4 women and one man - Page 2

Love is for teenagers and dreamers. Matured people wont believe in love rather they believe in compatibility and empathy. Jagya has matured. An immature Jagya fell for Gauri and the consequences are there for all to see. this time he wont go wrong. But he almost went there with Sanchi but saved in time.

This is his last journey and ganga will be his final destiny.

anandi asked Jagya that what is wrong if sanchi expects pyaar?

anandi is forgetting one thing. That Jagya just agreed to marry sanchi. He did not say that he will love sanchi..😆 You can take a horse to the river, but you cant force it to drink water.

For Jagya marriage is a duty and now he is not in a mood to feel love.

Of course sanchi's overtures repelled Jagya as he never felt anything akin to love.

Even ganga's sadness is due to Jagya unable to feel what she is feeling for him.

I maybe wrong but I think a man or woman can love only once and the rest is only sort of compromise.

That is why it is difficult to forget first love.

Here I am talking generally, not regarding BV.

Love is for teenagers and dreamers. Matured people wont believe in love rather they believe in compatibility and empathy. Jagya has matured. An immature Jagya fell for Gauri and the consequences are there for all to see. this time he wont go wrong. But he almost went there with Sanchi but saved in time.

This is his last journey and ganga will be his final destiny.

Both Ganga and Jagya have shown the extent to which they love each other by - showing how much they r willing to do for the other without even being asked for it.

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

Completely agree . Very profound truth .

But what i have found out by life experience

emotions r multiple . The human brain can only come up with limited slots or names for them . Love . Duty . Adjustment .Loyalty .

I feel human emotions r varied , infinite and much more than that ...a human being cannot really fathom them just as he cannot fathom the infinity of God [ if he believes .]

What is for instance ' Love' .

Any age to experience it ? No . Yet the most inexperienced , fumbling and teething age claims to know all about it . And even we agree that at this age so and so fell in 'love' .

And then there r divorces . So ...the feeling of 'love' has an end ? It is finite ? But it has been described as infinite .

So what was it then ...an attraction that ultimately did not work out ? And if so ...human life is filled with these attractions and distractions till the very end . It never ends with one relationship ever . The immediate blood family is replaced by the new family the man creates ...the wife and the children . The former girl friends become a memory and new connections r established according to need .

If physical attraction is the need of youth ...beauty matters a lot then ...compatability is the need when one matures ...money is perhaps the need when one matures more , hardens and becomes cynical . A 50 yr old man is more likely to marry a woman for her money and the security it brings in his life by ignoring her ordinary looks . Compatability may not be his criteria as at 50 he has learnt to deal with his problems alone ...he is not needing anyone to share them ...other factors r his need .

So i believe in need and connections . The connections never end till the last breath of life .

And Jagya has a connection with Ganga .

She saw him battling his atttraction for Anandi .

She saw him getting tortured by seeing Shiv Anandi together though he put on a brave face in front of the family .

She saw the haunted look in his eyes when she told him he would be an excellent 'bapu' ...he remembered his miscarried baby and she saw the naked pain .

She heard him telling her of the women he wronged . Of the family he hurt . She heard him out wrestling with his guilt .

While the family was clueless about his mental torture she saw it all .

She never judged him for his actions like them [ they still do ] . But hastened to comfort him and showed him small ways to feel better . Like apologising to Gauri egolessly , more for himself than for her .

He was rich ...she was stark poor

He was refined ...she spoke rural dialect

he was educated ...she was not

but they had both experienced pain . That knowledge , that experience led to sympathy . That sympathy came from understanding . The connection got depth .

Whether it is suggesting to him that may be apologising to Gauri will make him feel better or cooking for his friends inspite of fasting herself just so that he would be in a happy mood by eating something home made at home with his friends , Ganga only sees to it that he is happy and without worries . Thats why he goes again and again to her , to derive this comfort .Like he went out to her at night when his family members were pressurizing him to cancel going on the 16th . Immediately his problem was solved by her . She decided to go alone and told him to focus on his engagement .

The moment she sensed that giving her a job in his own hospital was too pressurizing for him , she did not even accept the other job he arranged ...she left him free without any mental burden .

While his family demands of him to live up to their expectations ...former wife Anandi constantly tells him to fulfil their expectations , this is one zone in his life where there r no expectations .

That connection is very profound ...it has displaced his previous life experience and is perhaps the best thing to have happened to him ...for such connections r hard to come by ...young age feelings of 'love' r nothing in front of them .😊

Beautiful.

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

Completely agree . Very profound truth .

But what i have found out by life experience

emotions r multiple . The human brain can only come up with limited slots or names for them . Love . Duty . Adjustment .Loyalty .

