The flash back of Aaryas...

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evasumi

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Posted: 13 years ago

Though I have written this in the friday's review I still wanted to make it separate post to know more thoughts on this topic...

Here I want to mention few things about Aarti's flashback'

In each and every flashback we have seen Prashant and Aarti they were shown with some kind of physical relationship' If I want to describe in one word it would be consummate'

I think they did not take time to understand or build relationship but outwit each other which led to consummate the moment in passion and that is why they could not understand each other even after a year of relationship and Prashant saw her as a woman who wants to have her own way and who is controlling and just in herself too much. ( and that is what he exactly told Aarti on the step of Mandir...)

And Aarti wanted to force the obligation of his parents and the baby to stay with him but nothing moved Prashant.. the relationship just falls apart cause it was not built on the foundation of understanding and trust..

Also Aarti did not wear saree when she is seen with Prashant that also indicates that she did not mold herself fully as a wife or a DIL.

So whenever she remembers him she never remembers any of her wedding ceremony or the pheras or any promises during the wedding but all she remembers is the passion element which existed between Prashant and her and her outwitting him and he just giving her false satisfaction of winning.. There was not much sincerity in their relationship on Prashant side as he never took Aarti seriously. There was a lack of respect and honor in their relationship. She openly seduced and enticed him and he cunningly just side tracked her.

So when Prashant was leaving Aarti told him that he could not have been hers as he did not even care for his own parents' So there was lack of respect between them.

And I think that is why she readily accepted Mansi's motto that all men want physical relationship because that is what she got in her relationship with Prashant. So her past experience was telling her the same thing and so she saw Yash in the same light till she knew the whole truth about him..

Whereas every time when they have shown Yash and Arpita's relationship it was regarding true marriage' the sincere pheras' the love and understanding they share and building of the relationship and understanding.

Arpita was witty too and with her witty nature she blew Yash away but at the same time she knew how to read Yash and how to take care of his need. As Yash liked the shirt without a crease she would iron it again. With catering to her husband needs and knowing where all his stuffs were she would take care of the kitchen duty too being the perfect wife and perfect DIL.

Yash also would watch her glowing face full of happiness making the meal for his daughters and share his joy with her. They did have differences and different liking but love never stops between them. They respected each other and come together with more love and understanding..

Yash and Arpita going for their 2nd honeymoon and She was blushing like a new bride wearing that modern outfit.. and she refused to go out in that even though they were far away from family.. She had complete trust in her husband that he would never ever forget her because she resides in his heart and Yash also was totally steadfast in the love, Yash respects her thoughts and her attitude

Where as Aarti though becomes bold and offers herself her husband does not respects her wishes and she might be misundestood as demanding... and I think her husband may not have respected this bold moves of hers...

With Yash and Arpita... The nok jok at the bedtime to sleep on the side was another example of their love and understanding... Yash only like the right side.. Arpita knows this but she always teases him and tries to take his place knowing very well that he will push her from his side..

The way Aarti called Prashant a cheater and the way Arpita call Yash cheater had a huge difference...

Prashant when cheated Aarti from that momnet of love does not seen reconcile with Aarti and the word on his mouth stays as cheater in real sense.. He actually stole that moment of love and adoration from his wife. He only gave her important when he needed to give..

Where as Arpita calls Yash cheater and even starts hitting him with the pillow has a moment of reconciliation... Yash showering his love on Arpita and taking her in his arms and cuddling her lovingly..

So at the end of the day Aarti may have lost that moment of love with her husband but Arpita got what her husband lovingly gave her..

Edited by evasumi - 13 years ago

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disha

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Posted: 13 years ago

great analysis...👍🏼
i thought the same😉

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LuvStrk-001

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Posted: 13 years ago

Great analysis Eva on the flashback!!👏

Lovely post!!!😊

Liked it!!!!!!!!😛

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jikky_84

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Posted: 13 years ago

Great thought Eva😊

yes, i too think Yash and Arpita were very much happily married, yes there may be differences but that will be there in any relation, but there love could overcome that and they were ready to do things to make the other happy.

