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madhusidh

@madhusidh

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Posted: 13 years ago

Sorry for my very very very poor English. (I dont konw hindi.) But im a big fan of BV

Finally Gouri gets her legal status very very easily.

I m a Indian women. i love indian tradition. (one for one). Generally there is a lots of chances for falling love with another girls in any age. In ladies its very rare.

So anybody marry any married men and provide divorce notice to first wife. its right????? (first wife children future will be affected. )

Our Indian ladies are very emotional. they fight for their husband. They wont lose their husband at any cost. They try to show the second's (like gouri) character, habits, bad behavior to their husband.

Also the evil girls like only money. In this case also gouri wants money, property. So the wife give money or asset to the girls and settled.

If gouri love is true... then she encourage jagat and develop his carrier. But she spoil his life totally.

if gouri love is true, she respect his wishes, feelings and his family even they insult her.

Anandi also provide more freedom and space to jagat. its wrong. she must inform their parents in the starting period. But she lives silent only. 50% fault is Anandi side.

My opinion is Anandi should wait for her husband. Because 17 years love is very strong. Not easy to accept a new man and no chance for another love. In this period she develop her village.

Because Gouri cannot live with jagat. He will return his family in very very very short period. she is not worth for living indian wife. Jagat realise his mistake and beg Anandi for forgive.

I m a tamil girl. in my point i cannot digest divorce. I think Anandi and Jagya is the right pair. Right husband and wife. Gouri cannot break 17 years pure love. Fight between husband and wife is natural. Many family lives happily after these situation. 4/10 family face these situation.

If Divorce is happen.. there is wrong message to younger generation. They should motive girls for how to fight the evils. Escape(Divorce) is not right solution.

Sorry for my post. Because 99% people wants Anandi divorce and remarriage.

Last night i cannot sleep. 17 years love going to waste. what is the value for true love?????

Sorry for my post.

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earth1978

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Posted: 13 years ago

if a person can dump u for no fault of urs how come this is true love?

it was never a true love.

personally if i were in anandi's place i would never want the cheating husband back. why simpyl because i cannot sleep with him again. i cannto share my body and soul again with a man who touched and slept with another woman.

showing jaiya and anandi together after all this is cliched and sends the wrong messAGE TO THE society that a man can cheat and still the wife accepts him back.

it will just encourage men to go and have a nice time and come back when satisfied. if not then go out again.

it would be liek promoting a social evil and not love.

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atria

@atria

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Posted: 13 years ago

Hey you don't have to apologize for your post, this is an open forum. I agree with you that divorce is not a decision to be made lightly. But in Anandi's case it is definitely the best option. You talked about 17 years of pure love, and it surely was, from Anandi's side. But Jagya unfortunately has proven himself unworthy of that love. He has lied, cheated, insulted, humiliated and used Anandi. As such, it is best for her to have a fresh start, possibly with someone who will truly appreciate her. Yes, Gauri is unworthy of being a good wife, but Jagya is also unworthy of being a good husband, especially of a girl so good and pure as Anandi. So its best to let those two be in their destructive relationship where they destroy each others lives and let Anandi live her own life. Love for a second time is possible, and it is not wrong if approached in a mature fashion, so Anandi should find someone else, and Jagya Gauri should be punished for their sins. If you talk about men who come back to their wives after a failed affair, there are also men who never come back and the first wives just waste away their lives waiting. Why should Anandi wait for the man who doesn't deserve her? She should get a chance at happiness too, isn't it?😊

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veena

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Posted: 13 years ago

if a person can dump u for no fault of urs how come this is true love?

it was never a true love.

showing jaiya and anandi together after all this is cliched and sends the wrong messAGE TO THE society that a man can cheat and still the wife accepts him back.

it will just encourage men to go and have a nice time and come back when satisfied. if not then go out again.

it would be liek promoting a social evil and not love.

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earth1978

@earth1978

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Posted: 13 years ago

@ above ...

also why should the wife accept the man back. and be a willing body to someone who has crushed her feelings so bad.

yehi to hota aaya hai aajtak. thats why this society is male dominated.

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madhusidh

@madhusidh

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Posted: 13 years ago

How many gents live only RAMA????. 5/10 goesto the wrong place and wrong connection. 1/100 setup their 2 nd wife(????) temproary.

