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Episode analysis
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Episode analysis
I really loved today's episode for the interaction between Yash and Aarti. It was probably the first argument they have had that came to a mature conclusion and was a productive step in their relationship! It was great to watch them fight it out and then hug it out all in the same episode.
I really liked the hot water bottle scene because it showed that after "uss raat" Yash is still a little awkward with the physical contact when it doesn't come on the spur of the moment, following his feelings. At this moment, he had to touch Aarti in full consciousness and I loved that little tremble in his hand, of nervousness and anxiety. The fact that he had to come out of his own comfort bubble to comfort Aarti was the crux of that scene. All this time in the marriage, Aarti was facing a lot of pain from his family members, and from him. He would help her whenever she asked for it, but in a way that he saw fit, expecting her to be grateful for it. And the sad part was, that Aarti was grateful because it was so much more than she had expected from the marriage...not today! Today she couldn't be understanding of Yash's discomfort. She was in pain and wanted relief and if he couldn't provide it, she would go elsewhere. This caused Yash to sit up and appreciate that he had to do things on her terms if he wanted to give her relief in any true sense. The threat of her leaving is still with him...even if it is just to Vidhi's bedroom and he wants to prove definitively that he can take care of her, that she has to go nowhere else, even if he has to put himself in discomfort to make her comfortable.
I loved their argument because both of them were equally matched, on opposite ends of the fence and really refusing to see the other's point of view. Yash was straight forward, and just came out with the statement that she should abort this pregnancy, no frills. He had read the reports, he knew the statistics and he wanted to make the most rational decision. Only, he wasn't prepared for Aarti's unshakable faith and positivity to the point of what looked to him like foolishness. I thought it was really interesting that the word "bachpana" came up in the conversation, when Yash was asking her why she was being so stubborn. It is this very trait of Aarti's that always drives Yash up the wall, and yet the very same trait that brought him out of his hopeless grief and back to life. Yash is learning that Aarti is not going to change her personality according to his convenience, and that what he sees is what he gets; he has to take the easy with the difficult. Aarti, on the other hand, was her usual poetic self, waxing eloquent about everything the baby was supposed to mean, without coming out with the main reason this baby was so important in defining their relationship, making Gayatri and SP's dreams come true and fixing her messed up life and marriage. Finally, it was Yash who chanced upon the real reason: this baby is so important to her because, according to his own proclamations to her after Mumbai, she can't ever conceive again! It is only then that Yash makes the connection and is able to see the situation from her perspective.
It was such a stamp of their respective personalities today when Yash asks, how can you think positively in such a situation? And Aarti replies, the way I am doing. That is how they handled their respective personal crises, isn't it? Yash lost Arpita, and thought that there was no way out of his grief, and resigned to his fate completely, not even attempting to fight back, while Aarti simply refused to give into any hardship, going so far as to deny it altogether. Another interesting binary is that while Aarti feels that this baby is synonymous with her and Yash's relationship, Yash sees it as completely separate, which is why he so casually says that she can conceive again. In his mind, this baby has never been connected with uss raat and it actually doesn't occur to him for a few seconds that there would have to be a repeat of uss raat for Aarti to get pregnant again. Again, this is how they were with their respective children as single parents as well. To Aarti, Ansh always represented her relationship with Prahsant and the hope she had to get Prashant to come back to her; she named him Ansh for heaven's sake! On the other hand, Payal and Palak were completely separate from Arpita's memory for Yash, which is why while Aarti smothered Ansh, Yash neglected his daughters to a large extent. In effect, it is not natural to Yash to connect uss raat with the baby, and it is impossible for Aarti to separate them. For them to see eye to eye on this issue, either Aarti had to separate them, which she clearly has not been able to do, or Yash had to connect them which is what finally happened.
