asad-unravelling the enigma

today we saw that dilshad the wronged wife and single mother fighting fiercely for her honour and that of her kids while her much married husband stood mutely.and we wonder why asad is the way he is?children learn abt relationships, love and commitment from their parents.and this happens just by watching, absorbing the situation around them.and what have been asads role models for relationships?a father who claims to love his wife but has a bigamous relationship and even an illegitimate child form another woman.one fine day he drops in with that child and entrusts him to the care of a mere child as his wife is in no state to look after him.and then one day without any explanation leaves them to fend for themselves when he decides to go back to the other woman.the mother is too emotionally broken to handle anything.so what does he learn abt love form all this?that either love is very selfish and loving is done for convenience only.and from seeing his mother still love and pine for her husband he learns that love is a weakness which people can exploit.he is not emotionally challenged.he feels love for all the people he holds dear.yes, he is not the expressive type of guy .with the kind of background that he has it is a wonder how he has turned out so well.he is cautious abt new relationships and does not trust people easily.but he is the type that loves once and loves very intensely.he is fighting with himself for his feelings for zoya but he has acknowledged to himself that he loves her.he is unable to admit his feelings and avoids zoya on this topic because till now zoya has always backed off whenever she is questioned abt her feelings directly.he is afraid that what might be a major life changing love for him might be a mere infatuation from her side.so he keeps mum and waits for her to express herself as she usually does on all topics except the one which is most important to him.i have a lot more to say abt asad but it is already a very long post and you guys might find it tiresome.so until the next time when the character grows a bit more, i will make another attempt at analysing asad.and just because i cant resist saying this, i will say it. ksg, you rock and breathe life into asad.cheers!

Zoya on the other hand has her own pain. She is using her childishness as a facade too. She learnt at a very young age, her own very lessons. Though she has dealt with them differently. She craves for attention, because unlike Asad she wanted to be loved by her dad, she wanted him in her life. Even when she finds out about her father, she says something critical - mujhe is baat ka sukoon hai that i was not abandoned by my father. While, she said that, Asad's eyes said so much, because, he instead was.

So, despite that both of them have been abandoned, Asad feels, Zoya does not understand his pain. And, at the same time, Asad does not understand hers.

Both are similar, yet so different.

I wish, both mature and see the real each other soon. Zoya definitely needs to tone down a little. And, asad, speak up a bit :). Both have their insecurities, and both have to fight them. I hope the melodrama does not go against them..