Son-in-Law/Daughter-in-Law

Questions to you all.

There was a day MM told about TA that he is the son-in-law of the house and so TA's points of view are important. But at the same time, he told Kalyani what she did was wrong. Also we saw, TA taking away Revathi when MM could have assertively told he could take charge of the situation. Even though we could say TA has some justification in whatever he had done because Mohan made him believe he was interested in Revathi's marriage and then went back his words. Also Kalyani could have more maturely understood her sister instead of threatening with suicide. and he also scolded Kalyani in a harsh way. Still some questions on how a typical son-in-law (SIL) is treated in a typical Indian family and how a typical daughter-in-law (DIL) is treated comes up.

In any normal home, the SIL is considered to be VIP and his words are considered more important. The SIL can tell anything to the son. We see MM's SIL threatening and blackmailing MM's son. For what reason MM has to tolerate this putting down behavior of his SIL? Why can't he tell this much to TA, 'In any family there will be a lot of issues. The issues have to be solved with understanding and patience. And Mohan and Kalyani have their own reasons to behave in a certain way which are to be sorted out in the family itself with understanding. You can't interfere in the internal behavior of the home.And also you ahve no right to scold the DIL of the home ' Instead of telling this , MM scolded Mohan and Kalyani. The typical excuse the patriarch gives for this behavior is, he has to see that TA has to take care of Thulasi well and must not embarass Thulasi telling her parents and her siblings are behaving in a mean way to him.

Kalyani has also her own reasons for behaving in a certain way. Among other things, she would even have thought of being faithful to the home in which she was married and her husband was financially taking care of her sisters. And so she would not have agreed to marry Revathi with the person who came to see Pavithra as bride.

Also because of this type of attitude difference, comes up attitude like how Mohan feels about Thulasi. Men do feel their sister doesn't understand them and look into their point of view after her marriage as she gives more importance to be in the good books of her husband who may at times out of his ego force her to look at her parents' family with contempt.

Whatever be the case in this particular scenario, in a typical Indian household we see SIL behaving like a VIP and DIL is treated as someone who is not important unless she is able to assert and at times we see the SIL scolding the son and DIL also. And we see the home patriarch expects the DIL to follow the rules of the home. But for the SIL he lets him break the rules. There are homes in which the son was forced to work for the SIL. Why this type of difference between SIL and DIL in the society? What do you say?.