Same situation in my friend life. She married an Engineer after finishing +2 & 2 girl kids. After 10 years latter, her husband falls love with another man's wife. She also have a 2 kids. one boy and one girl. That girl's husband cuts his wife relationship. So very easy for my frnd husband. Now He arrange a new house and buy a textile shop for her.

Now she is in her Mom's house. She is very very innocent. She cannot earn large money for her children. Her brothers helps their expenses. In this situation her remarriage is possible??????. She was totally upset. she cannot move any way. Any guarantee for 2nd marriage success????

Suppose her family tries remarriage...Nobody wants her with kids.

So still she wait for her husband. She have more confident. One day he will come and ask forgive.

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earth1978

@earth1978

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Posted: 13 years ago

it is sad to know that. anandi her eis not a mother.

also even for ur friend ... itis dire financial crisis which makes u wish her husband comes back.

but ...nt love.

it was never love if he dumped his wife with two girls.

yes want him back for money , for support , for social reasons but not for love.

fortunately in case of anandi these are not the concerns. hence we can hope for a better future.

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atria

@atria

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: madhusidh
How many gents live only RAMA????. 5/10 goesto the wrong place and wrong connection. 1/100 setup their 2 nd wife(????) temproary.

Same situation in my friend life. She married an Engineer after finishing +2 & 2 girl kids. After 10 years latter, her husband falls love with another man's wife. She also have a 2 kids. one boy and one girl. That girl's husband cuts his wife relationship. So very easy for my frnd husband. Now He arrange a new house and buy a textile shop for her.

Now she is in her Mom's house. She is very very innocent. She cannot earn large money for her children. Her brothers helps their expenses. In this situation her remarriage is possible??????. She was totally upset. she cannot move any way. Any guarantee for 2nd marriage success????

Suppose her family tries remarriage...Nobody wants her with kids.

So still she wait for her husband. She have more confident. One day he will come and ask forgive.

Sorry about your friend. But this story is precisely why the show needs to take a stand and show that remarriage of a woman divorced for no fault of hers is a GOOD thing. That instead of pining away for a man who has cheated her, she can start life afresh. That is the only way women like your friend will be able to have a more fulfilling life. Otherwise women like your friend are simply condemned to live alone by society, stigmatized by divorce, while the men just restart their lives without a thought for them.

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madhusidh

@madhusidh

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Posted: 13 years ago

This is not Jagya's eyes. This is Gouri's eyes.. Gouris words... Gouris wishes... Some people have no brain acting as copycat manners. Jagya & Anandi love is true 17 years. His olden days they lives more understanding and love. So that Anandi can slap Jagya. Otherwise Jagya return slap to Anandi. Little fight may be happen. Also Jagya give some respect to Anandi then only Jagya listen her words after slapping. Normally after slapping, many people goes to fight with that person. But Gouri inject Bad thinking to jagya every second. So this is not jagyas eyes.

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hooked

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Dear Madhusidh,

Am sorry for your friend - but hope she learns that marriage is not a solution to life from this experience. And also hope that she finds some way to earn - she must be having some skill set, she can learn some work, but she shud go out and get back on her own feet. Today her brother is supporting her, but tomorow when he too has a family and - God forbid - he has to chose between the demands of his sister and his wife, where will she go then ?

Hope your friend finds a way to get some amount of financial independence and learns that she has to raise her daughters to be self -sufficient too. A good marriage is no guarantee of life long support in this day n age. Assume he had not strayed, assume he had been unfortunate in a road accident - then ? Who wud have supported her ?

Everyone eventually has to find the strength to support themselves.

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Anandi is self-sufficient, well-off and much loved by all except J. She thinks she has enough to live by, and I support her decision.

In fact, now, Jagya is the one who will have to think for himself what he had and what all he has lost. and Why ?

He had a loving n supportive family

He had a loving n supportive friend and spouse.

He had a future full of prospects.

People smiled at him and gave him respect when he met them when he was Haveli ka Ladesar.

Today, where is he ?

He was rude to his family and his spouse and repeatedly so - and they don't love him anymore.

He gets greeted with derision in his village. No one wants to stop n chat with him, instead - people try to avoid meeting eyes so they won't hv to talk to him.

He was rude to the Dean and has very dim future prospects. (He might have to really really apologise to the dean and beg him to prove himself and give him one more chance to show he is worthy and capable)

WHY ? What did he get after losing all this ?? Was what he got - worth this price ???

This is what he has to wonder about. Hope he can find some answers.

Edited by hooked - 13 years ago