Originally posted by: majumdar
(I am presuming of course that J-B have reconciled and have decided to resume normal marital relationships)
Yesterday, there was a song, which suggested that Bani was sorry for what had happened to JW. That kind of surprised me, why should she apologise for something she has not done in the first place. I want J-B to move ahead with their relationship. One way for that is to recognise and atone for their real mistakes and stop apologising for imagined ones. Hopefully a recognition of real mistakes may prevent them from repeating it in the future.
In fact the song also surprised me. The last line of the song from Bani's side was - Janam Mere Maaf Karo. In this situation, why should she ask for forgiveness? AT least this isntance she has hardly done anything. Maybe she feels JW's pain even after all these and so she is feelign terrible about everything. Still doesnt cover the answer - Why?
Its a good thought - to move ahead with their relationship, both Jai and Bani have to learn from their past and ensure not to redo their mistakes. Most importantly, they need to communicate - thats the keyword.
From Bani's side:
- Stop apologising for what Pia did, why should she feel guilty for what a person, with whom she has broken off her relationship, did.
- Absolutely. Even after Bani tried to help her this sister, she really truned out to be a R. Not only did she commit the crime and instigate it, but she is hardly repentant about the entire thing. And still she's in her delusional world. I want Bani to break her relationship with Pia in the real sense of the word - nothing to do with her anymore.
- Nor should she apologise for what St. Billo and the rest made him go through. That happened when she was practically in a coma, how is she responsible for what happened.
- Absolutely. Still she was holding onto her love for JW (remember that butterfly scene). so in this case she doesnt need to be dragged into. The others need to clean their own misdeeds themselves and should leave JnB in peace.
- But she must reflect on her conduct during her Banigiri phase, she must admit that her way of handling the alimony issue was very poor and that she should have trusted JW on the alimony issue. And have informed him about the miscarriage issue and save him from needless agony. She should think about it and apologise if she feels necessary.
- I agree to it, the divorce-alimony issue could be handled better and so much heart burns and heart breaks could be stopped. And yes, she should apologise for this.
- A word of regret if not apology is certainly due on her parents behalf for what they made JW go through. Especially since she is still very attached to them.
- Here I will be dithering to some extent. Personally, I dont want her to apologise for somebody else to JW, even if it happens to be her deceased parents. And I am sure JW understands this. More so, because she hardly had anything to do with what happened to hr parents, involving JW, and stuff. The main problem was that she gave too much importance to thir teachings but a 23 yr homely girl will probably do so, who hardly had anyone to take care of her, when she was busy taking care of others. Thats her defence mechanism, I guess, it may be flawed, but it was what she had during those times. However, if this apology can ensure a brighter and beetter future, then so be it. And it maye help her deceased parents too, to some extent.
From JW's side:
- I assume that he has already regretted his conduct towards Bani (and apologised to her) in the initial phase of their marriage. If not do so, asap.
- I assume so. But then again, if a clear-cut apology can work wonders in their relationship, then why not? After all, it was a harrowing stage.
- Explain to her why he kept the PR raaz from her and why he chose to marry/ill-treat Pia/Bani in spite of murdering their Mom. Even if it reflects poorly on himself. There is of course a possibility that he may have known about the suicide (as MT suggested in Ajnabi) or worse.
- I dont hold him to the PR raaz frankly, as I do regrading the ONS. No jootas please. My poor opinion only. And I hated the way they solved the PR raaz, it was mockery of the highest order. I guess with the solution that was shown, there is no need for any further reference to this phase.
- Explain to the best of his knowledge about what transpired in Dubai, particularly the fact that at least for a brief moment he did lose faith in her.
- This will be great, if he can really tell Bani about the state of his mind during that time. I am sure that Bani will definitely understand and not hold him to this, this time.
- Explain why kept the ONS raaz from her for whatever reason (saving his own skin, saving her from her hurt).
- As I replied earlier, I didnt like the dilly-dallying later, but I guess this happens cos of the sensitivity of the event. But if Jai gives his own version of the ONS raaz and the reasons what he did afterwards, it would be ok, I guess.
- And why he keeps keeping things from her for no rhyme or reason- the truth about Barnali for eg.
- This was the funniest part, there was no need to keep this issue a secret. Bani does know that such things happen, so instead of pushing things under the carpet, especially involving a dying man, the residents of the WM didnt help. I wonder how many other secrets they are keepign away from their beloved, dutiful bahu.
And J-B must sort out what is to be done about Pia's kid.
Absolutely. I would love it if they agree to adopt the kid, but keep 'that' thing away from their lives forever. Its a harsh decision no doubt, but will be for the kid's betterment in the future.
Then the rest of the drama can follow, admission of how much they love and care for each other etc. J-d-d activities etc.
A certfied despo never tires of such incidents. I am already feeling the withdrawals.
Rgds,
Priyanka