And I love the dialogue he said to Aarti, with the medicine as an olive branch. He opened up communication by first doing what she said, that is making an appointment to meet Dr. Kurian to discuss the options, which was much needed. Aarti of course, quick to make leaps decides that this means Yash has realised that there could not possibly be anything wrong with her pregnancy, the same way she decided that he was in love with her because he accepted the baby, and that she was in love with him because she showed Shobha's 3 symptoms when the meaning of each was entirely arguable. But anyway, I love that this time, Yash was totally ready for her and made it clear that they were taking one step at a time and that nothing was decided yet. It is funny how Yash likes to take things one step at a time when it comes to love, but is a farsighted thinker in terms of life (his argument for putting Ansh in the girls' school), on the other hand, Aarti sort of takes life as it comes but jumps to conclusions in terms of emotions and what they mean. Anyway, I love that Yash knew just how to get Aarti to agree, by suggesting that she had to support him...something she cannot refuse by her basic nature. It is true that Aarti didn't really get the point today because she was drunk on Yash compromising and her "positive soch" but this conversation will come back to her when she is more sober about this situation, but it looks like we have a few days of respite before that happens according to what Dr. Kurian said.
The Ansh-Aarti scene was so sweet! What a little imp this Ansh is and how wonderful it was to see their bond brought to light in this context, after what Ansh went through with Aarti's runaway plan. I also sort of loved that Yash was a passive observer in all this, first of Aarti sitting with her reports and then of her interaction with Ansh. I think he was just taking in the satisfaction of having these two loving people be such an important part of his life and being a beloved insider to their lives in turn. I loved Ansh's little game and thought the meaning was pretty clear. Aarti is making a huge decision that will determine the rest of her life...this resonates with her even as she plays Ansh's little game which is why she is so hesitant even to choose between one of his two hands in this innocent play. I liked this because it sort of showed that deep down, beneath all her bravado, Aarti wonders if she is making the right decision. This is why Yash's support and initiative meant so much to her. And true enough, her worst fear comes true when Ansh reveals that she chose sadness. But the trick is yet to play out as Ansh reveals that, in fact, both hands contained happiness! To me this shows two things, to Aarti the baby living or dying represents two ends of the spectrum, happiness and sadness respectively. What Ansh told her indirectly, is that whatever happens, she will find happiness again. Secondly, it had to do with Ansh himself. He contains only happiness and will spread it wherever he goes, just like he did for Aarti, Yash and most recently, Prashant. This becomes an interesting consideration in the light of Prashant's illness and the supposed cure (which makes minimal sense, but is good for drama).
I really liked the hot water bottle scene because it showed that after "uss raat" Yash is still a little awkward with the physical contact when it doesn't come on the spur of the moment, following his feelings. At this moment, he had to touch Aarti in full consciousness and I loved that little tremble in his hand, of nervousness and anxiety. The fact that he had to come out of his own comfort bubble to comfort Aarti was the crux of that scene. All this time in the marriage, Aarti was facing a lot of pain from his family members, and from him. He would help her whenever she asked for it, but in a way that he saw fit, expecting her to be grateful for it. And the sad part was, that Aarti was grateful because it was so much more than she had expected from the marriage...not today! Today she couldn't be understanding of Yash's discomfort. She was in pain and wanted relief and if he couldn't provide it, she would go elsewhere. This caused Yash to sit up and appreciate that he had to do things on her terms if he wanted to give her relief in any true sense. The threat of her leaving is still with him...even if it is just to Vidhi's bedroom and he wants to prove definitively that he can take care of her, that she has to go nowhere else, even if he has to put himself in discomfort to make her comfortable.
I loved their argument because both of them were equally matched, on opposite ends of the fence and really refusing to see the other's point of view. Yash was straight forward, and just came out with the statement that she should abort this pregnancy, no frills. He had read the reports, he knew the statistics and he wanted to make the most rational decision. Only, he wasn't prepared for Aarti's unshakable faith and positivity to the point of what looked to him like foolishness. I thought it was really interesting that the word "bachpana" came up in the conversation, when Yash was asking her why she was being so stubborn. It is this very trait of Aarti's that always drives Yash up the wall, and yet the very same trait that brought him out of his hopeless grief and back to life. Yash is learning that Aarti is not going to change her personality according to his convenience, and that what he sees is what he gets; he has to take the easy with the difficult. Aarti, on the other hand, was her usual poetic self, waxing eloquent about everything the baby was supposed to mean, without coming out with the main reason this baby was so important in defining their relationship, making Gayatri and SP's dreams come true and fixing her messed up life and marriage. Finally, it was Yash who chanced upon the real reason: this baby is so important to her because, according to his own proclamations to her after Mumbai, she can't ever conceive again! It is only then that Yash makes the connection and is able to see the situation from her perspective.