Whereas Prashant only used Arati when he needed her😡

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angake

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Posted: 13 years ago

Eva, very interesting take on the flashbacks.

Just wanted to point out somethings I thought was interesting.

Aarti wearing a Sari as a Scindia DIL as opposed to her wearing salwar/kameez as a Dubey DIL :

To me, Aarti not wearing a sari when with Dubey's do not portray her inability to mould herself as a wife and DIL at all.

In fact what that tells me is that she is a very good reader of situations. I feel the only thing she completely misjudged was Yash's character. I have lots of theories for it but that is for another day.😃

There is a world of difference between the Dubeys and the Scindias. Shobha is a very progressive mother in law. So for her it probably didn't matter at all wether Aarti wore a Sari or Salwar. On the other hand, Gayatri is a stickler for tradition and if Aarti was to wear a Salwar/kameez in the Scindia house she will probably never hear the end of it. Besides she has always seen Vidhi dressed very traditionally and she took her cue from it that, that is the ways to dress as a Scindia DIL. Where as with Shobha she knew that it didn't matter. And knowing how much Aarti loved Prashant and also how much she cares for the Dubeys, if her wearing a Sari was important to them, I think she would have definitely done that. I really don't think the Dubeys cared what Aarti wore. With the Scindia's it is totally different.

Arti's seduction:

I agree that Aarti and Prashant did not have understanding and trust as a foundation for their relationship. But Aarti's little seductive act, I did not see her being dominating at all. I don't think men always has to be the ones to initiate physical intimacy. If Prashant was not comfortable with it then it says more about him than Aarti. To me, it says he just was an insecure person not just emotionally but also insecure about his masculinity. And when you are insecure the first thing you want to do is make yourself feel better by putting down the other person and making the other person feel worthless. And that is exactly what Prashant did in the temple. And also in the flashback where he leaves her standing in front of the bathroom. Somehow he feels he has the upperhand by treating her that way. To me that says more about what a jerk Prashant is than anything else.

Now if Aarti's little seduction scene was to be played out again with Yash I think it would be a totally different story. Yash is very secure in his masculinity. If Aarti wanted to take the lead I doubt if he would ever consider her as being dominant. I think unlike Prashant, Yash already respects Aarti's outspokenness.

Yash and Arpita:

Yes, I found Yash and Arpita's flash back very cute. Although I still feel something is just not quite right in their relationship. We will just have to wait and see what the CVs have in store for us.

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evasumi

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Posted: 13 years ago

Angake thank you so much for your indepth analysis.

Aarti not waring a Sari...

Yes the point you included were right..

But many things they showed about Aarti in the flashback and in the presnt does show that she is spirited young woman..

Like the way she dealt with Pratik when he went to ask for the money... Taking a hocky stick and drving him off the property.. She told her FIL that she knows how to deal with the scoundrels.

The way she talked with Yash on the phone.

She had a valid point while talking with Yash but her behavior was rude.

Also if you see her son he copied word to word of her mother in the same tone when she was talking with Pratik and this habit of Ansh reflects in his behavior with Gayati too. She has to keep on telling him Ansh we can not do like that but he keeps on being insolent because he may have seen his mother doing the same...

In the flashback the way she behaved in the garden making the crowd go after Prashant... and than let Prashant run after her and give her that show of affection. She allured him to come after her. It was like cat and mouse game between them... that shows little bit immaturity in their relationship.

What I mean to say is that Aarti does have that tendency to have her own ways too I mean the tendency of winning... the tendency of giving challange and than getting what she wanted... It was like she had to do the working to keep Prashant engaged with her.. Otherwise if they were in so much love how could he fall out of her love so easily. Becasue after being pregnant she might not have been able to give him more time and that is why he just wandered away from her because she was preoccupied with her pregnancy... and he lost interest in her.. so his love was only up to physical level..

