Originally posted by: brainychild92
first of all, why is it so freakin wrong for a woman to lead a life of a single status but not for a man! and second, what do you mean her own children.. how is archana wrong for taking in Purvi?
in the past archana's only mistake was to trust her sister with her son. i found it perfectly fine that she stood for her people in court, even though it was against her husband. she did what she believed in so nothing wrong there. actually she probably did more mistakes but manav does not in any way have a clear slate. i blame both for the seperation and their kids. Yes savita too.. God I want to smack her! i think she's the reason I couldn't watch this show anymore.. too negative!
Let me address your first point. Unfortunately dear, we don't live in a world where a woman can just go and get married at any age she wants. There is a certain window of time that a woman can married and if she misses that window, then it becomes increasingly difficult for her to ever get married. Especially if she wants to have children, her biological clock is ticking. It is the way it is, I didn't make up the rules and it's not necessary that I agree with them, but I am also realistic in that if a woman wants to get married and settle down with children in her life, she better do it sooner rather than later. That is where the term "spinster" is coined from, when you see older women who have never married and live with their parents, working until her old age, and becomes bitter and resentful. You might want to sound like you are pro feminist and all that but I'll bet in real life would you want to live your life alone or would you want to find a good partner/husband to spend your life with? Answer this question honestly, and if you still say "is it so freakin wrong for a woman to lead a life of single status" then I will respect that. Now in Archana's case, she didn't need to live like a Spinster, she was married and had a perfectly jeevan saathi, but she decided on her own to throw it all away due to mis-understandings. Instead of acting like a mature adult woman, and communicating her feelings to her husband, she simply threw in the towel! That is what boys/girls in High School do, not grown adults who are in a serious relationship such as a marraige.
Second, I never said Archana was wrong for taking Purvi in, all I said is I find it ironic that she couldn't be bothered to fight to keep the children she gave birth to (that too after loosing her son Soham, you would think she would never want to experience the loss of another child again). And yet, she showed absolutely no courage in fighting for her children, but she shows so much courage for things that hardly matter like the Chawl/Court incident. Which by the way proved to be another major mistake committed by Archana because the truth is that Manav never did anything illegal to displace the Chawl residents. That whole thing was cooked up by FBD and Ajit to make Manav look like he did something illegal, and Archana immediately decided not to trust Manav and went against him as per usual. When she realized that she made a huge mistake by not believing in Manav, it was too late the damage was done. Even still, Manav forgave her and took her back. Then she proceeded to further ruin her marraige by trusting Varsha with Soham. Even after than incident, Manav loved her enough to forgive her and wanted to take her to Canada with him. No I know that Savita switched the tickets for divorce papers. But why wouldn't Archana, a grown adult woman who has proven to be smart when she wants to, tear up the divorce papers (if she loved Manav so much) and gone straight to him and had a proper conversation with him about their relationship. Why would she choose to simply accept the divorce papers, and not even meet with him to try to resolve their differences. Manav also should've tried harder, instead of believing that she would just let him go. So I agree that they are both at fault but Archana more so. Because she always seems to do things that drives a wedge between them. When she finally decided to go after him to the airport, they had already left on the plane. So what does she do, she happens upon an orphaned girl and decides that this is her "Fate". She has been chosen to raise this baby girl, and this is her new meaning to life, her Pavitra Ristha, blah, blah. So what if the plane took off, she could've tracked Manav down, and made a phone call to him. Instead, she accepted defeat, and went home to her Aai.
As far as Savita is concerned, I say she is the only realistic character on this show. Atleast she has the guts to stand up for herself and what she wants. She doesn't do any nautanki, she tells it like it is. For anyone who says that Savita is negative, I can give many examples of how good she was to Archu and Sulo. Everyone keeps forgetting that Sulo was made homeless by her own useless son Vinod and Dil Manju. Sulo's husband left her for several years. Varsha insulted her mother at every turn. Even after the way Sulo mistreated Manav (in the beginning) by slapping him multiple times, publicly saying Manav wasn't good enough for her daughter, etc., Because of Manju, Manav's whole family was put in jail and mis-treated so badly. Still, Savita accepted Sulo into her house and gave her shelter, shared her bed with her for lords sake. Sulo and Archana took advantage of Savita's niceness. People on this forum only like to point out that Savita is hungry for Manav's money, well what's wrong with that. The poor lady never had anything in her life, useless Damo drunk away all their money. So when her son is earning well, there is nothing wrong in her buying jewelry, having a secretary, or whatever she wants to spend the money on, it's her right. That doesn't make her greedy, it makes her a normal human being. Archana too had a right on Manav's earnings because she is his wife. But she did not handle herself properly at times. If she felt it was ok to give Manav's money to save Sulo's house, or give it to Varsha for shopping, then she never should've refused the money to Vandu that too after Savita made it very clear that she should give the money. That was completely unbelievable that she did that.
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