love factor within next 12 months(given they move at incredible pace!!)...so hold your guns... & imagine how much worse it is in reality! At least v r not seeing it all!!! Sorry if this bored u to death...i just had to have my say...
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