It was such a stamp of their respective personalities today when Yash asks, how can you think positively in such a situation? And Aarti replies, the way I am doing. That is how they handled their respective personal crises, isn't it? Yash lost Arpita, and thought that there was no way out of his grief, and resigned to his fate completely, not even attempting to fight back, while Aarti simply refused to give into any hardship, going so far as to deny it altogether. Another interesting binary is that while Aarti feels that this baby is synonymous with her and Yash's relationship, Yash sees it as completely separate, which is why he so casually says that she can conceive again. In his mind, this baby has never been connected with uss raat and it actually doesn't occur to him for a few seconds that there would have to be a repeat of uss raat for Aarti to get pregnant again. Again, this is how they were with their respective children as single parents as well. To Aarti, Ansh always represented her relationship with Prahsant and the hope she had to get Prashant to come back to her; she named him Ansh for heaven's sake! On the other hand, Payal and Palak were completely separate from Arpita's memory for Yash, which is why while Aarti smothered Ansh, Yash neglected his daughters to a large extent. In effect, it is not natural to Yash to connect uss raat with the baby, and it is impossible for Aarti to separate them. For them to see eye to eye on this issue, either Aarti had to separate them, which she clearly has not been able to do, or Yash had to connect them which is what finally happened.
And I love the dialogue he said to Aarti, with the medicine as an olive branch. He opened up communication by first doing what she said, that is making an appointment to meet Dr. Kurian to discuss the options, which was much needed. Aarti of course, quick to make leaps decides that this means Yash has realised that there could not possibly be anything wrong with her pregnancy, the same way she decided that he was in love with her because he accepted the baby, and that she was in love with him because she showed Shobha's 3 symptoms when the meaning of each was entirely arguable. But anyway, I love that this time, Yash was totally ready for her and made it clear that they were taking one step at a time and that nothing was decided yet. It is funny how Yash likes to take things one step at a time when it comes to love, but is a farsighted thinker in terms of life (his argument for putting Ansh in the girls' school), on the other hand, Aarti sort of takes life as it comes but jumps to conclusions in terms of emotions and what they mean. Anyway, I love that Yash knew just how to get Aarti to agree, by suggesting that she had to support him...something she cannot refuse by her basic nature. It is true that Aarti didn't really get the point today because she was drunk on Yash compromising and her "positive soch" but this conversation will come back to her when she is more sober about this situation, but it looks like we have a few days of respite before that happens according to what Dr. Kurian said.
The Ansh-Aarti scene was so sweet! What a little imp this Ansh is and how wonderful it was to see their bond brought to light in this context, after what Ansh went through with Aarti's runaway plan. I also sort of loved that Yash was a passive observer in all this, first of Aarti sitting with her reports and then of her interaction with Ansh. I think he was just taking in the satisfaction of having these two loving people be such an important part of his life and being a beloved insider to their lives in turn. I loved Ansh's little game and thought the meaning was pretty clear. Aarti is making a huge decision that will determine the rest of her life...this resonates with her even as she plays Ansh's little game which is why she is so hesitant even to choose between one of his two hands in this innocent play. I liked this because it sort of showed that deep down, beneath all her bravado, Aarti wonders if she is making the right decision. This is why Yash's support and initiative meant so much to her. And true enough, her worst fear comes true when Ansh reveals that she chose sadness. But the trick is yet to play out as Ansh reveals that, in fact, both hands contained happiness! To me this shows two things, to Aarti the baby living or dying represents two ends of the spectrum, happiness and sadness respectively. What Ansh told her indirectly, is that whatever happens, she will find happiness again. Secondly, it had to do with Ansh himself. He contains only happiness and will spread it wherever he goes, just like he did for Aarti, Yash and most recently, Prashant. This becomes an interesting consideration in the light of Prashant's illness and the supposed cure (which makes minimal sense, but is good for drama).
