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Frankly, visiting this forum on some days gives me a big headache...
For example even today i am not in a mood to make a post so i thought i will just read some posts made by others and discuss the episode with them..
But each post i opened either blamed and bashed Asad or Zoya and some Ayaan.. I haven't come across any post which really analyzed the episode and discussed it in a sensible manner.
I understand that every one here is frustrated since the beginning of this track... so am I...
But frustration does not mean we have to bash characters and get so hyper with each small thing a character did or you feel did not do in a situation..
Instead, why cannot we be a little mature and discuss the real loopholes and problems in the story and its execution in a sensible manner?
Now coming to certain things that happened since this track started, this is what i feel.
Is Asad to be blamed for the situation Zoya is in ?
I have read so many posts and so many people blaming Asad some even saying that the brothers have "traded" Zoya... What a word to use..
What did Asad do here to be on the receiving end of such a harsh accusation?
Ayaan his brother came and asked him if he could send Zoya to SM for some days because their sister's nikah would break and her life is at risk if they don't do it.. Asad was already blamed earlier by the people in that house and even by Ayaan for choosing Najma over Nikhat and accused that he does not care about Nikhat and this time he had to prove that he does indeed care for nikhat as much as he cares for Najma...now when faced with such a situation, what would a person like Asad do? obviously he would sacrifice his own happiness and his love for Nikhat.
And in situations like this, other than your own self, whom would you trust and ask for a help?...none other than your better half..
And Asad's better half is Zoya and its entirely another matter that Zoya is involved in this situation from another angle and it is Zoya and their love that he had to sacrifice for Nikhat's happiness.
And before he made Zoya sign that Nikahnama, Asad asked Zoya twice whether she trusted him and their love? It may sound as some simple words but there was a lot of unsaid meanings behind that sentence.. he was asking Zoya to trust in him and keep faith that he will make everything alright later ..and to believe in their love and make this sacrifice for him... in other words,he had just asked her to trust him and sacrifice their love and their own happiness and their own pending Nikah for a few days till Nikhat gets married and he genuinely believed that they would be together after Nikhat's nikah..
And Zoya said she trusts him and agreed for it.. Why did Zoya agree to it? for the simple reason that she loves Asad and would do anything for Asad...Yes Zoya was unhappy about the whole situation and she did not like it at all ... and we could even say that it was against her will.. But it was a choice that Zoya herself made because the person she loved asked her for something and she could not refuse him in such a situation..
Zoya always had the right and the choice to walk away saying she will not do it... So how can we blame Asad here saying that he traded Zoya?
And no i am not putting the blame on Zoya as well.. like i have said just now Zoya had the choice to walk away... but in my opinion, the choice Zoya made, that is agreeing to what the person she loved asked her to do, does not make her character weak and it does not mean that she is dancing to the tunes of her lover and demeaning herself...
It just means that for Zoya, Asad means a lot and that for Asad's happiness she would do anything even if its something that hurts her.. And if a role reversal occurs Asad would have done the same for Zoya and Zoya knows that..so its not a demeaning act which has made Zoya's character weak or cheap.
So neither Asad nor Zoya can be as such blamed for this... If blame is to be put, both should be blamed equally.
Now coming to today's episode, i am seeing that Asad is again blamed for cutting the phone when Zoya said she is going to stay at SM for another 2 days..
May be Asad shouldn't have done it... but these are characters etched by humans and from where i see, these characters are behaving very humanly..
Since last two days Zoya has been blaming Asad and throwing tantrums and not picking up his phone etc.. Is she justified in doing so? i would say yes.. Zoya did not know that Asad was arrested because of Tanveer.. she thought he was busy at office with some work and gave more importance to it than coming and picking her up...
So she got angry with him and in situations like this it is very natural for us, especially females to show tantrums like this.. why? because deep down we know and trust that our BF/ husband cares for us but when we are faced with a situation where superficially we see a reason to believe otherwise, we tend to take advantage of the real truth that we know deep down(that is, other person does care for us) and show the tantrums and make demands because we know that the other person will oblige..
Now today Asad did the same thing to Zoya... Asad does understands that Zoya would have been upset because he couldn't come to pick her up.. so he tried to call her and explain.. but Zoya being stubborn did not talk to him.. still he called Ayaan and told him to bring Zoya.. And then Zoya herself decide to stay at SM again.. Asad is just frustrated with that decision and Zoya not talking to him earlier so he cut the call... its just a lovers tiff and nothing else and he will regret it tomorrow.. these are things we humans quite often do in such situations.. we at times behave rudely and some times even do or say things that we never really mean..
And so in my opinion, these are not somethings for which the characters has to be bashed so much as if he/she has committed the biggest crime on earth..
Most of the time, in Qh things happen in parallel for Asya and AyRa.. AyRa is having a big problem with Humaira's insecurity becoming more and more day by day... And parallel to it AsYa are also having some problems..
But one thing i always notice is although things happen to them in parallel, AsYa's relationship is always in a more advanced stage.. And even now that is what i am seeing.. AyRa are having a problem of insecurity and mistrust.. Humaira is feeling insecure because she cannot trust Ayaan completely yet..
But on the other side AsYa has gone beyond that stage and they trust each other so well in that way.. and so even tanveer wasn't able to poison Asad's mind.. And what Zoya and Asad both are having right now is just lovers tiffs and typical kinds of tantrums that even couples who are married for couple of years have.
Now Raziya is going to tackle head on with Zoya and humiliate her in every way possible.. when Asad comes to know about this he will forget everything and will go to save Zoya... similarly if Zoya comes to know how Tanveer is harassing Asad, she will leave everything and forget about all her unhappiness with Asad and come running to help him.. that is the kind of love and understanding that Asad and Zoya shares now... so is there a need to bash these two characters so much?
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