The Great Indian Wedding Mela - Page 4

Originally posted by: .Quirky.Feline.

Some people do tend to get a bit overboard - I've heard of weddings where the groom arrives in a helicopter. I mean, what even?

Mostly in India weddings have become a grand way of getting rid of black money as well as showing off to the level they could spend on. The big fat Indian weddings have been mostly an entertainment to all (to be noted: sons and relatives of politicians have the worst tendencey to showcase the corrupted money) Now it has become like a competetion b/w some high socialised families..more than to celebrate the day with happiness it has become a way of beating down the past records of highest budget of weddings...which is worse!

Basically its either of the two cases.

Originally posted by: Vintage.Wine

WoW......That was one ripper of a way you devised to make Wine Drinking sound Not So Gay ( Happy I mean..) in the Gayest possible way ...😆

Vintu...😛

Originally posted by: bobbii

Personally I don't see the point of a wedding where even your neighbors grandmother's sister is invited. A marriage should focus on the couple and the serious step they are taking. Give the money you would spend on entertaining people the bride and groom barely know to the bride and groom so they can start their new life on a better footing. I guess if you stay within your means it's ok but I've heard of people taking out loans so their 'princess' could have the wedding or her dreams. I think if 'princess' wants a wedding beyond her parents means she should be contributing to it.Oh and the other thing the cost of the entire show should be split according to how many guests each party is bringing to the occasion. Why should the bride's parents be responsible for feeding the grooms neighbors grandma's sister?

Awww ...That's some awesome thinking buddy ...Yeah ...Those ceremonies are all crap, waste...but then howthe hell do we persuade those fossil ones that ? ..Um ...Tell me this ...Have ya ever attended your friend's, Relative's wedding ? ...(I bet you haven't ..You musta saved em money...Right ? ...😆)... And you shouldn't mon ...They might tell ya we want ya to partake and share our joys ...( <<< ...The greatest may be ? of their life ? ...Hahaha ..Sounds too Indian I know but yeah..😆 ) ...You just tell em .."NO HELL' ...you won't attend such chintzy functions ...and if they still inisist you do ....Tell em you ll bring your own food, drinks ..😆 ..<<<<< ..Right ? ...Mortify those orthodox people ...Who can't undrestand that the world, the society means zip ...😆

And why just the weddings mon ...I suggest people don't attend each other's Funerals too ...Seriously ...😆 ..Gosh! You are a revolutionary ...😆

@ Blue: Yehahaha ...Right ...😆 ..Get all Cinderellas married only after the clock ticks 12 ' O night ...😆


Vintu...😛

I am a Sikh and in my short life I have lived in three continents and seen more weddings that I can remember. Even so, I have never seen a ceremony. No one goes to those especially not the younger kids. They all wait for the reception to look pretty, dance and chug down drinks. So, I can safely say the families put their money down on the reception and loads of it. The guest list is huge. The bride and groom entrances are designed to be over the top and generally terrible for the environment. The few unconventional couples who choose an intimate affair over show off become the talk of the town for all the wrong reasons. The events before and following the wedding are heavily critiqued for the quality of food, number of good looking people and the glitter percentage in the dresses. Last time my parents went to India, they brought back a truckload of shiny dresses as gifts for me. I was forced into all of them once and they have not seen the light of day since. If and when I get married, I won't be needing an entourage to tell the world about my relationship status. A signed court document or a one-on-one talk with my God would be enough.
Having said all that, if the couple earn enough money to spend on a lavish wedding then, they should do as their heart desires. If you have earned the money, you hold the right to spend it. I am opposed to pressuring parents to spend beyond their means or taking out loans to show off for a night followed by years of debt.

Originally posted by: bobbii

Guess we'll have to just disagree. Traditions such as inviting every person and their friend to a wedding were made by people and can be changed by people. Everyone has to decide for themselves what works for them and if inviting the whole temple membership and their family going up to 3rd cousin is what rocks someone's boat then hey they should go for it. If being in debt so that they can appease society or perhaps their own ego is their style...good luck to them.
Where did I say that people shouldn't attend each others weddings? As for myself of course my family attend weddings of family and close friends but if it 's a wedding of someone who isn't so close the whole family won't go unless specifically asked but this is beside's the point as I don't think this topic is about how guests should behave. People, in particular the girls family are often put through hardship to put up with the demands of society in the name of tradition - any tradition that causes grief is not worth having. Again if everything is done within the means of those paying for the wedding all well and good. It's just my personal view that so much money should not be spent on weddings.

@ Bold: And that sir was my only contention ...Also I haven't heard of people in everyday life who send out invitations to the entire temple membership or parish upto their 03rd cousins...Have you ? ..😆 ...<<< This I think is exaggeration. People invite only the people they know ...Its simple..Those who can afford the pomp can invite people and make the event worth reminiscence...

Now that still sounds like a better way to blow the money than the kinda crazy things people do witih their money...Pavel durov ? He made 5 K Ruble notes into paper planes and chucked em out onto the street ...And then there are people who lose millions betting on durbies ...If they have the money let em invite everybody .. offers many an employement ( Business ) opportunity ...There is a whole industry that makes a quid that way you see ...

The point in blue is an entirely different issue ..And I guess everyone would agree over that ....I was on about the discretionary spending and not dowry . And as far as the debt goes ... any sorta debt makes me nudgy ..yep ..that's my personal view too..


Vintu...😊