And you are absolutely right that comparing to Aarti he was too weak. He could not handle Aarti. Aarati was strong physically as well as mentally and I think in their relationship she must be correcting his mistake all the time and that made him irritated and than he purposely start taunting her with harsh words knowing it will hurt her. And Aarti knows that he is being unfair to her but still kept on pacifying him with more love but he thinks just nothing of her love but thinks it in totally opposite way..

Yes it is nothing wrong in a married relationship if a wife takes a lead but Prashat did not read it right and accuse her of being a woman who just sees only herself..

Yes she had good relationship with his parents because the parents also knew the weakness of Prashant and sided with Aarti that also made Prashant made that in that area also she took over.

So at the step of mandir when Prashant told to stop her melodrama.. He had no respecct for her. In fact his voice was full of disgust at her plea and it was so hearbraking to see a woman's love being rejected because of one's weakness.

Edited by evasumi - 13 years ago

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aditibd

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Posted: 13 years ago

gr88888 post. ya totally agree with u.

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angake

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: evasumi
Angake thank you so much for your indepth analysis.

But many things they showed about Aarti in the flashback and in the presnt does show that she is spirited young woman..

Like the way she dealt with Pratik when he went to ask for the money... Taking a hocky stick and drving him off the property.. She told her FIL that she knows how to deal with the scoundrels.

The way she talked with Yash on the phone.

She had a valid point while talking with Yash but her behavior was rude.

Also if you see her son he copied word to word of her mother in the same tone when she was talking with Pratik and this habit of Ansh reflects in his behavior with Gayati too. She has to keep on telling him Ansh we can not do like that but he keeps on being insolent because he may have seen his mother doing the same...

What I mean to say is that Aarti does have that tendency to have her own ways too I mean the tendency of winning... the tendency of giving challange and than getting what she wanted... It was like she had to do the working to keep Prashant engaged with her.. Otherwise if they were in so much love how could he fall out of her love so easily.

Eva, just wanted to respond to couple of your points. It is pretty long. I apologize. 😃

I think you can find the answer to your question in the question itself. I think Aarti was very much in love and very committed to Prashant. I don't think Aarti fell out of love with Prashant. But Prashant fell out of love with Aarti. And I think the reason is that he was never in love with her in the first place. He was probably infatuated with her. Once his infatuation was sated he didn't want to take the trouble to sustain the relationship.

After Prashant and Aarti met in the temple, many of us thought that Aarti was probably like Vidhi. Too involved with her in laws and too busy being a bah that she may not have given enough attention to Prashant, especially since she was an orphan and she probably craved for a family. But the last flashback disproved that theory. It was clear that she made an effort to fulfill her 'wifely duties' so to speak. I do believe that when a relationship breaks down both people involved has a role to play in its failure. However in Prashant and Aarti's case I feel that while Aarti may have had some faults, Prashant is the main reason why the relationship failed. They obviously lacked communication between themselves. But how much would have communication helped if Prashant didn't want the relationship anymore. Maybe the CVs will give us more clues on why exactly Aarti and Prashant's relationship failed.

Now coming to Aarti, I totally agree with you. I think she has a lot of spirit. But I wouldn't call that dominating or Aarti having a tendency to have her own way. Nothing about Aarti has suggested that to me. Ever since the wedding ceremonies have started, she has given in to various unfair demands. If she was a dominating person, she would have never accepted Aarpita's parents request to change her name to Arpita. She would have never accepted the Kangans. She would have never politely gone and requested Aarpita's parents to let the Dubey's do the Kanyadhan. If she was dominating she would have never given in to Dubey's blackmailing. I don't see her as dominating at all.

Coming to the way she spoke to Yash the very first time on the phone, I think she was a little justified in speaking that way. As per her conversation with Yash, we know that the Dubeys had already told the supervisor about whatever issue they had. Then she sees Pratik and his friend coming to ask for money and they weren't exactly polite. She feels responsible for the Dubey's and she stood up for them thinking she is protecting them from the Scindia's unfair demands. And then after all that she receives Yash's call asking for the money. So yes the girl lost her temper. In the context of the situation I think her behavior is quite justifiable. And I think Yash as always read the situation very well and understood that they were unknowingly unfair on her family.

