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CVs have done a fine job in butchering the character of Raj even further. Where as he was bearable before as a distraught individual who was in his own world now it is getting utterly ridiculous. Of course I am not saying Sarita, who is unable to tell Vikrant about Raj and of course at some level is reinforcing Raj's behaviour is not to blame but I wanted to share another perspective.
1) Raj is selfish, plain and simple. Now I do not know the meaning of true love but I would hope it doesn't come at the expense of making someone else extremely uncomfortable, upset or distraught. Which is exactly what Raj is making Sarita feel. How is this any kind of loving relationship anyone wants to be in? AND WHY do makers of Hindi serials and movies think it is okay to glorify, almost fetishize this kind of "love?" Where people act emotionally abusive while trying to jump off a building so they can instigate someone else to admit their love...well if it took you standing on top of a building ready to jump off for someone else to admit their love for you, maybe, JUST MAYBE they are extremely uncomfortable with the dynamic of your relationship. I am sorry but I certainly won't want someone to be coerced in to admitting their love for me at the threat of suicide.
2) Second, what the hell is this show promoting, more patriarchy and misogyny (surprise, surprise.) Of course Vikrant is also misogynist in his own way, constantly judging and paying any kind of attention to Sarita based on her mothering attributes, and using his intimidating personality to often shut her up...but the mothering part Sarita wanted to agree to. However Raj, this guy is a whole new level. What is this show promoting, that a girls "no" actually means a "yes" and you should keep pursuing the matter anyways because she obviously does love you, she will eventually say yes as you keep upping the anti.
Raj recognizes that Sarita is emotionally vulnerable and weak, and yes she may be harbouring feelings for him, but to use that to his advantage and emotionally manipulate the situation is beyond misogynistic. Because you know someone may have feelings for you, you keep pushing their buttons putting them in more and more uncomfortable situations until they admit it to you. And of course if she says "no" to kissing Vikrant, you take that as a reinforcement that she loves you? Why can't a persons "no" be taken as a "no" especially the "no" of a woman in these hindi serials. I am sorry but this is an extremely volatile relationships, and in some ways emotionally violent.
How are we promoting any of this as love? Love is not to intimidate or use your emotions to manipulate someone in to doing something (same goes for Vikrant at times where he speaks so ill of Sarita so she will be back on track taking care of his son, who finally he seems to be making some time for.)
And don't even get me started on poor Divya, wow just wow at them taking what was once a strong, independent character and now making her emotions all about Raj, and also what kind of games Raj is playing with her. Why must the female character who actually has goals in her life always then get caught up with a man, and of course I forsee her becoming negative in the future and women only have like two roles in indian serials (soft spoken submissive/totally negative.)
I wish all you ladies find/have a love nothing like this serial.
Lots of love,
Nav
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