I don't get why

Originally posted by: jjj123

Divya can help raj after getting married to Gourav also.I think that is the best scenario.After marriage she can tell Raj that now that she has moved on he should also move on with Sarita but Sarita is asking Divya not to get married untill Raj gives love to her which makes her selfish.Why Divya has to stay with them? And afterhaldi is done if she calls off her wedding who will marryher in future? Does Sarita think this? If she being a strong girl was succumed to family respect in front of society and got married to Raj then have not Divya's family any respect?and what about Gourav.Sarita is not only asking Divya notto get married but also taking away happiness of Gourav and his family only for her happiness.Is not this selfishness?

Originally posted by: fulfillurdreams

I totally get what you're saying. I mean, honestly, it's not Divya's fault that Raj married Sarita. And you make some very valid points, but isn't it a little justified for Sarita to act like this? Selfishly, I mean. She had such high hopes of her marriage but those quickly got crushed. First, she was insulted because Raj didn't come to his own wedding on time, and then he told her on the very night that was supposed to be the most special to her that she shouldn't keep any hopes for their union. That was unfair to the max. And, on top of all that, her family is literally the lowest of the low. They behave as if they're uneducated, wild animals rather than like humans. Sarita is absolutely being 100% irrational. It's not fair to Divya to call off the wedding, but her reaction, after finding out about the identity of her husband's ex-lover, is completely justified. I mean, could you imagine being married to a guy for 10 years who never even talked to you. Even in the old Punar Vivah, Yash and Aarti talked to each other even though their union was a loveless one. In my opinion, her anger and irrationality is justified. Plus, Divya could not, appropriately, aid Sarita in her quest for her husband's love after marriage. She would always have to maintain a safe distance for the sanctity of her own union. Although, honestly, I think by asking Divya such a favor, Sarita is inviting more trouble in her own life than it's worth.

Originally posted by: fulfillurdreams

I totally get what you're saying. I mean, honestly, it's not Divya's fault that Raj married Sarita. And you make some very valid points, but isn't it a little justified for Sarita to act like this? Selfishly, I mean. She had such high hopes of her marriage but those quickly got crushed. First, she was insulted because Raj didn't come to his own wedding on time, and then he told her on the very night that was supposed to be the most special to her that she shouldn't keep any hopes for their union. That was unfair to the max. And, on top of all that, her family is literally the lowest of the low. They behave as if they're uneducated, wild animals rather than like humans. Sarita is absolutely being 100% irrational. It's not fair to Divya to call off the wedding, but her reaction, after finding out about the identity of her husband's ex-lover, is completely justified. I mean, could you imagine being married to a guy for 10 years who never even talked to you. Even in the old Punar Vivah, Yash and Aarti talked to each other even though their union was a loveless one. In my opinion, her anger and irrationality is justified. Plus, Divya could not, appropriately, aid Sarita in her quest for her husband's love after marriage. She would always have to maintain a safe distance for the sanctity of her own union. Although, honestly, I think by asking Divya such a favor, Sarita is inviting more trouble in her own life than it's worth.