The difference between like and love

I've suddenly become philosophical today. So please bear my ramblings..

Like and Love - That's what I am going to write about now.. The reason I think that Ahem and Gopi will have a mature realtionship when compared to Rashi and Jigar..

In case of GoHem, their relationship started with devotion and love from Gopi's side and dislike from Ahem. There is no question of Gopi disliking Ahem. She actually does not dislike anybody.

But we have seen how Ahem has come over his dislike to respect and even unknowingly fall in love with Gopi.. I like this better than just falling in love suddenly. Love is a powerful and potent potion. It is also a double edged sword. See for example the relation between Kokila and Parag. I am pretty sure that Kokila would have loved Parag during the initial days of her marriage. Until she disliked his lack of working skills. That dislike has led to her disrespect and at times her scorn him for his uselessness. So love is not always enough to make a marriage work. It needs more than just love.

Yes. A couple need to have a loving relation and passion is also important but mutual like and respect also play equal roles in a happy marriage.. Something I can see developing between Ahem and Gopi now. Because of this mutual like and respect, Ahem will be able to compromise on Gopi's faults easily and Gopi can do vise versa with Ahem without the fear of ever becoming disillusioned with their marriage.

Coming to Rashi and Jigar..Today's episode showed how Jigar is also melting towards Rashi. But the problem is that the real reason for their fight never got discussed. Yes, for now Jigar may overlook her fault and error of ways because he saw her do good for the bird but for how long can the reality be buries? Just until something else blows up. How can Jigar get over his dislike for the person she is?

Now because Rashi did not actually change or feel remorse for her actions, she will continue to do things that Jigar abhors. Similarly, when Rashi gets Jigar's attention back, how long before she feels he is not the person who she wants him to be? The basic point is, Rashi and Jigar may love each other or feel attracted to each other but their basic aims in life and their outlook are both different. They do not have respect nor do they have an actual liking to each other's nature. Hence even small errors will always be blown up between them.. Yes. Jigar is sweet. He can actually make this relation work if he wants to. But isn't marriage a 2 person job? What do you guys think?

Hi Harini,

Well I did not think I would enter into such a serious convo but here I am infact today has been my day for thought provoking moments so in answer to your musing I might ramble onnn taking liberties here let me start

I think the most imp in any relationship be it parent/child friend but most of all significant other is TRUST.

Thats why the RaJi relationship bugs me. They did not have a misunderstanding she cheated broke his trust and Jiger comes out as soft hearted but more balanced human. Unlike Gopi he is not gullible, yet her one act with a pegeon and a couple of hand touching and he is bowled over ...I think not.

Apart from the trust I think all what you mention mutual like respect love and passion.

Passion is very clear apart from the fact that for most men it is purely physical where as for women it is the emotional that tends to manifest in the physical.

RESPECT is paramount because unless u respect your partner you will never be able to respect your reltionship and there fore yourself and I think it is that which lies as a big (humongous) chip on Koki's shoulder.

Love is again a very transient emotions and open to interpretation. Each persons idea of love differs and expression of same an understanding of this is what a couple need how the other defines it, understands it and finally expresses it so you can give and recieve with ease.

LIKE now heres the biggie...I often tell my partner I love you but am not liking you very much at this moment...So not everything about your partner needs to be likable...the core ones withstanding

the other tug between the likes and dislikes and the balancing of the same is what brings understsanding and in my opinion ignites a blazing passion and keeps it burning

For whats better than making up after a nasty fight to keep the fireworks rolling!!!!!!

Yes.. Its Trust.. to the T.. And again for GoHem, this trust is developing slowly. Gopi after a year and a half is now trusting herself to talk about various issues to Ahem. She also trusts him to understand and help her out(this seems to be a recent development that just crept on us.. Gopi talks to Ahem freely without worrying)

RaJi are lacking the essentail ingredients needed for a long lasting, enduring realtionship. Attraction is important but there needs to be a deep and meaningful understanding between both that will get them through their life together.

As it stands now, they have views and values that are diametrically opposed which doesn't bode well.

