Swasthi --Only UR respons can make me feel better!

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Posted: 14 years ago
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Hey Swasthi...Everyone on the forum are getting geared for Anitha to come back into Ahem's life...Not sure why do we need Anitha to make him realise his love for Gopi...is a 3rd party required to realise/ necessary to make a husband fall in love with his wife 😭!!!!
Is Ahem going to compare both the girls on their qualities & then make a choice...then this cannot be called as Love...Love is something you feel for the other person which no logic can justify...Here also we see that Ahem started caring for Gopi only after she put in efforts to study & overcome her drawbacks🤢...he has not shown that he has loved or will love her unconditionally with all her drawbacks...where as she has accepted him as he is 😡...
As usual Is Gopi going to have to go thru the tough times to reach out to Ahem & it will be a cake walk for Ahem to choose one of the girls😕??? If it has to be anyone who needs to go thru tough times...it has to be Ahem...he was the one who could not stand up for the girl he loves...He has already made Gopi suffer for a year assuming it is her who has spoiled his life...infact it is other way round...for all you know if had stood up for the girl he loved...Gopi would have got married to someone who could love her with all her drawbacks 😊...
If im asked...I want Ahem to go thru what all Gopi had to go thru to reach out for his love...all the efforts she had put in...all the humiliation 😆etc...Will he do that for her? Will he treasure her love so much that he can go thru all of this 😉? Why should it be that Gopi has to read the letter & feel miserable that because of her Ahem did not get married to the girl of his choice...Why should she go thru this at all...is it not Ahem who has to go thru this...
Though I do not want Anitha to comeback...but if she does...What role will Anitha play --- a positive one like Sonal ? or a negative one...Will her track also be there for 2 weeks or will it be prolonged...

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navyab thumbnail
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Though we are awaiting Swathi's response...it does not stop others from commenting 😉
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Hope to see some comments on this !!!
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Personally I don't feel that Ahem is falling in love with Gopi because she is changing herself for him.
The education track was vital for Ahem to realise the type of person Gopi is. She was unable to study in the past due to circumstances but she has shown herself willing to learn. This is a quality that Ahem respected. Also it has given them opportunities to be alone together and actually get to know each other.
Recently we have seen Ahem notice how Gopi is treated by the people she calls family. He noticed that Urmila wasn't that nice to Gopi during Rakshabandhan and also when Gopi sang at the pandal.
Ahem is falling in loe with Gopi for herself (she isn't exactly educated enough for Ahem to happy with her due to that).
Also if Anita comes back it should be to make him finally accept that he only loves Gopi and what he felt for Anita wasn't love - not to choose between two girls because one is more traditional and a better fit than the other.
Edited by NazmaJ - 14 years ago
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Posted: 14 years ago
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i agree that ahem has to suffer and face difficulties before he can get gopi.Right now i dont think he is in love with gopi.If he was in love he would have asked her to take a tablet or something for her cold.If the roles were reversed gopi would have done everything possible to make him feel better,but he just let it go.Gopi or for that matter any woman deserves so much more from a husband.we all need a husband who would always put us first and think about our emotional and physical needs.

Ahem to me is very selfish and arrogant.Gopi desrves someone better.Just a few looks and smiles doesnt make it love.In fact i feel jigar is much of a man than ahem.may be jigar was quiet for a while,but that was only because he had no complaints.but today he showed that indeed he is strong and has a backbone.jigar is a loving son too.also he knows more about gopi that ahem does.

i just wish instead of anitha ,they would bring in a male character vying for gopis attention.this would make ahem jealous and he can start realising the hell he put her through for the past year and half.

in my opinion nobody deserves a husband like ahem.
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Originally posted by: varshu27

i agree that ahem has to suffer and face difficulties before he can get gopi.Right now i dont think he is in love with gopi.If he was in love he would have asked her to take a tablet or something for her cold.If the roles were reversed gopi would have done everything possible to make him feel better,but he just let it go.Gopi or for that matter any woman deserves so much more from a husband.we all need a husband who would always put us first and think about our emotional and physical needs.

Ahem to me is very selfish and arrogant.Gopi desrves someone better.Just a few looks and smiles doesnt make it love.In fact i feel jigar is much of a man than ahem.may be jigar was quiet for a while,but that was only because he had no complaints.but today he showed that indeed he is strong and has a backbone.jigar is a loving son too.also he knows more about gopi that ahem does.

i just wish instead of anitha ,they would bring in a male character vying for gopis attention.this would make ahem jealous and he can start realising the hell he put her through for the past year and half.

in my opinion nobody deserves a husband like ahem.

