What Shiv feels for Ipshi is lust - Page 2

Well going over it again I feel that lust may not be the right word - it is more like obsession. The fact that Ipshi was his childhood sweet heart only strengthen the case for this.

See as a child the love you feel for things or persons is more obsessive. The feeling is strong but it is more the selfish kind of love - a love that wants to be returned with the same intensity by the other person.

But a more mature form of love - true love that is - is more self giving - sacrificing- unconditional - nonexpectant. Most people get stuck in the selfish 'me' kind of love.

It is quite rare to find or grow into the more mature variety-the kind of love a mother has for her child - or in this case Gauri has for Shiv. I suspect Shiv is also feeling the same kind of love for Gauri (from his care and concern for her) but his obsession with Ipshi is currently blinding him to that fact.

As to the two rooms I feel they (Shiv and Ipshi) have not yet consummated their relationship (for fear of the kundali for it is not yet clear if the technicality of marriage is what will affect the girl or the actual union of two people). The obsession on Shiv's part then would be stronger since the need is yet to be fulfilled.

I was going to say that you were contradicting yourself in your first post, Optimist...coz, at one point u said it was lust and at another u said that they slept in separate rooms.

Since then, u've reconsidered ur opinion slightly.

My take on the subject is this:

Shiv/Ipsita's relationship is to die for. What I see is a healthy mixture of love and lust that every relationship needs but very few have. It's usually one or the other. I'm glad that Ekta's showing such a relationship on TV when most people baulk at doing so. Now, all it needs is for production houses to depict similar relationships between lead characters!

Who says that love should preclude the physical aspect? Infact love between two consenting adults should also include the physical aspect.

I would'nt just name it lust because for me lust is concentrated only in getting and not giving. Love on the other had believes in giving. When two individuals give in equal measures they also receive.

The serial Kumkum shows this aspect where the lead have a mix of both the physical and emotional aspects of love. So I dont think that this not being portrayed. As to what Shiv and Ipshi are sharing, I dont feel that is love. Both cant seem to stay away from each other despite the dire consequences they can face. Technically they may still be within the boundaries (or so I suspect) but it still seems obsessive.

after watching 9th Jan episode..I feel Shiv is more concerned for Gauri and cares for her more...what he feels for Ipshi is an obsession...she has always been there for him ..he has always considered her as his woman and he can not let go of her....
Ipshi I feel plotted with her Mum and nikhila aswell...even though she says she was reday to marry shiv...I am sure it is not the truth...everytime the truth has a chance of coming out ,....she does her best to hide it...because she knows after Gauri's death....Ipshi and Shiv can live happily ever after...she is just trying to save shiv-Gauri's marriage for the stipulated one year time....and she knows shiv gauri will never have a pati-patni relationship...because Ipshi always hangs around Shiv to make sure shiv remains attracted to her..
that is why when she saw Shiv caring for Gauri...she felt insecure and jealous....