GoHem on the other hand have overcome hardships to have a relationship now that is friendly at least. Their values are similar and they have the trust in each other now to help them carry their life forward!!

but in ur first post i found the essential thing for marriage being missed out... but read tangam's and ur second post as well...

in Korag case... i don't think she ever loved him... as she sees him at fault for not working and when u start seeing the fault in another person then there is no place for love... if u love someone... u accept the person with all his faults... but koki never seem to be acceptable of parag's poetry...she always saw his poetry as a drawback ...there is no trust between them what so ever...

In Gohem case... gopi loved Ahemji irrespective of his harsh behaviour towards her... now it's taking a new turn with both having mutual respect and trust which will be the foundation for their unconditional love...

i think this is the most serious and complicated post or discussion i was ever involved...😆...

it's to big for my brain... i am on the lighter,... funny and witty side definitely not on the thinking side😆

Wo quite a topic difference b/w like & love...requires some thinking...

Ummm Ahem liked Anita but never loved her. There was passion, in their relationship which I think is a very volatile but transient emotion...that's why the life span of that relationship was very short lived. Coming to Gohem they have seen & experienced each other beyond their masks. I guess their shared need for combat kept them together. Gopi had accepted Ahem the way he was at that time wound- licking egocentric take-charge kind. Though Ahem never accepted or loved her previously but now has completely accepted her & is trying to understand her. True love is acceptance & understanding of flaws....Our dear Gohem have done Postdoc in that.

A true relationship can go forward only when there is compassion then friendship follows & that leads to compromise. This is what is happening with Gohem now.Looking at them we can say...Friendship is the best basis of love...sure romantic love is wonderful thing. And sexual chemistry is electric but friendship is the solid foundation that keeps the relationship going. Ahem with his true friendship is trying to impress & pull Gopi through when she is down & under coz of Koki mom. Gopi coz of true friendship is becoming bit courageous & is trying to share all her hopes & desires with Ahem. So when two people express themselves beyond their masks & roles to share hopes & hurts, dreams & disappointments. They are like 2 climbers involved simultaneously in a personal as well as a shared adventure.

Raji love story is very flat …..no understanding & no friendship …Rashi was hiding behind a masks & Jigar thought that he & Rashi are friends but alas!...so it will be difficult to have a soul devouring love story here.

I agree that love not only gives but also forgives but not so fast Jiggy.

I have always felt that out of the two relationships GoHam will always be more successful then RaJi. Not only because of the nature and character of Gopi and Aham but also because their love was not an instant overnight sensation.

And not that there is anything wrong with that it can also lead to successful relationships. But they have grown together. They have been exposed to each others perceived and real faults from day 1. And their journey together has allowed them to discard the perceived faults and accept the real faults. And they have changed each other as well. So those faults are gradually becoming not so important anymore.

Their physical attraction has always been there. And had it not been for the various kalakaris committed against Gopi by UrShi and Kinjal and even Anita's phone call on his wedding day their relationship would not have had the trials that they endured. But those trials have actually been a blessing in disguise. They have been tried by fire and have come through not unscathed. But burning brightly with their inner convictions.

GoHam will be a force to be reckoned with. I reckon they will be the best pairing the Modi family will have in generations and their influence will spread far and wide.

RaJig started off as friends. And had Jigar married Sonal their paths would never have merged. Jigar has always hoped that the friendship would turn into love. And on his part it did. But he fell in love with in image. He fell in love with the girl his wife pretended to be. The reality is that she is a scheming vixen who never cared for him or his feelings and married him purely to advance her status in life.

Their journey together will be tough. And I am not sure why the CV's are showing him to to be so weak and crumbly every time she does something a bit impressive. He has been hurt. And hurt badly. Yes wounds like that do heal. But they leave scars that only fade away with time but never disappear. And then again Rashi has not actually redeemed herself. Indeed she hasn't changed at all. How will their relationship pan out when he realises he is just buying into the same image that deceived him before? Or will the CV's cop out and give her a miraculous personality change in the 2nd last episode?

OK I need a kit-kat now! 😆

And please no more serious topics on Friday! 🤣