So Mona's parents were insulted !! - Page 2

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

Fantasy , people have no problem with that . The problem arises when both the castes r pitted against each other on fundamentalist issues and she forces HER side to take a backseat when its not their fault and they r simply being what they r . For instance , people got bugged that they were told to go home when they simply came to wish Happy Diwali . Very rudely too . No one gave them mithai , no one wished them .They were simply told to leave as they r from ANOTHER caste and Mona supported it . Could not they have shown that Mona continues with the lies but insists that although they r Punjabis they should be respected ?

To this date , whenever I have visited ANY Gujrathi friends house for Diwali , I have not left it before eating the Mithai offered to me with warmth ...and hug of Happy Diwali . And Mind u , I eat onions .😆

Mona could have comtinued with the charade by winking at her parents but put her foot down respecting her culture too was the simple expectation .

As u said ...Go to Ur Rabba was a rather harsh remark .Turning up nose at Vimny for carrying an onion in HER house when it was Ketki who barged in her property was again too much . Naturally people get miffed .

Originally posted by: Fantasy_K

I agree with your entire post - you always make everyone agree anyway. 😆

However - like I said in my previous post, AMbaaji is the elder one - she should've taken care of it. No matter what play they were doing in front of her sister, she shouldn't forget that these are her daughter's in-laws. In any Hindu tradition, we always tend to give more respect to the girls in-laws and she NEVER forgets these things, then why now? Instead she just stood there trying to cover up. So fine, you don't want to acknowledge your children's in-laws but in my opinion, she should have walked over to them and in a soft tone asked them to leave now and she will explain later, perhaps throw in a couple of apologies. THAT would have been much better. Instead of Mona pushing them out and making it look like she has no care for her parents.

I'm not saying what they did was right or wrong - the way it was done was wrong because as an elder Ambaaji should've taken care of the situation.

Originally posted by: Fantasy_K

I agree that it was wrong and not funny but the whole point - from the way I see it, is she has no negativity in her mind while she's doing all this. Which is why I find people a little harsh towards Mona. I blame Ambaaji in this - this is her house, she should've stood up for her children. Mona is meek, we have seen her be quiet while she's being tortured by all, we have questioned why she never stands up for anything, yet everyone is blaming her for this. Has she ever been able to go against Ambaaji? No. Has she ever questioned whatever decisions Ambaaji makes? No. Sure, she's the one who said I'll become Gujarati - but I don't remember her saying or remotely denouncing her punjabi heritage? Maybe I missed a scene. You can never take away anyone's hertiage/tradition/culture from them. No matter how hard Mona is trying to be Gujarati, you can still see she's uncomfortable doing it - she doesn't come accross flawless.

Originally posted by: tochukumari

Well said April and thanks for opening the thread about deception.
Saadhooji,
Thanks for informing about April's thread, I'm glad people do think Bedis were insulted by Mona.