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Posted: 12 years ago
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I just thought of analyzing how seperation will affect SURYA. They have become intimate after 2 yrs in marriage and before that love could blossom completely they are getting seperated. It would have been fine if they were in a liberal atmosphere where they have freedom to talk as much as they want over phone or atleast for Sooraj to visit her ocasionally.
But in SURYA's case there is a big barrier called Bhabo who simply does not like her son expressing love for his wife.
Imagine Sandhya is away. Sooraj definetely will have missing moments. But whenever he does some mistake over this missing moments what he will get. Taunts and more taunts from Bhabo on why she was correct that Sandhya should never have been allowed IPS. Because he allowed her to go for IPS he has to suffer. She will never give him permission to go and visit his wife as she doesnt consider it fit for a man to miss his better half. Remember how rudely she made Mohit drop Sandhya at her maayka during chutki's birth and how angry she was when Sooraj visited Sandhya's maayka without her permission.
Ok now let us assume they have the phone and Sooraj calls and speaks to her. GG room will be open and Bhabo will monitor that also in addition to phone bills. Any extra amount on phone bill will be questioned and Sooraj has to answer the expenditure of his own hard earned money and he has to justify it why he was spending so much talking to his wife. So all this will make Sooraj do some activities chupke chupke and he will never be able to express himself to Sandhya completely and will not be in a position to offer complete emotional support which she might badly need.
Now coming to Sandhya. She had lived a cocoon life before marriage and after marriage also we can say a sheltered life as Sooraj was there to hold her every step. It is for the first time she is on her own without any emotional support. Sandhya's EQ is low and she always try to hold on to relationship even suffering abuse. We had seen it when she agreed for marriage and then suffering in the hands of Bhabo just to hold on to a family because she was afraid to be alone. In IPS training camp she will exactly feel that. Completely alone. With strict training schedules , tougher rules it will be a emotional turmoil for Sandhya to handle it without someone to fall back on. She might not tell all her troubles to Sooraj as she might not want him to worry as she know he cannot come because of Bhabo. So Sandhya herself will have to meander through problems and it is maybe here they are gonna place Neil's character. The emotional support of Sandhya as a good friend.
But it is going to be a tough thing for SURYA with Bhabo in middle

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Separation at an early stage in a marriage is quite tough.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Long seperation at any stage of marriage is difficult
I need all the tissues around to watch these epis
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Posted: 12 years ago
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actually that is true Shehjoo. I forgot that recently I found a month long separation more difficult than earlier 😆 so maybe the early separation is better.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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yes ji, very bad situation it ll be, sandhya must to face and we too..omg!
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Shruthi,
Sorry,
I do not agree to ur analysis of sandy at all. She is not low on eq. She did not agree to a marriage n hold on to suraj n babho just to avoid being alone. When sv2 happened n suraj sent her away, she went bravely, n after the accident, was seen helping others, n not sitting n crying n pining. Sh did not marry because she wanted to hold on to her old relationship or afraid of being alone. She was always shown as a very caring person from the beg., but not a weak person. Se married suraj, so that her baabhi cld go to usa with ankur. she gives her education money to her dad to give to ankur to take ankita to usa. she was always shown as somebody putting family first. n Her staying with suraj initially was due to her strong sense of commitment n family ties. Later she falls in love with him, n puts up with EA for suraj. Suraj had made it clear to her that he cannot survive without his mom. He cld not function without his mom. So she put with all of babhos EAs for suraj, not becz she was afraid to be alone. Sandy is a tough cookie. Babho was not able to break her or control her, sandy will not suffer in training due to the rigorous schedule or work load. She will be lonely n missing her husband, n might find a friend in Neil, but that is not becz she is crying n needs emotional support. N from the beginning suraj never supported her, let the matka challenge, ea take place, only towards the end he starts supporting her for IPS. S she was never in a cocoon, or coddled.

Yes, it's a difficult situation, separation, surya will be missing each other.

I am sure suraj will not have to show his account book of expenses to,babho. He will be ale to call his wife. Babho will understand now becz this time sandy will be gone for 11months n not a few days to her Maika.
N if suraj has to go,see sandy, he will, he Has changed. Even last year, he went to see sandy when chutki was born, babhos anger or no anger suraj will go.
N babho too will let him go, definitely. She might accompany him again!,

As u said she might say, I told u so, sandy shd have stayed here not have gone for IPS,

But she will feel for suraj, n his missing sandy, n will definitely let him go see her.

N suraj is not a baby. He is grown man. He has to learn to assert himself and if he wants to talk to his wife, to see her he has to. He will get there n do it too.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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ya I have to agree with Geeth about Sandy's toughness. She was very tough in those early days at RM. Completely fearless. And Suraj was too weak. Now things have changed. A bi more balanced SurYa. But really when it comes to individuals, I watched dabh for Sandy...still do.

and so this leads onto another point. In this separation scenario, Sandy has to be tough again. And strong for Suraj. No point getting emotional now. And I think, from spoilers, they do have the right attitude and are both stronger.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Yaa Geeth I agree to Sandhya's toughness especially in those early days of SV2 and all. I really really admired her when she didnt run behind Sooraj and in the accident site was helping people. Even when Sooraj called her she didnt take a single step forward and expressed her feelings only after he confessed the whole funda.
I like her when she stands for principals in front of Bhabo. Yesterday too I loved when she spoke for Emily and it was a nice change in Sooraj too that he was the first to support Emily. But he couldnt assert in front of mounting evidence which Sandhya did.
But Geeth family in a way is Sandhya's weakness. Understand that she is going for IPS. IPS a profession where she has to fight for rights of people in various conditions. Sandhya had failed to assert her right when it mattered most. She was good at getting rights for others, but not for herself. She could have argued with her brother to put her up in a hostel if she was really strong instead of marriage. Her brother is travelling to US and surely he can fund her education from there or the money he spent on her marriage can be used to pay her hostel fees. Her anger during 1st MP I liked. But her submission during 2nd MP for doing the duties of a bahu( I would have been happy if she said doing the duties of a wife) irked me to the core. If she cannot get her rights in RM, how will she be able to fight for the same as an IPS officer.
It is not Sooraj's worship to Bhabo, she herself considers Bhabo mother and worships her because of which her bahu dharma stands first for her over patni dharma which she has proven multiple times. She always put Sooraj in a catch22 situation hiding Bhabo's misdeeds opting for sacrifice business. She has never once said to him she is saddened by Bhabo's deeds, instead she herself justifies Bhabo's deeds like LC and her EAs. With Babasa she says she knows the pain of losing a family, she cannot afford to lose once more and cannot allow Sooraj to face the same. So it is first her fear of losing family then for Sooraj. So she is succumbing to Bhabo.
After IPS she is tied to EV, how long she will go succumbing to Bhabo sacrificing herself.
In other words I want to see a confident Sooraj supporting his wife and Sandhya putting her patni dharma on priority number one as only that can create the confident Sooraj. The foundation they have laid is quite good and I have to see how they are going to take it forward.
Eventually I guess we all agree on one thing. We want to see SURYA escaping Bhabo EA together and reaching heights that they themselves have never imagined. She a successful IPS officer and he a very successful entrepreneur.

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