Parent-Child Relationships Aug 8
As the story moves ahead in QH, we are getting a glimpse into the many complex relationships in this show.
In my opinion, a parent child relationship, in most cases, is one the purest and most selfless of relationships.
As a parent of two children myself, for me the three scenes that really struck a chord were-
1. Shireen-Nikhat scene: This was a very beautiful and emotional scene that depicts the complexity of this relationship. All our life, we grow up to believe that our parents are our biggest advocates, our protectors and well-wishers. At what point, does that role reverse in life? As Nikhat said today, " I couldn't bare to see them insult my parents again and again." Shireen was pleasantly surprised to see how grown up her daughter had become. Until now, Nikhat had complied with her parent's requests, suffered the humiliation at the hands of Haseena bi and agreed to a marriage marred by dowry, verbal abuse and disgrace. Nikhat had surrendered in the name of 'ladki-waale' as she was made to believe that 'ladke waale' had the right to berate her parents and humiliate her time and again. Something snapped and overnight, Nikhat grew from a little girl who just followed her parents blindly, to a woman who has now decided to lead her parents out of this messy situation.
In Shireen's defence, she has always wanted the best for her children but because of lack of education or just ignorance, she has not always acted as their true well-wisher. Razia has taken advantage of Shireen's weakness and manipulated her time and again. Now that Nikhat has 'grown up' and found her voice, will Nikhat guide her mother to the right path? Will Nikhat become the mother in this relationship and help Shireen tear away from Razia's claws.
2. Rashid-Badi Bi scene: Despite all his weaknesses, one has to admire Rashid for his dedication to his ammi, badi bi. Even badi bi has always stood by Rashid through every crisis in his life. If there is one person who understands Rashid's plight inside out then that his ammi. No wonder, it's Rashid who is having the most difficult time since she has 'disappeared.' The agony on his face was once again visible as he lamented that he wouldn't be able to spend Eid with his ammi this year. As he removed the Eid gifts from his trunk, one could tell his heart was not in the gifts or the celebration. Again, at some point in our lives we become responsible for our parents and until they are safe or happy, we can't either. Rashid's happiness not only lies in his kids but also his parent's happiness.
3. Ghafoor-Humeira-Zoya: This has to be my favorite scene of the day. Hats off to Tej Sapru for his portrayal of the plight of a father. Although his scene was short, it really touched my heart and for a moment, I was willing to forgive all his sins and hypocrisy.
His one dialogue – hamara dil tho ro sakta hai, lekin aankhein nahin- summarizes Ghafoor Ahmed Siddiqui very well. This man, despite his sins does have a heart that beats for his two daughters. His feelings for his daughters are pure and untainted. The fact that he has had not made a big deal about Humeira converting to a Hindu and living in a conservative Muslim home tell me that despite his exterior persona of being a 'proper, respectable, religious, upright Muslim,' his love for his daughter will always take priority.
Does that mean he will accept Zoya with open arms? I am not sure. Seeing his craving and plight, I feel his heart will cry for her once he meets her but as he mentioned, 'my heart will cry but my eyes won't,' I feel he will force himself to push her away in the name of society./forced by Razia.
This is one parent-child relationship I am really looking forward to watching.
Ghafoor has committed a lot of sins in his life, but if he accepts Zoya with open arms, selflessly and seeks forgiveness from her, will she reciprocate those feelings? Knowing Zoya, I feel she will, but only if it's unconditional, without expectations and complete.
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