I have a feeling that you have opened a can of worms here!!
We've seen Ahem changing and I believe that love is there.
He is concerned about Gopi but lets be fair she was only sneezing - we may see carign Ahem again tomorrow and we have seen it in the past too.
The way GoHem got married wasn't exactly ideal but slowly slowly things are getting better.
I see great potential in Ahem. When he finally realises he's in love I see him being possessive, caring and loving.
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Posted: 14 years ago
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The intriguing thing about Ahem is his journey of self discovery of himself. Through the course of the year and a bit we have seen him mature emotionally to a point where he is able to recognise Gopi's genuine effort and appreciate her good values.
Before he got married he imagined his world to be so different and the relationship he had with Anita he believed that this was a perfect one. When his mother told him on that faithful day of her finding his life partner, without any objection he accepted his future wife. If you remember he did not want to even see her photograph when he was told to. He accepted because he loves his mother and wants to see her always happy as he knews that she has his best interest in mind all the time.
With this he broke off his relationship with Anita telling her of his mum's future plans for him. It came to a point where she asked him to chose between his mum and her. This is when he dumped her to satisfy his mum's wish, leaving him in a state of quandary through his wedding period. That unfinished or incomplete emotional business has haunted him from time to time as we have seen him staring at a photograph of him and Anita and keeping that photograph with him. Also he had a flashback of her on his birthday too. Hence the need to bring final closure with her is needed for him to move on in his life.
We have learnt that his weakness is his attraction to Gopi. His fell for her the very first time he had seen her, with us seeing many eyelock scenes thereafter. However, upon him finding out about her illiteracy and we seeing the kalakaris acted out against her, this only worsened his view of her. He expected her to respond like any other girl would but much to his disbelief and state of confusion she did not. Through time and through different situations he has been gradually learning about her and her worth.
She has been the stablising factor for him who continued and continues to give him her unconditional love and support to his whole family.
Does he deserve such a person? Does he deserve to be able to make a choice? Should he be put through similar suffering and grief that he unleashed to her?
One thing for sure is that through this journey of self discovery he is lucky to be given this opportunity as many people are not in real life. Therefore his decision will be a deciding one for the betterment of his life.
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Posted: 14 years ago
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This is a great post and all of you have written so beautifully, thankyou! I thought Anita coming back was just a rumour!
In the days when Ahem did not act with one shred of decency or kindness towards Gopi, i too wished that it was better that they call off the marriage and Kokila find her another gorgeous hunk who would respect and love her back. I kinda thought that's what would happen when she was given a private male tutor - but on seeing the spectacled man that was old enough to be her father, all hopes of that went out the window!!

And now do i think the same? No, Ahem is fast falling for Gopi and their relationship is showing a new strength and genuinity that even the likes of Rashi and Urmila would find hard to break. I think that Ahem will just tell Anita to go away, as he is really going to make a go of it with Gopi. So her presence could be positive. However, if she is anything like her brother Umang, then she may be far more detrimental than Rashi and Urmila could ever hope to be.
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Originally posted by: swasthi

The intriguing thing about Ahem is his journey of self discovery of himself. Through the course of the year and a bit we have seen him mature emotionally to a point where he is able to recognise Gopi's genuine effort and appreciate her good values.

Before he got married he imagined his world to be so different and the relationship he had with Anita he believed that this was a perfect one. When his mother told him on that faithful day of her finding his life partner, without any objection he accepted his future wife. If you remember he did not want to even see her photograph when he was told to. He accepted because he loves his mother and wants to see her always happy as he knews that she has his best interest in mind all the time.
With this he broke off his relationship with Anita telling her of his mum's future plans for him. It came to a point where she asked him to chose between his mum and her. This is when he dumped her to satisfy his mum's wish, leaving him in a state of quandary through his wedding period. That unfinished or incomplete emotional business has haunted him from time to time as we have seen him staring at a photograph of him and Anita and keeping that photograph with him. Also he had a flashback of her on his birthday too. Hence the need to bring final closure with her is needed for him to move on in his life.
We have learnt that his weakness is his attraction to Gopi. His fell for her the very first time he had seen her, with us seeing many eyelock scenes thereafter. However, upon him finding out about her illiteracy and we seeing the kalakaris acted out against her, this only worsened his view of her. He expected her to respond like any other girl would but much to his disbelief and state of confusion she did not. Through time and through different situations he has been gradually learning about her and her worth.
She has been the stablising factor for him who continued and continues to give him her unconditional love and support to his whole family.
Does he deserve such a person? Does he deserve to be able to make a choice? Should he be put through similar suffering and grief that he unleashed to her?
One thing for sure is that through this journey of self discovery he is lucky to be given this opportunity as many people are not in real life. Therefore his decision will be a deciding one for the betterment of his life.

But Swasthi ----he made a choice of not knowing the girl before marrying...could be for his mother or for himself...so why punish the other person for his mistake...for being a husband...he did not even consider her as a human being...We see his feelings are changing towards Gopi...but why is it that he still gets to make a choice between Gopi & Anitha...In all fairness it has to be only Gopi not even Anitha (because she gave her choice up when she asked him to choose between her & his mom)...But with Anitha's track the only person who will / would suffer would be Gopi...

Not Sure if Gopi will put him through suffering...but he has to atleast become a shield ...her strength...her lover...protector ...anything which would touch /effect her...he should be the first one to take its impact...not the other way round where she would take the maximum impact & then in the end he says he loves her because Anitha is wicked...he should be able to stand by her even if another best person is around him...As he is going thru self discovery phase...the next phase should be one where he should allow his wife to discover him thru thick & thin times... What say???

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