I feel human emotions r varied , infinite and much more than that ...a human being cannot really fathom them just as he cannot fathom the infinity of God [ if he believes .]

What is for instance ' Love' .

Any age to experience it ? No . Yet the most inexperienced , fumbling and teething age claims to know all about it . And even we agree that at this age so and so fell in 'love' .

And then there r divorces . So ...the feeling of 'love' has an end ? It is finite ? But it has been described as infinite .

So what was it then ...an attraction that ultimately did not work out ? And if so ...human life is filled with these attractions and distractions till the very end . It never ends with one relationship ever . The immediate blood family is replaced by the new family the man creates ...the wife and the children . The former girl friends become a memory and new connections r established according to need .

If physical attraction is the need of youth ...beauty matters a lot then ...compatability is the need when one matures ...money is perhaps the need when one matures more , hardens and becomes cynical . A 50 yr old man is more likely to marry a woman for her money and the security it brings in his life by ignoring her ordinary looks . Compatability may not be his criteria as at 50 he has learnt to deal with his problems alone ...he is not needing anyone to share them ...other factors r his need .

So i believe in need and connections . The connections never end till the last breath of life .

And Jagya has a connection with Ganga .

She saw him battling his atttraction for Anandi .

She saw him getting tortured by seeing Shiv Anandi together though he put on a brave face in front of the family .

She saw the haunted look in his eyes when she told him he would be an excellent 'bapu' ...he remembered his miscarried baby and she saw the naked pain .

She heard him telling her of the women he wronged . Of the family he hurt . She heard him out wrestling with his guilt .

While the family was clueless about his mental torture she saw it all .

She never judged him for his actions like them [ they still do ] . But hastened to comfort him and showed him small ways to feel better . Like apologising to Gauri egolessly , more for himself than for her .

He was rich ...she was stark poor

He was refined ...she spoke rural dialect

he was educated ...she was not

but they had both experienced pain . That knowledge , that experience led to sympathy . That sympathy came from understanding . The connection got depth .

Whether it is suggesting to him that may be apologising to Gauri will make him feel better or cooking for his friends inspite of fasting herself just so that he would be in a happy mood by eating something home made at home with his friends , Ganga only sees to it that he is happy and without worries . Thats why he goes again and again to her , to derive this comfort .Like he went out to her at night when his family members were pressurizing him to cancel going on the 16th . Immediately his problem was solved by her . She decided to go alone and told him to focus on his engagement .

The moment she sensed that giving her a job in his own hospital was too pressurizing for him , she did not even accept the other job he arranged ...she left him free without any mental burden .

While his family demands of him to live up to their expectations ...former wife Anandi constantly tells him to fulfil their expectations , this is one zone in his life where there r no expectations .

That connection is very profound ...it has displaced his previous life experience and is perhaps the best thing to have happened to him ...for such connections r hard to come by ...young age feelings of 'love' r nothing in front of them .😊

regarding Jagya &Ganga, I agree comletely with Kools...

whatever inequality exists between them has gone unnoticed by them...maybe once in a while, they have shown Ganga in awe of him when he speaks...and she wishes she could speak that way, but otherwise...they are at a level emotionally where I feel they will have a very equal and balanced relationship.

I guess he feels serenity in her presence. I felt a lot of chemistry between them when he went to her room in the quarters in the middle of the night, just to get some peace. I feel it when he looked at her in Mangalore, after his friends asked him to do his MS, and she smiled & nodded her head...I felt it throughout on Teej...when he was watching her doing the pooja, and in the way he looked at her...the way he said, you must be so hungry and she shook her head. That's chemistry which results from understanding. I felt a lot of chemistry & love when he held her shoulders and wiped her tears away with his fingers...that was so beautiful...and then he let go and looked out the window like he was stunned at what he did.

Obviously, they cannot demonstrate any romantic or sexual chemistry at the moment...they barely touch. That entire Mangalore tip went by without any touching...whatever happens is with the eyes, and his eyes give away hive love...when she opened the door after he'd just arrived, he looked at her "that way"...

I also feel their connection in the way she helps him loosen up...he started pulling her leg and now they showed that she has realized that he likes to pull her leg...every time he teased her abt her exam results...

They are both very expressive with each other, uninhibited, no awkwardness...truly themselves...and it's very sweet...I think she loves it when he plays with Mannu too...she looks really head over heels when he's showering his love on Mannu...she's clueless that he feels a similar, even stronger and intense from of love for HER.

Gauri was irritating me a lot when she had a miscarriage last year i was expecting her death 😡 I think Gauri and Sanchi are sisters and shekars adopted her from Gauri's parents 🤢

I thought the same in the morning ...what if all women surround him one point of time ask for answers that all he has done to all these women 😆...he will go mad and will take sannay's ,,,