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Mahabhootni thumbnail
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Posted: 13 years ago
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The forums for certain serials here are proof of the misogynistic crap that is spewing mostly from women about their abusive heroes. They will excuse everything and anything the male lead does and vilify the female lead for resisting his advances. It's super gross and the excuse for the support is that it's fantasy and it doesn't relate to real life. A massive falsehood. There are impressionable people out there who do think forcing women around is acceptable because that's what they see on the screen.

The govt. really needs to start standardizing rape trials. It would be a world of a difference for both the accuser and the accused (think Pinki's case).
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Yes!!! That is the show I was talking about...and when I mention it to my friends who also watch it...that bit just gets ignored...(whatsapp)...and in the past when I've brought it up...they always have tried To justify it, especially one friend.
Then again, she is the doormat in her relationship. She pretends she's not. But, he controls everything. So i guess, it's her coping mechanism...ohhh...this is romantic... -_-

After reading the above posts...Indian Penal Code sucks...and what's the deal with wearing Western clothing? It always IS the woman's fault.

Of course.

Movies and TV shows simply exploit our existing beliefs and further cement them in.
I hate watching shows with a brain sometimes lol


Sorry, typing on phone...excuse mistakes :)

Edited to include

Read through that post...LOL...some ppl telling u to go to the SJ forum...like it was some despicable forum where you talk about ghastly things
Some girls said they desired to be in Khushi's position...
They're all barely out of their teens. So many are like 12-15...just cuz the guy is good looking, ur going to give up all your self respect for him?

I did not get angry. I was just amused. And I pity them.
It was made clear that the gripe was with the way Arnav exerted his manliness...not that he was about to rape her...but these are little girls remember. Immature and silly. Just hope to God nothing like that ever happens to them, regardless of them wishing it did *shudder*
Then again, you do have that other show on Life OK about DV...so many girls want the lead actress to go back to her torturing husband because...wait for it...he's good looking.

Can't help anyone if they willingly close their eyes.
Edited by bewafa - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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@Bewafa: Yes, that particular show has a lot of objectionable stuff but there are tons of others too where forced marriages are glamorized.

If the lead was a moustached, middle aged, pot bellied guy (no offense to those who fit the description 😆) then there would be a revolt in the forums but since he isn't everything is forgiven for a pretty face. So, these shows are guilty of conditioning girls to believe stalking, emotional, verbal, physical abuse is a-okay if the couple is destined to be in love. And then people have the gall to ask if the relationship is abusive then why do women stick around. Well, if you've been brought up with the idea that true love is a good enough reason to excuse and forgive abuse then what do you expect them to do.



Edited by Mahabhootni - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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This conversation reminds me of one I had with one of my cousins when she was 16. She was talking about why we are prejudiced against a person because he works a menial job - that was immediately after seeing Raja Hindustani. I was like you don't mind the heroine marrying the driver because it is Aamir Khan, but if you are so idealistic you are free to go and marry our own driver. Somehow she didn't take me up on the offer.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: Mahabhootni

@Bewafa: Yes, that particular show has a lot of objectionable stuff but there are tons of others too where forced marriages are glamorized.


If the lead was a moustached, middle aged, pot bellied guy (no offense to those who fit the description 😆) then there would be a revolt in the forums but since he isn't everything is forgiven for a pretty face. So, these shows are guilty of conditioning girls to believe stalking, emotional, verbal, physical abuse is a-okay if the couple is destined to be in love. And then people have the gall to ask if the relationship is abusive then why do women stick around. Well, if you've been brought up with the idea that true love is a good enough reason to excuse and forgive abuse then what do you expect them to do.


That argument with my friend reached no conclusion, when others joined in because, "he wasn't going to rape her"..."how do you know she didn't want it?"...oh you know, eyes clenched shut...head tilted back...accusing the guy of batameezi...but reaction was "well, how else was he supposed to act?he had tried all other means"...I'm taking a break from them.

When I mentioned the incidence to "non-viewers"...I got the opposite reaction..."what a loser" etc etc

Dude, that same show has this guy called Shyam...he claims to love Khushi too...but everyone gets disgusted at him when he fell for Khushi...EVEN when we didn't know he was married. He wasn't the conventional, macho hero types.

You're right. Women stick around because that is their idea of romance. The friend I told you about? She is a doormat in a her relationship, her bf reckons women < men. She pretends it doesn't exist, but she is only deluding herself. The other friend who supported her? Her ex was abusive and she stayed until HE dumped her.

So of course, these girls have a warped idea of romance. That is how they shall lead their lives. I'm just glad the other friend found someone totally amazing though.

Sometimes, try as you might, you really cannot help your near and dear ones. Least I know a red flag when I see it.


LOL, I know aiye, many examples of this "machoness". I remember when Prem in KZK was believed to have raped Mukti...the fan girls were fida..."I wish I was in place of Mukti"...I don't even know whether to be angry or just shoot myself in the head -_-

*please excuse all forms of typos and grammar and everything. It is quite late/early here and I am 'brainfried'*


Edited by bewafa - 13 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Married or unmarried, women in India do not have a right to say no once they have said yes. I am not talking about specific cases, but this is the general public view.

In my college days, took this guy as a bf... things didn't work out, and I told him that just within a few months or so. Believe me or not, he would publicly say disrespectful stuff to me, and no one ever came forward to help.. Those were the engineering students of those days.
Anyways, decided to help myself, one day when he stopped me on my way to somewhere. I called a security guard to help me out. This guy tells him to go away because he knows me, and the guard goes away!

So, later I decide to complain against this security guard ( i complained against this guys as well, but that's a long story) and the response I got is that the guard has 100 things to do, he is not sitting there to help you out..

India is one of the most dangerous place in the world for women. There was a news item like that - google it if u haven't seen it. I have lived as single women in the US, I felt much safer there. If any incidents happened, I have seen guys coming forward to help out the victim. It is rare in India.

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