As for her behavior with Ansh, yes I am not happy with the way she deals with Ansh. She needs to draw boundaries for him as far as his behavior is concerned.

But does that make her dominating and wanting to have her own way? I don't think so. I think it makes her a very indulgent parent who is trying to overcompensate for Ansh lacking a father's love.

As you can tell, I am pretty much in love with this character. 😃 Trust me I am not defending everything she does especially misjudging Yash's character so grossly 😡but I think we are probably being unfair to her character when we say that Prashant left her because she was a spirited young woman. The most likely reason he left her was because he was an insecure person. 😡

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evasumi

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Posted: 13 years ago

Hey Angake you know I love your review more than anything.. and I love to read it when it is too long... it is a total pleasure for me..

Yes I can agree with you on some point but on few I still feel that she is too outspoken just as Ansh is..

I think due to Prashant's weakness Aarti must have told him manytimes what he should be doing when she sees him doing something wrong. and that must have made him irritated cause I do not think he must have like to listen that he was wrong.. and Aarti was already in the comfort zone with him she would not hesitate to tell the truth and in all that Shobha would stand with her as she would be right..

These incidents must have been too often making Prashant totally put off by Aarti and he started to seek his comfort somewhere else who would pampared his worthless ego... Cause at home he had his calm father who loved him and may have overlooked his mistakes but he had two spirited women who would not overlooked his mistakes but would tell him what he was doing wrong...

I think It was shobha who put the lid on Aarti's anger and outspeaking personality during the wedding.

Aarti trusted Shobha and knew that she would always speak in behalf of her and that is why she always kept quite when went in front of Schindhia to appeal for any change.. She may have wanted to say something but the autocratic Pa Schindhia did not want to listen and he also made such comment on this wedding being the 2nd wedding for Aarti that Shobha had to keep quite... and Aarti just followed the lead of her MIL Shobha and kept quite but she was as disturb and angry as any person at the injustice being done with her family..

When the Kanyadan was taken over then Aarti had her angry outburst in her room... She did not take that decision quitely but It was Shobha who acted wisely and took her to Arpita's mom where she went and presented her plea but when they all went to Schindhia Aarti and Shobha looked like they were obecting once again and Pa Schindhia was mad at them but Arpit'as mother's plea with joined hand did the work.

On every question Shobha was her leader and she was the one who signaled her to hold her peace otherwise she was about to argue in front of Pa scindhia... I would not have mind it at that time but her angry outburst would not have solved the problem..

Yes she took all that was thrown at her but she did not take it quietly and If Shobha was not there to smooth the things out as she did not want to lose the focus from her main goal and that is to wed Aarti and Yash..

Here I am not saying that what Aarti did was wrong... If I was on her place I would have walked out with my son at that time and may not have listen to even my mom's pleading.. But Shobha knew what was best for Aarti and that is to keep quite at the moment as she just wanted to let this wedding be complete and establish Aarti in that household as she trusted her instinct about Yash...

What I mean to point here is that if it was left on Aarti alone to handle all this high voltage emotional drama...this wedding would not have happened as her free spirit and outspoken mind would not have taken all that nonsense..

But she does have a compassonate heart and she understood what the mother of Arpita must be feeling and that is why she did not want to deny a grieving mom's wish and accepted the kangan and that also after direct order from her MIL..

Yes I do love Aarti and her heart of a mother and her fairness in dealing with everything and also her very compassionate heart.. along with her courage and outspoken personality.. but I also know that she is weak at some area which she will learn here at Schindhia... and that makes her a very interesting character to watch and to know how she will balance her understanding and her outspoken personality in this traditional autocratic family...

I think the way they have shown her in the past with Prashant or Dubeys that Aarti is not going to be seen here at Schindhia at all...

But once she will come in her comfort zone with Yash she will be able to voice what she is feeling untill than she will be as in Scindhia family not even sons raise their voice..

Edited by evasumi - 13 years ago

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